Are suicide notes supposed to be happy?

[sneedm0der]

I want to say goodbye to my loved ones, and family members and I don't know how to do it. I don't know if airing my grievances with the worst of my family is the best idea, especially considering my mother fully denies all the shit she put me through growing up. I want to tell my girlfriend I loved her, but I also want to mention that we didn't connect emotionally as much as I would have liked to. I just don't know what to do.

 

[Outofoptions1]

In my opinion, they should be honest. Whether that includes happiness is up to you. I'd want people to know exactly why I did what I did and what I was suffering through. I wouldn't want people in my life to wonder what they could have done better so to speak..

I plan to make mine as happy as possible. I want people to know that despite the tragic ending, that I'm at peace at my death. I don't want to people to sulk, cry or mourn me. I'll make that clear in my note(s).

 

[TheHolySword]

It's entirely up to you. It's essentially what you want your final words to those people to be. If you want to be honest and you want them to know how you feel about everything and why you did it, then that's what you say. Suicide notes will never be happy. But they can be something for your loved ones to come back to and read if they need comfort, if that's what you want it to be.

 

[WhatCouldHaveBeen32]

I never did think about making a suicide note about people to find.

I believe you should write what you think is the most important to you, if you said you felt that you didn't connect with your girlfriend emotionally, you probably mean that you wished you'd have spend more time with her or talked to her, if you do end up writting one, specify it in a way where she understands that you loved her and you regret you didn't have more time with her.

As for the parent , I too have a mother who denies everything and a missing father, you can't really reason with these types of people, they deny everything and anything. If I'd make one I wouldn't mention them, don't give them what they want, don't give them the attention and power over you, mention how much you loved your girlfriend and how much the people who mattered in your life pushed you forward, name them individually and just "forget" to type out your mothers name. I know it's a bit petty but if you went through what I went, you probably understand it perfectly, a person like that shouldn't be celebrated, a person who despises their child and uses them as a means to an end, a disgusting piece of shit like that doesn't deserve pitty.

(This was an example, not what you should write, I would personally write it like this , at least the mother part is accurate since I know how mine is. For my best friends, I don't have a lover, I'm not sure, it would require more thinking)

So goodbyes can be both happy , bittersweet and angry, you are a human, not a robot, you won't be there to experience it but if you leave, leave life without any regrets left behind, even if they don't matter after you left.

 

[ForeverCaHa]

My partner's suicide note was laced in sadness. It keeps me awake at night even now. Maybe that's selfish of me to say, since my partner was obviously experiencing deeper sadness, but still...

I personally aim for mine to be at least somewhat happy. I'll talk about good memories with the people the letters are for. It's impossible to make a truly 'happy' suicide note, but yeah, the sad ones really hurt.

 

[kosameAmagai]

this can give you some ideas what to write and what not https://archive.ashspace.org/ashbusstop.org/Note.html
but honestly its all up to you, its basically your last message to your loved ones so you should be the one to decide what to put on it or not, i would advise to just make sure to let them know it was not their fault and there is nothing they could ve done to prevent it at all costs

 

[lament.]

IMO even if it's the truth that they majorly wronged you it would be wrong to write about your grievances with people in your note because they might spend the rest of their life thinking they caused your death, and even if you kind of hate them I don't think it's right to drag people down with you when you choose to commit suicide.

 

[Dr. Finklestein]

This is a tough topic to comment on, as, each circumstance is absolutely specific. My thought is to absolve others as much as possible of blame or guilt. If it even helps 1% you've done something better than nothing outside of the ctb itself.

 

[areyousafe??]

Writing a note is too hard, knowing what to say, knowing what not to say, the pointlessness of it all...I have decided not to leave any goodbye notes. What people write are a reflection of what they are feeling at the time, and if I write one today, it will be a note I will regret writing.

Wouldn't a "happy" note be like leaving behind a lie? I doubt anyone who is truly happy would have committed suicide.

 

[StrugglingSienna]

Writing a note is too hard, knowing what to say, knowing what not to say, the pointlessness of it all...I have decided not to leave any goodbye notes. What people write are a reflection of what they are feeling at the time, and if I write one today, it will be a note I will regret writing.

Wouldn't a "happy" note be like leaving behind a lie? I doubt anyone who is truly happy would have committed suicide.

It might be a lie if you have never been happy before, and that might be true for some people, but not usually. I definitely remember feeling happy before.

Personally, when I write my note I will write about some of the happy experiences I've had with some of my loved ones, reflect on the things I'm glad to have been here for, and then explain why I'm doing this anyways and why my life situation voids my ability to feel further happiness.

 

[FuneralCry]

It would be for me as all I want is to not exist, non-existence is the only peace and relief for me, all I see as positive is never suffering ever again where all is finally gone and forgotten and I'd just always prefer to not exist no matter what, I just want peace from the suffering and cruelty of this futile, torturous existence I never would have chosen, I wish for no more pain, no more suffering.

 

[outrider567]

My note just elaborates on the reason why, there's really nobody to say goodbye to anyway--Otherwise, its just mainly financial information, account numbers and passwords, to make it easier on my executor to sell my place and wind up my estate