Do you like receiving pm’s?

[Message In A Bottle]

Personally I like them (as long as they aren't rude or randomly perverted) I have a hard time sending them out though, since I don't want to come across as weird. Probably why I have a hard time making friends - My paranoia goes against me.

What do you think? Do you like when someone reaches out first to engage in a conversation with you?

 

[Al Cappella]

I love them! Don't send out "cold calling" dms because I wouldn't want to be a bother to anyone. But ya, I love talking to different folks & finding out what they're all about…

 

[Lullaby]

Yes. Sometimes I feel bad because I have really rough days and don't get around to responding. I know sometimes when you don't hear from someone you assume the worst, so I try not to put others through that.

 

[WorthlessTrash]

Yes, but I feel awkward if the convo randomly dies.

 

[motel rooms]

No. I can't afford to get attached to people I can't help.

 

[Angst Filled Fuck Up]

I don't mind it. Usually it's a request for a dick pic and I'm no prude, so.

 

[NearlyIrrelevantCake]

I have zero desire for small-talk or such and when PM'd with that type of expectation, I tell people I do not engage in it and I stop responding.

But if someone PMs me asking for help, advice, tips, etc. I'm happy to answer specific questions.

 

[𝔧𝔞𝔫𝔢 ⛧]

yea i do, people cn be friendy here. CAN be,

 

[hungry_ghost]

Sure, I wouldn't mind.

Though I'm reluctant to send any random messages out, as I fear others would consider it bothersome.

The overall theme and melancholy atmosphere of this place makes it feel like people's moods are cyclical and arbitrary, and for whatever reason I feel like if I seek someone out for conversation they will bite my head off, or something.

 

[Message In A Bottle]

The overall theme and melancholy atmosphere of this place makes it feel like people's moods are cyclical and arbitrary, and for whatever reason I feel like if I seek someone out for conversation they will bite my head off, or something.

That's how I feel...I don't wanna rattle any feathers here.

 

[gottablast888]

yes dm me now

 

[chocolatebar]

From strangers, I like when there's a context.
From friends, anytime!

 

[Glowarm]

I do. But like a lot of others I don't usually send cause I don't want to bother people.

 

[Sarros]

Yea, I love it. That stuff makes my day. PMs of any kind from any media. I always get sad when the Chinese crypto scammers I'm catfishing stop messaging me back. I'm down bad.

 

[lofticries]

Everytime I get a pm I always feel like I'm in trouble for some reason. Lol it's the paranoia in me. Sure, I don't mind getting them.

 

[Weebster]

No. They're evil

 

[Kismet]

Never thought about it. I don't think there's like or dislike, it just is. I'll send a pm if I have a question or a comment not for everyone to see, I'd expect other people would do the same.

Better question, do you shy from sending a pm because you're worried how it will be received?

No. I can't afford to get attached to people I can't help.

Are you saying anyone you would pm can't be helped or that you get attached easy? No hate, just curious

 

[GentleJerk]

I have zero desire for small-talk or such and when PM'd with that type of expectation, I tell people I do not engage in it and I stop responding.

But if someone PMs me asking for help, advice, tips, etc. I'm happy to answer specific questions.

I'm sort of the opposite.

I never get PMs from people who want small talk or a friendly chat. I would be fine with that. If it gets weird or annoying I can always choose to stop talking to them. I'm not against making friends but I'm not going out of my way either.

It's always people asking for help and advice about suicide. Suppose it's to be expected, but I'm actually uncomfortable with it. Sometimes I answer questions politely, but I never tell people what to do.

 

[Al_stargate]

Maybe sometimes

 

[Chinaski]

I love getting PMs and, like Noam Chomsky, reply personally to all of my fan mail, including the regular "11.6% Warning For Obnoxious Personality" ones. I do sometimes wish l got more of the Hot Anime Avi variety and less of the Angry Horny Neckbeard sort but all comments are gratefully received nonetheless.

 

[LastLoveLetter]

I like receiving messages (I do not tend to initiate correspondence because it's something I find difficult), but I worry about letting people down. I struggle at times to respond or keep a conversation going. It's never intentional, it's due to my disabilities, social problems and poor health. However, I am always willing to listen, even if I can't always contribute much in return.

 

[whatevs]

I like em. For whatever reason though, 15% have been from people that dislike me and feel compelled to say it privately, normally on top of publically, weirdly enough.

 

[WorthlessTrash]

I like em. For whatever reason though, 30% have been from people that dislike me and feel compelled to say it privately, normally on top of publically, weirdly enough.

At least they aren't being fake, I guess?

 

[whatevs]

At least they aren't being fake, I guess?

Keepin' it real, dawg.

I messed up the percentage though, it has been 1 out of 5 roughly.

I don't mind it. Usually it's a request for a dick pic and I'm no prude, so.

The more times this joke is used the less it seems to be a joke.

 

[Insomniac]

Personally I like them (as long as they aren't rude or randomly perverted) I have a hard time sending them out though, since I don't want to come across as weird. Probably why I have a hard time making friends - My paranoia goes against me.

What do you think? Do you like when someone reaches out first to engage in a conversation with you?

depends who I'm talking to and if the conversation is authentic or not

 

[freedompass]

I don't get many, maybe coz I don't post that much. More of a lurker and reader. I've pm'd maybe 4 people in all usually to try to spark a friendship. Nothing lasting so far (that may be partly me). I've received few myself, only a couple have been social. For the record I would be happy to hear from anyone, I could really use more peeps to natter to!

 

[onlyanimalsaregood]

Yes, I don't mind. I think it does us good to talk to each other.

 

[freedompass]

I love getting PMs and, like Noam Chomsky, reply personally to all of my fan mail, including the regular "11.6% Warning For Obnoxious Personality" ones. I do sometimes wish l got more of the Hot Anime Avi variety and less of the Angry Horny Neckbeard sort but all comments are gratefully received nonetheless.

I laughed out loud at this

 

[Blue_mist]

I do like PMs, but what upsetting is that most of the messages i receive are just never ending questions and in the beginning they pretend to be supportive and they just suddenly disappear. I think it's a common practice in this forum

 

[WorthlessTrash]

I will add that I will not like receiving private messages or chats that attempt to talk me out of CTB, or that try to force feed me toxic positivity/platitudes. I'm already set on my decision and know what would need to happen for me to want to keep living. I don't need anyone to attempt to gaslight me. If I wanted to be gaslit, I'd go to therapy again.