Tom9999
I've suffered enough.
- Aug 27, 2019
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The way we are when we first leave home is a result of how we've been treated by the circumstances and people in our upbringing. We had no choice in how we turned out because as children we must shape ourselves to match our environment or we will suffer greatly, or even die.
Sometimes the person we became because of our upbringing doesn't work for us. Sometimes we suffer so much from this that we want to physically die.
However, another way to die at this point is to recover from our childhood by examining the effects it had on how we perceive ourselves and the world, finding what doesn't work, and replacing it with what does. In this way we consciously sculpt ourselves into someone better suited to the "real" world outside our upbringing.
Undergoing recovery work results in this "second self", one that we consciously create with the intent of enjoying life. This is in contrast to our "first self", one that we unconsciously created as a forced response to our upbringing.
Sometimes when I read posts from young people still at home or in college, and they speak of killing themselves, I wonder "They could also choose to kill themselves through recovery. They could then try the world using the second self they created as a result of the recovery process. This second self would have a much, much better chance of leading them to an enjoyable, fulfilled, and meaningful life. And if it didn't, they could then kill this second self physically, knowing they had given the world a second chance by doing the work necessary to remove the distortions of childhood and so meet the world in a stronger and more capable way."
Has this distinction - between the first self that is an unconscious response to childhood, and the second self that is a conscious response to rebuilding ones self to better interact with the world around us - ever occurred to you?
And do you see how instead of killing this first self physically, you can instead do it mentally through recovery, and therefore give yourself a true "second chance" at life by living it with your newly rebuilt second self, one that can greatly increase the chances of you leading a full and meaningful life?
Sometimes the person we became because of our upbringing doesn't work for us. Sometimes we suffer so much from this that we want to physically die.
However, another way to die at this point is to recover from our childhood by examining the effects it had on how we perceive ourselves and the world, finding what doesn't work, and replacing it with what does. In this way we consciously sculpt ourselves into someone better suited to the "real" world outside our upbringing.
Undergoing recovery work results in this "second self", one that we consciously create with the intent of enjoying life. This is in contrast to our "first self", one that we unconsciously created as a forced response to our upbringing.
Sometimes when I read posts from young people still at home or in college, and they speak of killing themselves, I wonder "They could also choose to kill themselves through recovery. They could then try the world using the second self they created as a result of the recovery process. This second self would have a much, much better chance of leading them to an enjoyable, fulfilled, and meaningful life. And if it didn't, they could then kill this second self physically, knowing they had given the world a second chance by doing the work necessary to remove the distortions of childhood and so meet the world in a stronger and more capable way."
Has this distinction - between the first self that is an unconscious response to childhood, and the second self that is a conscious response to rebuilding ones self to better interact with the world around us - ever occurred to you?
And do you see how instead of killing this first self physically, you can instead do it mentally through recovery, and therefore give yourself a true "second chance" at life by living it with your newly rebuilt second self, one that can greatly increase the chances of you leading a full and meaningful life?
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