Do you guys feel like you have an identity?

[BitterlyAlive]

How would you describe it?

 

[VIBRITANNIA]

not really. i've never been able to describe myself well, so i've never really "identified" with any traits or those things. i just... exist. i'm just a "person".

 

[Nymph]

I have one in my mind but can't physically express it because I'd need surgery for that. I'm very disphoric, family doesn't accept it

 

[BPD Barbie]

I've taken loads of small pieces of other people's identities and made them into whatever I am today. That's the thing with BPD you have no sense of who you are and you adapt your personalities to fit other people's.

 

[Haruko]

The "identity" is what makes a being what it is. Which means that, in a literal sense, someone who do not have an identity may not be considered as "someone" or as an entity that is (exists).

However, we may suppose that humans are not necessarily as free as to form an independent identity. Let's take for example a group of individuals that allocate all of their resources to a certain hobby (i.e. fans of a soccer team). This group of people act as a 'group' by basically doing the same actions (watching all the team games, buying their merchandises, joining their groups online...) and as a result, we may be able to say that these individuals have the same identity (whether you think this is a good or bad thing, it's completely subjective) and if we know the future plans of one member, we can easily know what the others will be doing in the near future.

Some may argue that these soccer team supporters have lost their original identity and they can no longer be labeled as free beings, however, I disagree with that, because it was their choice to 'loose' their freedom, thus they were free in deciding their identity.

As for myself, I do not think that human beings are that interesting as to have an "identity". It is just an abstraction that they create in order to feel that their being is not totally meaningless. Basically, it is an idea they created so as to make their lives more interesting and feel unique in someway.

 

[agreement]

I don't feel like that and I think that people thinking to be "someone" are delusional.
I don'y think that I actually exist.
Humans are full of shit but more than that are full of delusions.

 

[DeadButDreaming]

It's something I gave a lot of thought to as a teenager, but ever since then it rarely crosses my mind.

 

[Sprite_Geist]

I don't have an identity - not anymore. Most of the time I don't think about anything or what I'm doing, it's just autonomously moving along - an animate object.

 

[Caspers]

The day I lost my memory was the day I lost my identity. If I don't remember my childhood, or barely anything before 2017, how can I have a sense of identity?

 

[noaccount]

I have never understood what is meant by this question or why people concern themselves with it.

 

[BitterlyAlive]

I have never understood what is meant by this question or why people concern themselves with it.

Sorry. I was just bored and curious about how other people view themselves.

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

I don't know beyond me being straight, Asian, and male. Even with those parameters I don't feel like a typical heterosexual or a typical Asian or a typical male. I definitely don't vibe with my identity as a millennial except for the media I happened to consume as a child. Otherwise though I have tendencies and opinions from both really old and really young people. My identity is so fractured I can't even decide how I politically lean since I flop between the two constantly. That's just how I am with everything. There are days where I don't even feel like a human. Sometimes I wonder if maybe I just enjoy being contrarian or reactionary and that THAT'S my identity.

Yeah, never mind. My identity is a shitty evil creature that needs to be removed from the face of the earth.

 

[bkty_]

At times I feel like I have an identity/interests/long term goals/know what "I am about". At other times, sometimes when others ask about me, my mind is blank and I feel like a total shell of a person, and embarrassed that I can't think of one thing I like to do in my free time? It is like I have a part-time identity. It likes to take its breaks when I meet new people, ha.

 

[noaccount]

Sorry. I was just bored and curious about how other people view themselves.

No don't be sorry I've just been mystified by this for my entire life

No one has ever explained the concept or experience in any way that is recognizable to me

Rather a few people have tried to push me to falsely confess that I "did" recognize or share the experience

Some people have expressed that the thing of "identity" was something they were trying to transcend or escape from

Some of these people have then fetishized my difference as noble childlike savagery

The entire time I have had no idea what was happening,

As with much of majority psychology

 

[CogitoMori]

No, I feel like I got cheated out of knowing myself because of the restrictions put on me by my parents because of their political beliefs and fear of judgement

 

[Forever Sleep]

Kind of. Mostly because I don't feel like I want to be anyone else. Maybe I'd like to be better in certain ways. Have less social anxiety, be more confident but, they don't really change who I feel I am.

I was very confused/ frustrated growing up though because my Mum died when I was 3 so- that major point of reference was gone. It used to frustrate me when people expected me to be bold and confident and then I found out my Mum was pretty shy also.