Do you make promises towards your loved ones?

[noname223]

My dad always wants me to promise not to do something dangerous. Tbh I stopped caring. He also thought my suicide talk was just empty bla bla.
He loves me. My mom loves me. And my friends love me. But I am just so sick of everything.

I don't care about promises anymore. And I also don't care about anti suicide contracts in therapy. I am beyond that.

 

[Forever Sleep]

No. I try not to lie to people. There's no way I'd promise something I didn't feel I could honour.

If it was a promise not to kill myself- that would piss me off that they were trying to push me to say that. But- they don't know how I feel so, it wouldn't occur to them to ask. I don't think they would though somehow anyway. I definitely wouldn't promise that though.

After the IC SN welfare check, they put me in touch with a 'hepline' and they tried to get me to promise I'd call them before I used it. Like- really? Why on earth would I call someone who would do anything possible to prevent a suicide- including setting the police on me- if I wanted to suicide? Like really- that doesn't make any sense at all!

That just confirmed to me though that they must think everyone is uncertain or impulsive when they commit. I suppose an amount of uncertainty is likely to be there. But, I think for me- it will be more around the process of death not a: 'Is this really the right decision?'

 

[TAW122]

I don't make such promises to people and definitely not anything that would relate or hint towards CTB. The last thing I want is for some do-gooder busybody to intervene against my will and make my already existing sentience even more hellish than I am. Instead, I just plan and act in secrecy as much as I can.

@Forever Sleep I feel the same sentiments as you as well too. It was quite insulting that many of the CTB preventionists only seek to prevent CTB regardless of circumstance or any consideration of the predicaments that one is in. Yes, while it may appear "impulsive" to others (and even moreso the outside observer and people who don't know your circumstances), I do believe that a fair bit of CTB attempts and such are definitely NOT impulsive (at least ones that are carefully deliberated and planned). I know if I were to CTB in the late future or sometime in the future, people will point to impulsivity and they couldn't be further from the truth. However, I do know that once I go through my decision, whenever and wherever that may be, it wouldn't be relevant for me to consider the aftermath as I would not be around to experience it.