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Forever Sleep
Earned it we have...
- May 4, 2022
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Not sure whether this has been discussed before. Do you tell white lies? In what sense? I imagine, most of the time, it's to try to protect others or, yourself. Are they always ultimately bad do you think? Is it better to always be honest- no matter how painful it might be?
I imagine many of us are telling white lies to cover up our ideation. Or, at least, we're not telling the full truth of how we feel.
Do you go along with white lies about others though? For instance, I don't tell my parents what I truly think about my childhood and, ways they acted because- there's nothing they can do to fix it now. I don't think they entirely did things malliciously either. It was just a complete turmoil of a situation with (or, because of- I would argue,) a suspected narcissist. I don't think many people are well equipped to navigate such situations. Even more strangely, I'm not sure if they had acted differently, whether it would have made things better or worse!
But, it feels kind of important to keep up some charades to maintain some sort of friendly, family relationship with them. That's gotten harder to maintain though, the older and more resentful I've gotten. Things are starting to slip out here and there. Maybe that's good though. Maybe that gives me more context/ reason for not being the loving daughter I should be and maybe, might have been. I should probably be mature enough to ne that anyway but, I'm not.
Do you do this also? I suppose white lies are a form of diplomacy in a way.
I imagine many of us are telling white lies to cover up our ideation. Or, at least, we're not telling the full truth of how we feel.
Do you go along with white lies about others though? For instance, I don't tell my parents what I truly think about my childhood and, ways they acted because- there's nothing they can do to fix it now. I don't think they entirely did things malliciously either. It was just a complete turmoil of a situation with (or, because of- I would argue,) a suspected narcissist. I don't think many people are well equipped to navigate such situations. Even more strangely, I'm not sure if they had acted differently, whether it would have made things better or worse!
But, it feels kind of important to keep up some charades to maintain some sort of friendly, family relationship with them. That's gotten harder to maintain though, the older and more resentful I've gotten. Things are starting to slip out here and there. Maybe that's good though. Maybe that gives me more context/ reason for not being the loving daughter I should be and maybe, might have been. I should probably be mature enough to ne that anyway but, I'm not.
Do you do this also? I suppose white lies are a form of diplomacy in a way.