Do you have a friend?

[Surek02]

So, today I came across this post: [https://sanctioned-suicide.net/threads/ive-lost-a-friend-on-this-site.220218] (sorry, buddy), and it got me thinking. I'm sure some of you have a friend you talk to, who knows about your desire to CTB. Maybe they are planning it too, but that's not the point.

How do you plan on informing them about your death? Or more precisely, how do you plan to resolve the "uncertainty"? Anything can happen, as you know.

For example, I'm planning to give my bro the contact information of a real-life guy I know. Through them, they will be able to find out if I'm alive or dead.

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I'm creating this post because I'm interested to know what you plan to do, and what you think about this in general.

P.S: This post is mostly for those whose friendships are exclusively online.
P.S.S: Written using a translator.

 

[darksouls]

I have no social contacts in real life

 

[Zerengin96]

I have people i talk with regularily, but i dont really believe in Friendship.

 

[Leichter Kampfwagen]

I don't have any online friends, only a few IRL friends that I haven't seen in a long time. They will likely find out via my parents. They might be at the funeral.

 

[whywere]

I am 100% like @darksouls, as outside of work, no one at all ever.

In fact, what is a friend? Have not had one in so many decades that I forgot the terminology.

Walter

 

[Wishingforadream]

A few IRL friends. But not very close anymore, I couldn't bring someone else into my own affairs. Maybe I'd leave a few small messages for them but overall they would likely find out via my parents.

 

[Liebestod]

I live with my family and commute to university but I have no friends in real life or online. I only just barely socialize during labs and barely talk to people on here. I just had a long conversation that spanned almost two weeks with @crocodile man but I think he just ctb the other day. Otherwise I literally have no one.

 

[Cosmophobic]

No online friends since the days of MSN messenger. My IRL friends I would never tell about my suicidal ideation because that conversation is always a dead end.

 

[persepexa]

I would say I have one good friend irl. She invited me to her birthday party yesterday. That's when I decided I had to write her a note or a message or something letting her know. Saw another comment on this thread that some of their friends might be at their funeral. She will definitely come to mine. If she does decide to come she'll be the only non-family member there. Unfortunately I've ruined every other friendship I ever had. They won't even find out about it.

 

[Hollowman]

No

 

[azo]

there is one person I could unequivocally call a friend—the only one outside of here who (truly) knows about and respects my suicidality (and has made clear he wouldn't try to stop me from making that decision even though he wants me to recover).

He once told me he didn't know whether it would be worse to never hear from me again and never know what happened, or to get a suicide note/text from me (being an online friend). I would probably opt for the latter though; it would be a delayed Discord message. I don't like uncertainty.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I'll likely make a scheduled goodbye here. My closest friends are in my will so, my solicitor will contact them. I also plan to (delayed) email my notes to my solicitor so, hopefully they will pass them on too. As for family, I'm hoping that one person will spread the news. There are bound to be more distant people who won't find out directly. I suppose the lack of Christmas cards over the years will make them wonder.

I've had to go detective in the past on friends who didn't reply. Not because of suicide but, more likely natural death. I'm not sure families bother so much these days. My family would ring around when there was a death but, it must be pretty upsetting to do.

 

[Surek02]

For example, I'm planning to give my bro the contact information of a real-life guy I know. Through them, they will be able to find out if I'm alive or dead.

Scratch that part, I got ghosted by "my bro"

 

[Spite]

No. I will never be valued as a friend by anybody. I am truly worthless.

 

[SpencerSees]

I think they know. If they are not completely clueless (which I know they aren't), they know that I most likely will die very soon. I partly share these desires, perhaps not to the true degree, but they definitely know they are their. If I one day stop showing, they'll have a pretty good idea what happened. Either got killed by a client but most likely killed myself. Either way, they'll definitely know I'm gone through my parents. When I was younger, I wrote many goodbye notes, but I find the janky now. A simple it's not your fault will do.