any tips for feeling like this

[ghost_]

how do u stop feeling like u deserve the pain and the shit life hands u. how do u stop feeling like u deserve to ctb

if u have any tips please let me know

 

[bed]

No one deserves to be in pain or should feel like they have to ctb.

I would say it can come from your perception of self-worth. If you've been told throughout your life that you are worthless then you'll obviously believe that as a fact because that is all you know. Talking with a properly trained therapist that you connect with about your view on self-worth may help you reshape your view on the matter. Meditation may help as well. Easier said than done though.

I'd like to add, that your worth does not come from what you can give to society. Your worth comes from being you. I choose not to participate as much as I can in terms of societal standards.

 

[medjooled11]

I don't know, but let me know if you figure it out. Most days I wish for a hard beating. It's as if my pain isn't enough, and I need external physical pain.

 

[nopointofliving]

I suggest you do a small act of kindness such as feeding a stray animal, or water a plant. If you can be useful and important to any being, you don't deserve suffering. You're worthy, and valuable in life. hugs my friend <3

 

[Julgran]

It all depends on what your previous experience tells you. You might have taken part in a quarrel, or something similar, and somehow ended up with a guilty conscience - I don't know what, though.

Anyhow - try to think back to why you might think like this. If you can't find any reason at all, that would mean that we all deserve to feel guilty for our situations, which isn't always the case.

 

[cambrai33]

It's easy to feel no self worth and that you are a burden. To feel that you have been treated in life this way because you deserve it and nothing I can say will likely make you feel different because in truth I feel the same way

But…..

As was mentioned above so brilliantly, try and do something for a less fortunate than you, especially an animal, you are a kind emphatic person inside and even though you can't see it then perhaps this animal will and ultimately benefit

 

[Dragon's Heart]

I get angry which helps me be more assertive about what I deserve and don't deserve. The problem is that I also get very tired and cannot support any emotion at all at that point. Angry assertiveness doesn't usually come across too well on a social level so, unfortunately, it gets repressed quite often.