I don't think it's all together unreasonable. Ultimately, I think it would be more extreme to wish an early death on everyone you come into contact with here! Maybe reasonable for a promortalist but the majority of members are more in the middle I would say.
Really, we don't know one another here. Not all members go into long painful details about what has brought them to this point. Plus, some people are genuinely unsure as to whether they want to try to live or die.
I think basically, we (hopefully) want the best for one another here. So, unless their situation is obviously absolutely dire with no chance of getting better, we likely do try to problem solve for them. Sometimes we can actually be in a position where we can't see the wood for the trees. But still, I think a person needs to feel open to that. Most members I imagine will say if a response seems unrealistically positive or, they'll just ignore it.
I do know what you mean though. It can be kind of odd/ hypocritical even when we feel like their are solutions for other people but not ourselves. Ultimately, I suppose I just hope for the best for people. Great if that does mean recovery but, if they choose to CTB and are successful, I also have to feel relieved that they earnt their peace.