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- May 4, 2022
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Hypothetically speaking, if you were to commit suicide, would you want people to feel sorry for you post CTB? As in, do you hope they would view either elements of your life and/or your death as tragic?
I expect the majority of people here have had their lives blighted by things beyond their control. Illness, trauma, bad circumstances etc.
I think there are certain things in my life that would probably be considered tragic. Losing a parent early on and a few other close family members before I was 10. Other elements of my childhood I would say were very unfortunate, if not tragic. So- I'd be grateful for sympathy on them.
But then, some of the more (debatably) 'tragic' things in life have come from my own choosing to an extent. I've never had a partner. In my 20's, 30's, that was a source of great pain. I was in the full throws of limerence then though! It took me a very long time to work that out. And when I did, I also realised it would have been a disaster if I'd gotten together with any of those guys!
The relationships absolutely wouldn't have lasted and I don't think the experience would have done me any favours. Just broken my heart. I had this weird realisation that I was strangely grateful not to have been attractive enough that they reciprocated.
Maybe I think it's tragic that some people suffer with limerence though. I don't think it's a healthy mindset. I also wonder what impact it has on those who then actually have a relationship with the 'love object'. Can it develop into something genuine and stable and, based in the real world?
Regardless though, I'm not sure that my failure in love is tragic. It's more that common sense saved the day! None of the guys I was crazy for would have been a good match- even if that had been remotely possible.
The one time it looked like things could go further with one guy, I'm so relieved really that my mind took hold of my heart and said- this isn't enough. This isn't even real! You should leave now. Weirdly though, I was still limerent on him for years after but then- I guess that's the nature of it- fantasy.
I think maybe other things that held me back in life like social anxiety and lack of confidence are partly tragic. But then, I also think we ought to take some responsibility in life too. If we know we have these issues, we ought to work on overcoming them and- I didn't. So- maybe the cause of them developing to such a degree was tragic but my failure to fix them was lazyness and fear. Fear is kind of tragic though I suppose.
I think so many people here have been made timid and self doubting/ hating through bullying and- that is tragic I think. To be downtrodden to the point where you have so much difficulty in getting up again and- don't even want to is tragic- bordering on evil with regards to the bully.
Lastly though, would you want your suicide itself to be seen as tragic? I'd say yes and no really. Suicide to me is a mirrored reflection of life. So- if large elements of their life were tragic, that's mirrored or maybe epitomized in their suicide.
There again, I don't like suicide being viewed as a weak, timid or cowardly act. I think suicide is an act of defiance. It's a choice to reject this world. So, I maybe hope that mine would be seen more like that. I have a rebellious heart to an extent.
My suicide would be a way of me rescuing myself from the likelihood of an ever worsening life. I've often felt like suicide will be me acting as the own hero in my story. I'm going to help me escape this place eventually (hopefully.)
I expect the majority of people here have had their lives blighted by things beyond their control. Illness, trauma, bad circumstances etc.
I think there are certain things in my life that would probably be considered tragic. Losing a parent early on and a few other close family members before I was 10. Other elements of my childhood I would say were very unfortunate, if not tragic. So- I'd be grateful for sympathy on them.
But then, some of the more (debatably) 'tragic' things in life have come from my own choosing to an extent. I've never had a partner. In my 20's, 30's, that was a source of great pain. I was in the full throws of limerence then though! It took me a very long time to work that out. And when I did, I also realised it would have been a disaster if I'd gotten together with any of those guys!
The relationships absolutely wouldn't have lasted and I don't think the experience would have done me any favours. Just broken my heart. I had this weird realisation that I was strangely grateful not to have been attractive enough that they reciprocated.
Maybe I think it's tragic that some people suffer with limerence though. I don't think it's a healthy mindset. I also wonder what impact it has on those who then actually have a relationship with the 'love object'. Can it develop into something genuine and stable and, based in the real world?
Regardless though, I'm not sure that my failure in love is tragic. It's more that common sense saved the day! None of the guys I was crazy for would have been a good match- even if that had been remotely possible.
The one time it looked like things could go further with one guy, I'm so relieved really that my mind took hold of my heart and said- this isn't enough. This isn't even real! You should leave now. Weirdly though, I was still limerent on him for years after but then- I guess that's the nature of it- fantasy.
I think maybe other things that held me back in life like social anxiety and lack of confidence are partly tragic. But then, I also think we ought to take some responsibility in life too. If we know we have these issues, we ought to work on overcoming them and- I didn't. So- maybe the cause of them developing to such a degree was tragic but my failure to fix them was lazyness and fear. Fear is kind of tragic though I suppose.
I think so many people here have been made timid and self doubting/ hating through bullying and- that is tragic I think. To be downtrodden to the point where you have so much difficulty in getting up again and- don't even want to is tragic- bordering on evil with regards to the bully.
Lastly though, would you want your suicide itself to be seen as tragic? I'd say yes and no really. Suicide to me is a mirrored reflection of life. So- if large elements of their life were tragic, that's mirrored or maybe epitomized in their suicide.
There again, I don't like suicide being viewed as a weak, timid or cowardly act. I think suicide is an act of defiance. It's a choice to reject this world. So, I maybe hope that mine would be seen more like that. I have a rebellious heart to an extent.
My suicide would be a way of me rescuing myself from the likelihood of an ever worsening life. I've often felt like suicide will be me acting as the own hero in my story. I'm going to help me escape this place eventually (hopefully.)