NSFW Casual dating versus getting an escort? (in an abstract thought experiment)

[noname223]

Some month ago I had a match with a pretty good looking woman on a dating app. She was my type and at first I was pretty happy. However, I looked at her profile and she was searching for an open relationship. I wasn't sure whether she was a bot. I once had an exchange with someone who sounded like a bot and the profile vanished later. The open relationship lady her profile is still online.

I think most men would have been the happiest guys on the planet. I was rather pissed. I don't want a fucking open relationship I am way too jealous for that. We texted a little bit. I asked her what she is looking for and she told me she wants casual dating. Personally, I was a little bit hesitant what to tell her. I think she expected something like "That is awesome where do we want to meet each other to fuck together." Instead I asked her in which job she is. Lmao. She never replied. XD.

There were many factors despite the fact she looked pretty awesome and was my type she looked conceited as fuck. Honestly, she looked like a complete asshole. And I don't want my first sex with someone who makes fun of me because I have no experience or need to learn things (at my age). And something like that could have easily happened. (I assume)

I am currently texting with a woman since 4 months and I am not sure where this will end. We had 3 dates but she has a very low need for social interactions which hurts me. But this is off-topic.

In case I will never have a gf and gonna ctb I would probably prefer an escort over casual dating before killing myself. I know this sounds stupid because you pay money. But I think it does not necessarily cost a fortune.

I think an escort might be happy about a customer like me. I don't look horrible, have a good hygiene etc. Won't do humiliating shit. I think there is a certain hierarchy in the process. The open relationship lady could have walked out of the door hearing that I am virgin with no experience. A woman who loves me or an escort lady would probably not do that. I would hope that a woman who loves me or an escort lady would have more empathy. It is a hard job afterall. I heard many men who go to prostitutes cry there out of loneliness. They sort of act as therapist besides of the sex work. I think something like that as a first experience in sex could leave a scar. This is why I aim for a woman who loves me primarily.

This is all my hypothesizing with no experiencing either in the escort business or casual dating world.

What is your opinion?

 

[chester]

I'm no expert in escorts, I've never had sex with one. I can tell you though, that there's something special about a woman wanting to do it with you and you won't get to experience this if you know that she's doing it for the money and not for you. On the other hand, if you don't care about the emotional aspect, and as long as the escort is respectful to you as her client that's good enough for you, then who am I to judge.

Are you sure the open relationship lady is your only non-escort option?

 

[noname223]

I'm no expert in escorts, I've never had sex with one. I can tell you though, that there's something special about a woman wanting to do it with you and you won't get to experience this if you know that she's doing it for the money and not for you. On the other hand, if you don't care about the emotional aspect, and as long as the escort is respectful to you as her client that's good enough for you, then who am I to judge.

Are you sure the open relationship lady is your only non-escort option?

I hope to find a woman that loves me. This is why I downloaded the dating apps in the first place.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I feel like the most important thing in dating (even though I've never done it- lol!) Is honesty. Imagine if that lady on the App had strung you along or simply not mentioned that she really only wanted no strings and open relationships? That could have been way worse. She could have broken your heart.

Still, I know that's off topic. I think you're wise in being cautious. Personally, I feel like it's important to work out what you want and what things like sex mean to you.

I have an insanely prudish regard to sex because I was brought up that way. No sex before marriage and all that. In my head, sex has become marriage so, I pretty much feel like it's never going to happen for me. I don't think I could detach emotional connection from it.

Honestly, I don't really get the appeal of casual sex. Is it really so much better than just doing it on your own?!! Sorry- kind of crude I know. I've sort of wanted to make a poll on it but I'm too embarassed really! But yeah- if there's no emotional connection there, I don't know- maybe it just is better physically.

But still, back to your question. If I wasn't so stunted by prudishness, I think an escort could be really good. I've watched some YouTube videos on them and some seem like such sensitive, interesting people.