At what point do you say screw this?

[meetapple]

I just can't get through social situations without someone criticizing me. I am talking about simple trips on airplanes or family outings. I almost feel like this was my destiny since I was 6 and after that I had no other option. I just can't fit in to society. My socialization is just too screwed up.

At what point do I quit this indignity? I can't prove that there is no hope. But how could I have reached this age I with such poor results?

 

[Deadweight]

What have you tried? You didn't mention it, but I don't want to assume. 'Screw this' should be after you've tried everything you can to get on top of your issues and nothing worked.

 

[meetapple]

I have tried taking lorazepam for anxiety. I have tried therapy with a therapist in an office that specializes in social anxiety. I have tried to increase my self-esteem.

 

[timf]

Public criticism can be a type of bullying. It may help to set boundaries. Calling someone to give an account might cause them to back off. For example, "What did I do to you that justifies your trying to hurt me?"

 

[motel rooms]

I just can't get through social situations without someone criticizing me. I am talking about simple trips on airplanes or family outings.

What do people say to you? Who criticizes you more often, your family members or random strangers?

 

[rationalis]

People spend a lot of effort trying to fit into society, and I don't think society is worth the effort. I work hard and am self sufficient so I don't need to rely on others.

 

[meetapple]

What do people say to you? Who criticizes you more often, your family members or random strangers?

What I mean by criticism is more like if I have a thought that people don't like like whistling in my head or coughing in my head people will make the same noise out loud to show their displeasure. My uncle kept coughing whenever I had a coughing thought in my head over the weekend. When complete strangers see me they immediately pay attention to my thoughts because I am under confident in this area.

This happens with complete strangers most often.

People spend a lot of effort trying to fit into society, and I don't think society is worth the effort. I work hard and am self sufficient so I don't need to rely on others.

You are absolutely right. However the conformists will try to make your life miserable if they don't like you.