Discussion anyone else hate when others try to get close

[mittymittens]

like i like the idea of having a romantic partner or having a best friend bcus apart of me also craves having closeness but i just feel like it would inevitably fall apart or that i don't trust it'll last so i just find myself distancing from it in some way. i simultaneously crave and also self sabotage.

did anyone just prefer to be alone

 

[PI3.14]

I don't prefer to be alone, but I also don't feel that I can be in a relationship, I don't deserve it, I don't have my shit together, and I also dislike my body to begin with.

I'm just not fit for a relationship, not now, not ever.

 

[_Maya]

I like being with friends, i like my current friends. But i'm always afraid of the idea of people leaving me.
It's like self sabatage, but (usually) i don't mean for it to happen.

 

[progressingdeath]

I love when people get close but it's hard for me to fully get close back. No matter how close anyone gets I can't let go and still want to end it all

Especially when they seem so blind to it all. If it felt sincere and not because I'm just there and normal to their life one sincere expression of please don't and why could help a ton

 

[MyShadow]

After getting my heart and trust broken, the thought of being that close to someone every again scares me to my core. When I love someone, I love them with everything but I became blind to some very obvious red flags so the betrayal was not expected. I just don't think that I can do that again.

 

[Hollowman]

There's not enough left of me to get close to.

 

[claracatchingthebus]

No

 

[kopebaldy]

Hate? No.

But I prefer to be alone.

Eventually new people will learn what many before them did, I bring nothing but troubles.

 

[liquid jen]

I would like to be close to someone, but I greatly fear it too, and actively sabotage myself. Friends try to get close, but I can't let them. Somebody will always get hurt. I don't necessarily hate being alone though.

 

[uchuunekoko]

I want to experience being a "normal" person. I have no issues when I try to be close with others, except for being a very awkward and nervous person in general, but I always find myself confused when dealing with someone who's trying to do the same with me. I have the same sentiments as you. I can't get rid of the thought that whatever relationship I'm in will end or be ruined.

I have no problems with being alone, but it really does get to me sometimes. I wish I could be a normal person who doesn't self-sabotage or have such a pessimistic view of everything.