Anybody sometimes ignore texts because it’s too hard to respond?

[Final Escape]

I find myself doing this a lot these days. Leave people hanging or I don't say nothing and struggle to respond appropriately. It feels like apathy.

 

[okyeah]

i have 0 messages from anyone

 

[Sayo]

Yes, although it's less often from apathy and more frequently from avoidance and shame, which is a feedback mechanism. The less connected I feel to life, though, the less I feel inclined to interact with others. And I find myself struggling to respond appropriately or think about normal things properly.

 

[LifeSick]

Yes, I do that a lot, although it used to be worse in the past. It's getting worse again but I try my best to not lose the few friends and family I got left.

 

[RainAndSadness]

I find myself doing this a lot these days. Leave people hanging or I don't say nothing and struggle to respond appropriately. It feels like apathy.

Same. It's really hard to keep up with social interactions. It's just too exhausting. I also didn't respond to someone from this place who just recently ctb'd and I wish I would have found the time and strength and write them back in time.

 

[Distanzmensch]

Didn´t reply for days. Even said, that I don´t know what to say in some cases. I don´t know if it makes sense.

 

[littlelungs]

I feel that, Final Escape. I have different types of ignoring that I do as far as text messages are concerned... there's the "oh man, I can NOT deal with this right now" texts, the "I want to give this person a good response and I'm not capable of doing that right now because I'm depressed/moody AF" texts, the "I don't want this person to ask how my life is going because I suck at lying but I also don't want to talk about it" texts, and then there's just the flat-out "I really just don't feel like talking at the moment" texts.

Regardless, I feel pretty guilty when I don't respond, though. Most of the time it boils down to the fact that I really just don't know what to say at that time.

 

[RottingFlowerBrains]

90% of the time

 

[worldexploder]

I do that a lot because I'm afraid I may say sometging wrong.

 

[StillWaiting]

Yes I do that. Sometimes I feel that replying others require a lot of effort that I can hardly find the energy to do so.

 

[Dani Paradox]

Didn´t reply for days. Even said, that I don´t know what to say in some cases. I don´t know if it makes sense.

I hate that!!! I know exactly what you mean. Sometimes I'll want to respond SO bad...and I just have no idea what to say....Usually I'll sit there for however long it takes until I can come up with something.

 

[Dani Paradox]

I get like that often. It depends on my mood. I'm just SO drained and destroyed that I simply don't have the emotional energy sometimes. I always feel guilty that they may take it the wrong way and feel like I am ignoring them.

 

[BaconCheeseburger]

I try to tell people on this site that I've acknowledged their message but don't have the energy to respond.

People don't message that much but when they do, they ask how I'm doing and I say I'm not okay and then they just can't be assed with any more conversation. I'm finding that the urge to keep away from people is really strong.

 

[Schopenhauer]

I get no texts from anyone, except a few work-related messages. And I'd like to keep it that way. The constant interruption by messages drives me crazy.

 

[CJM]

Yep. Sometimes I just can't be fucked replying.

 

[your pathologist]

I ignore everyone who texts me. I dont know how to tell them I'm not okay. I dont know how to act like I'm not jealous that they are fine.

 

[Voldmort]

when I am depressed I ignore 70% of the posts and I answer 40% of those that I actually open to read the content.
but I like conversations.

 

[BjartNO]

There is no texts

 

[Tara2018]

Yes, sometimes I'm disappearing for weeks...

 

[nzdarkshark]

I barely touch my phone for texting. I don't have many friends, and my friends don't really text me. An..'ex' friend of mine used to be the only one who would text me - but I always didn't know how to respond because she had no filter and didn't understand me or my situation.

 

[Lra888]

Yes. I often don't have the energy to think up some excuse. Like if people invite me somewhere, ask where I've been, ask when I'm free, ask me how I am. I can't think of anything in response, if I say anything it'll invite more texts/questions.

 

[Dead_Inside]

Yep. And they stopped texting me. So problem solved.
I only have one real friend who I talk to. They never gave up and I will always try for them- because having anyone in your life who has never fucked you over is amazing. I must have done something right in a past life .

 

[Lra888]

Yep. And they stopped texting me. So problem solved.
I only have one real friend who I talk to. They never gave up and I will always try for them- because having anyone in your life who has never fucked you over is amazing. I must have done something right in a past life .

Exactly. After I ignore people for a while they get the hint and stop. Probably tell everyone i'm an asshole but that's okay, less texts to worry about.

 

[Dead_Inside]

Exactly. After I ignore people for a while they get the hint and stop. Probably tell everyone i'm an asshole but that's okay, less texts to worry about.

Exactly. They said I was hurting everyone with my problems right now ....so I just decided to stop talking anymore. Now they can't hurt me and I can't hurt them.

 

[Schopenhauer]

Exactly. They said I was hurting everyone with my problems right now ....so I just decided to stop talking anymore. Now they can't hurt me and I can't hurt them.

Friendships are exhausting. I gave up on this early in life.

 

[Prime]

Yes a lot. Not because its too hard to respond but I am just not interested in the "normal" lives of "normal" people.

 

[Dead_Inside]

Friendships are exhausting. I gave up on this early in life.

I'm a slow learner I guess.....but think I got it now. I won't bother with these people anymore : (

 

[Red star]

Yes usually with relatives, only person I intentionally ignore texts from is my ex.

 

[Blackbird]

Yeah. I've always hated communicating through texts.

 

[Schopenhauer]

I'm a slow learner I guess.....but think I got it now. I won't bother with these people anymore : (

It took me a while to learn too. The worst phase of my life was when I tried to fit in, and be a regular person. I was exhausted, frustrated, and finally humiliated. I don't fit in, it's better to accept it, and work around my limitations.

I finally found a nice equilibrium, where I am moderately accepted at my job, without having to follow all the social niceties (for instance, I'm the only member in my team who is not in the mandatory chat app.) Fuck society.