Discussion Do you consider yourself lazy? What motivates people?

[Forever Sleep]

I think I am lazy in lots of ways. Both physical things. I hate anything domestic so, I do the bare minimum. Plus, in terms of working on myself. I'm no longer willing to challenge myself in experiencing awful, uncomfortable situations to try and 'better myself'.

In other ways, I work hard and I've done very proactive things to try and change my life. Mostly career orientated but, I worked hard on uni courses and in my jobs. I've moved several times for jobs. I try to make myself exercise each day because I feel shit without it.

What do you suppose motivates the 'normies' though? A sense of fulfilment? A sense of obligation? Do they simply hate the things we hate a little less?!! Do they have more hope in the 'greater good' if they just keep trying? Maybe they feel like the opposite- lethargy is worse.

Lazyness- sloth is seen as such a bad thing I think. Something you ought to feel guilty for. Is it though? Does it ever have just cause? Surely, things like depression cause lethargy. Just a general disinterest in life is going to make you want to participate in it less.

I think it's more the insistance that a person needs to pull their weight. Maybe to pay back the time and effort parents, family, teachers, society (hopefully) put into our upbringing but then- we didn't ask for that! They wanted children and brought them here without probably thinking all that carefully about it. Do we owe a debt in that sense? Is that why lazyness as seen as so bad? Or, is it more that we have no hope of experiencing everything life has to offer if we can't be bothered to engage with it and we maybe aren't earning money to pay for it?

 

[Ethernatuskoi]

Yes, I consider myself lazy, and I'm not proud of it. First of all, because since I was little, people around me have always done everything for me, and this has led me to a bad habit of being dependent on others for years. However, despite this, I'm not a completely useless person. I know how to do some things and from time to time I help with the basic household chores and obligations, such as washing the dishes, drying the clothes, sweeping, cleaning, and organizing. However, another factor that also contributes to the laziness I feel is depression itself, and there are days when I simply don't want to do anything. I want to spend the whole day in bed sleeping. Currently, I only have the motivation to do things that I like to do, in other words, I'm procrastinating, but I've been trying to change the course of things, because I applied for jobs, but I ended up losing 3 for certain reasons...

Maybe to pay back the time and effort parents, family, teachers, society (hopefully) put into our upbringing but then- we didn't ask for that! They wanted children and brought them here without probably thinking all that carefully about it. Do we owe a debt in that sense?

Well, it's true that I didn't ask to be here, but despite that, I feel a sense of obligation to pay my family back for everything they've done for me, and that's exactly why I should be more dedicated to my studies, college entrance exams, jobs, etc. I should be doing all of this to give back, but I simply couldn't and I failed. I did the complete opposite out of pure lack of interest, laziness, lack of motivation and tiredness resulting from depression and life's problems. That's how I think, and I personally would like to somehow repay all the effort, but I don't think I'll be able to. I could really try to change myself with new and different habits to benefit my life, both physically and psychologically, but I don't have the necessary motivation to do so, especially because many situations make me uncomfortable and I don't want to have to deal with more discomfort and more problems - I'm currently trying to run away from them so as not to make my condition worse.

 

[noname223]

Sorry too long to read. Moreover, I am too lazy to give you a proper reply.

 

[NoRespawn]

In other ways, I work hard and I've done very proactive things to try and change my life. Mostly career orientated but, I worked hard on uni courses and in my jobs. I've moved several times for jobs. I try to make myself exercise each day because I feel shit without it.

same. Exercising feels good.

I think it's more the insistance that a person needs to pull their weight. Maybe to pay back the time and effort parents, family, teachers, society (hopefully) put into our upbringing but then- we didn't ask for that! They wanted children and brought them here without probably thinking all that carefully about it. Do we owe a debt in that sense? Is that why lazyness as seen as so bad? Or, is it more that we have no hope of experiencing everything life has to offer if we can't be bothered to engage with it and we maybe aren't earning money to pay for it?

I feel this way too, i get motivated with the thought of retiring my parents or even my whole family. But after failed many times and getting set back more and more, I also don't get the motivation to "put myself out there" and "fail, fail harder", this aint no video game unfortunately and we dont get extra lives or do-overs, if you fail you, run the risk of unemployment, homelessness and starvation. And its getting harder and harder to find a job that won't destroy my back and knees, i refuse to give the rest of my body for $15 an hour, I can make more money (hopefully) but i can never get the tendons in my knees back.

Yeah im lazy because I can't sacrifice my body for a company that dgaf about me sorry.

What do you suppose motivates the 'normies' though? A sense of fulfilment? A sense of obligation? Do they simply hate the things we hate a little less?!! Do they have more hope in the 'greater good' if they just keep trying? Maybe they feel like the opposite- lethargy is worse.

This is probably an all of the above, type answer, throw in "to avoid poverty" in their too.

 

[NoPoint2Life]

Yes, I consider myself lazy, and I'm not proud of it. First of all, because since I was little, people around me have always done everything for me, and this has led me to a bad habit of being dependent on others for years. However, despite this, I'm not a completely useless person. I know how to do some things and from time to time I help with the basic household chores and obligations, such as washing the dishes, drying the clothes, sweeping, cleaning, and organizing. However, another factor that also contributes to the laziness I feel is depression itself, and there are days when I simply don't want to do anything. I want to spend the whole day in bed sleeping. Currently, I only have the motivation to do things that I like to do, in other words, I'm procrastinating, but I've been trying to change the course of things, because I applied for jobs, but I ended up losing 3 for certain reasons...

Well, it's true that I didn't ask to be here, but despite that, I feel a sense of obligation to pay my family back for everything they've done for me, and that's exactly why I should be more dedicated to my studies, college entrance exams, jobs, etc. I should be doing all of this to give back, but I simply couldn't and I failed. I did the complete opposite out of pure lack of interest, laziness, lack of motivation and tiredness resulting from depression and life's problems. That's how I think, and I personally would like to somehow repay all the effort, but I don't think I'll be able to. I could really try to change myself with new and different habits to benefit my life, both physically and psychologically, but I don't have the necessary motivation to do so, especially because many situations make me uncomfortable and I don't want to have to deal with more discomfort and more problems - I'm currently trying to run away from them so as not to make my condition worse.

If I'm being honest, yeah, I always have considered myself lazy. I totally get the dependent on others thing because as an only child I had a lot of that. now every task feels very overwhelming.

I was never a procrastinator though. When I was a kid and would get an assignment in school, I had to start right away or I would freak out.

But like you said, laziness can also be part of the depression. I have OCD and used to go around cleaning like crazy disinfecting everything. It was exhausting. But at the same time, I really was doing a half assed job at everything.. I would disinfect, but the layer of dust I leave on everything is disgusting

As I have made progress with my OCD this year, sometimes I wonder if it truly is progress. Did everything just become too exhausting for me and I finally gave up and was cleaning less? Does it really just simply not bother my OCD as much anymore? Or am I getting depressed? Is it I just can't be bothered and have complete lack of motivation due to depression? things I used to do every day I now dread just doing every few days or once a week.

And I am really getting low on motivation lately. Even though my OCD in public is a lot better, I still have no desire to leave the house and attempt to enjoy things. Like you said, I could really do things to try to better my life. Like I have a complete lack of exercise in my life. At my age, I am starting to really feel it in my body. But then I say why bother, I would be happy if I die at any moment, so why would I attempt to improve things?

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

I'm incredibly lazy. The only thing that motivates me is primal instincts like hunger, thirst, lust,and tiredness.

 

[ijustwishtodie]

I'm lazy and there isn't really anything that motivates me. Honestly, I feel like the reason as to why I'm lazy is because there isn't anything that motivates me. Throughout my entire life, I have never felt motivated to do anything. Whatever I have done, I have done it because of an obligation, not because I wanted to. Throughout the entirety of my academics, I have relied on my pure intelligence alone and done as little as possible because I wasn't motivated enough to bother with it. I'm now getting to the point where I cannot rely on intelligence alone and where I either have to put in the effort or suffer extremely by being homeless. I've honestly just accepted my fate of being homeless because I just don't have the motivation to study or do anything in life.

I personally don't shame myself for being lazy as I never asked to be this way. I'm like this because of my neurotype which is something that I can't control. However, unfortunately being lazy is a massive detriment to my life as it's going to cause much more suffering for me later on

 

[We Are Angels]

I'm not lazy. I can be pretty thorough when it comes to things I am very invested in, such as my hobbies. But I don't feel much intrinsic motivation with the "important" things, such as work and making money other than the fact that I would die horribly without it. It's a real shame that society is now all about hustling now. I could have made it if minimalistic living was still possible, but with everything being so ungodly expensive, it's not.

 

[Pluto]

 

[Warlord's Pulse]

Quick answer: yes, I'm lazy
I'm not too consistent tho, there's some very atypical days where I'm very active

 

[ZeroM24]

I was never motivated for anything that isnt immediately or at least in the very near future available. And I never had much energy to do anything. 99 % of life is shit to me.

 

[vitbar]

In many ways I am lazy, in other ways I'm not. I'm changeable.

When I'm into something I can put in a lot of work. Rarely can I motivate myself to get started. I prioritise leisure.

There are steps that lead to the chance of a better life that I don't take. I sit around distracting myself instead. They are difficult steps for me true, but I do nothing in that direction.

I do the bare minimum of housework: Letting jobs pile up until I can't ignore them. At my actual job I tend to try because others are depending on me, but without that I can't be bothered.

I don't think laziness is a terrible thing unless it has terrible consequences. In my case it often seems like my life is a slow motion car crash, and I'm resigned to it.

 

[RosebyAnyName]

I'm very lazy, even though I desperately don't want to be. For things I enjoy doing, I find making it as easy to start as possible helps. For example, I like music, so I always leave my music software open even if I don't plan on doing anything with it. I find I naturally start using it after a while just because I opened the software.
For things I need to do like work, I need to limit distractions or I won't do it. A lot of my "laziness" is due to struggling to refocus, not sure if that's the case for others but it's definitely the case for me.
As for general motivation, I'm going to have to say exercise as others have already mentioned. If I don't exercise, it's like my brain just shuts off. I even feel different if I skip a day. I wish it were easier, because I struggle to maintain a schedule.

 

[broken_stoic]

I wish I was more lazy. Would probably be more happy

 

[HereTomorrow]

I'm lazy in the non-traditional way, I busy myself so much with things that are unproductive to avoid doing tasks I need to do. I'd clean up a single area on the room multiple times to avoid cleaning another, or cook a week's worth of food in one standing. I hate not doing anything because it makes me alone with my thoughts. Right now I'm about to watch a livestream and do anatomy studies in art to avoid not doing anything from coming back from work and having a few hours to kill. I literally wish my job would schedule me more hours so I have a more rational excuse to not do chores at home that eventually had to be done.