BRUH I hate the person that I developed feelings for.

[UnnervedCompany]

TLDR I liked this person he liked me back. He tells me he can't date me cause he needs time getting over his gf. We end our friendship and relationship cause he was unwilling to commit lots of tears happened but it was a goodbye that had to happen. He comes today to tell me to play a game with him I am confused on his intention but decide whatever. During that time I tell him so many times that I can't be friends with him and he continues to ignore the fact that I still have feelings for him. When I pester him about me he calls me emotional, tell me its my fault for confessing early even though he was freaking love bombing me 24/7 sending gifs like Peach kissing Goma when I am telling him I'm leaving and then tells me he can't love me. When I start pouring my emotions on him saying I want more than friends and him valuing the friendship isn't enough he freaking does not even consider me. Bruh how could I have fallen for such an immature red flag. I don't care if he couldn't like me back but then berating me when I am vulnerable to him and insulting me is so pathetic BRUH. Oh well I am honestly not as bad as 90% of the people here mostly cause most of the conditions that had me suicidal back then are gone. Even if I am not suicidal I still experience pain and shitty people and I see this forum as my safe space and it really helps me when I experience hurt.

Worst thing tho is that I have to consider everything he told me and every beratment I felt. Now I wonder was my emotions too much am I really insane about him was this all my fault but rip I have to go through this guilt for a while

 

[FireFox]

TLDR I liked this person he liked me back. He tells me he can't date me cause he needs time getting over his gf. We end our friendship and relationship cause he was unwilling to commit lots of tears happened but it was a goodbye that had to happen. He comes today to tell me to play a game with him I am confused on his intention but decide whatever. During that time I tell him so many times that I can't be friends with him and he continues to ignore the fact that I still have feelings for him. When I pester him about me he calls me emotional, tell me its my fault for confessing early even though he was freaking love bombing me 24/7 sending gifs like Peach kissing Goma when I am telling him I'm leaving and then tells me he can't love me. When I start pouring my emotions on him saying I want more than friends and him valuing the friendship isn't enough he freaking does not even consider me. Bruh how could I have fallen for such an immature red flag. I don't care if he couldn't like me back but then berating me when I am vulnerable to him and insulting me is so pathetic BRUH. Oh well I am honestly not as bad as 90% of the people here mostly cause most of the conditions that had me suicidal back then are gone. Even if I am not suicidal I still experience pain and shitty people and I see this forum as my safe space and it really helps me when I experience hurt.

Worst thing tho is that I have to consider everything he told me and every beratment I felt. Now I wonder was my emotions too much am I really insane about him was this all my fault but rip I have to go through this guilt for a while

@UnnervedCompany No its not your fault at all it is human to express love. I have confessed to men I have loved that I love them, normally I ended up confessing first.

You deserve so much better than that man. He doesn't care about your feelings.

It is clear he still loves his girlfriend otherwise he would have gotten over her and pursued things with you. The fact he keeps blaming you, love bombing and making you feel guilty just shows he is a horrible person who doesn't respect you. A person who respects you will never ever treat you that way.

That man is showing himself the real him which is he is not nice person and doesn't respect you.

Think about it if he is treating you like this now imagine if you start dating

You need to block this arsehole and cut him out of your life.

Good luck and I wish you well

FireFox :)

 

[Leiot]

From a man's perspective - he's being a douche. Tell him to fuck off.

 

[UnnervedCompany]

@UnnervedCompany No its not your fault at all it is human to express love. I have confessed to men I have loved that I love them, normally I ended up confessing first.

You deserve so much better than that man. He doesn't care about your feelings.

It is clear he still loves his girlfriend otherwise he would have gotten over her and pursued things with you. The fact he keeps blaming you, love bombing and making you feel guilty just shows he is a horrible person who doesn't respect you. A person who respects you will never ever treat you that way.

That man is showing himself the real him which is he is not nice person and doesn't respect you.

Think about it if he is treating you like this now imagine if you start dating

You need to block this arsehole and cut him out of your life.

Good luck and I wish you well

FireFox :)

From a man's perspective - he's being a douche. Tell him to fuck off.

He is out of my life. I cut him off also I'm a guy lol.

 

[FireFox]

He is out of my life. I cut him off also I'm a guy lol.

@UnnervedCompany Good for you. You deserve to be with someone who cares for you and respects you.

 

[FadingSentinel]

If it's going to be this way I feel like the best thing to do is to just cut him off and go no contact. It might not feel good for you either but in my experience guys who are afraid to commit often are no good when they do end up commiting as well. It might end up saving you a lot more pain and heartbreak in the long run.

 

[forgottenfantasywrt]

It sounds like he's just using you for attention ): as much as it hurts it's prob just better to cut him off