does anyone else hate their ethnicity?

[dune7263]

ethnically I am somali and i just don't feel proud about it, it's one of the reasons why I want to kill myself

I am grateful I live in a first world country but i still interact with my culture and I have the features of it

 

[snoopyfan22]

Yeah, I feel the same way a lot of the time.

 

[dune7263]

Yeah, I feel the same way a lot of the time.

is it fine to ask what your ethnicity is?

 

[snoopyfan22]

is it fine to ask what your ethnicity is?

I'm Persian and part Punjabi (Indian).

 

[EvisceratedJester]

I'd say that I am multiethnic and I don't feel ashamed of any of my ethnic backgrounds. What is so bad about having Somali heritage?

 

[an_alias]

I can't stand how swart I look when I look in the mirror. I hate having swart genes. I hate how bloodshot my eyes look. I hate my height :(

 

[NitrogenAfternoon]

I'm Persian and part Punjabi (Indian).

I'm Persian too. I actually love being Persian. I just wish I was more in tune with my culture as my farsi is pretty terrible.

 

[Halfhourdays]

I'd say that I am multiethnic and I don't feel ashamed of any of my ethnic backgrounds. What is so bad about having Somali heritage?

Yeah, there's nothing wrong with being Somali.

I'd say that I am multiethnic and I don't feel ashamed of any of my ethnic backgrounds. What is so bad about having Somali heritage?

Yeah, there's nothing wrong with being Somali.

 

[dune7263]

I'd say that I am multiethnic and I don't feel ashamed of any of my ethnic backgrounds. What is so bad about having Somali heritage?

I am associated with a country widely regarded as the most corrupt, most poor and worse in so many categories, i don't really like my features either

 

[EvisceratedJester]

I am associated with a country widely regarded as the most corrupt, most poor and worse in so many categories, i don't really like my features either

Most people aren't going to care about that. Some people like facial features associated with Somalians and most people are more likely to focus on aspects of culture when thinking of Somalians rather than the state of their country. At the end of the day, there is nothing wrong with being of Somalia ancestry. I am most familiar with two of my ethnicities and one of them is from a developing country and I generally tend to find that most people tend to be most interested in that part of my ethnicity compared to all the others.

 

[untraveler]

I like mine. I don't think much about it, though.

I'd say many people don't like their height in any ethnicity. There's often something we don't like in ourselves or in our culture regardless of what ethnicity we are. I guess we just have different pool of characteristics we can pick from to complain about. ;)

I want to tell you there is nothing wrong with looking "swart". It matters what person you are. What you do, how you think, behave, treat others and yourself. I wish you a lot of self-acceptance and good people around you.

 

[LastNite]

Nah it doesn't bother me, I am Syrian. I do not like my country or culture nor am I proud of anything relating to it because it's all wars and killing. Nobody ever guessed my ethnicity right , I get confused for Hispanic/Mexican sometimes but that's about it. I'm sort of white and brown a bit so it's really hard to guess. Also the typical stereotypes that are given to Syrians don't apply to me so I don't care at all. I'm neither religious or a bomber lol.

 

[dune7263]

Most people aren't going to care about that. Some people like facial features associated with Somalians and most people are more likely to focus on aspects of culture when thinking of Somalians rather than the state of their country. At the end of the day, there is nothing wrong with being of Somalia ancestry. I am most familiar with two of my ethnicities and one of them is from a developing country and I generally tend to find that most people tend to be most interested in that part of my ethnicity compared to all the others.

unfortunately I have been bullied for mine, I sometimes I was Japanese

Nah it doesn't bother me, I am Syrian. I do not like my country or culture nor am I proud of anything relating to it because it's all wars and killing. Nobody ever guessed my ethnicity right , I get confused for Hispanic/Mexican sometimes but that's about it. I'm sort of white and brown a bit so it's really hard to guess. Also the typical stereotypes that are given to Syrians don't apply to me so I don't care at all. I'm neither religious or a bomber lol.

fair enough

 

[Praestat_Mori]

I think it's not all about ethnicity only. The most important part is to adapt and act like "natives" of the country where you live now.

I also live in a foreign country and have different ethnicity but so far no problems for many years.

 

[WatchmeBurn]

Ethnicity is a social construct. There is, for instance, no magical difference between a Somali or an Afar, an Arab or Kurd, or a Brit or a Frenchman.

You're not tied to your ethnicity. It doesn't inherently imbue you with any qualities, good or bad.

You say: "I am associated with a country widely regarded as the most corrupt, most poor and worse in so many categories".

This is not an inherent feature of being Somali or even of Somalia itself, though. It's a result of historical contingency and Somalia's marginalised position within the global world-system. There's very little difference between humans, and physical differences in, say, skin tone or eye colour, are very superficial. They only vary because they're controlled by a small number of genes that don't have a significant impact on your 'human-ness' in any way. There is no cognitive difference between ethnic or racial groups (which are largely constructed and artificial, as human physical and genetic difference is on a gradient but largely miniscule, there are no concrete differentiation), and you're not intrinsically bound to whatever cultural aspects you don't like, especially since you're diaspora.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I suppose I'm relieved to be white british in the UK. One less thing for children to pick on when I was young. Although- they found other things- being overweight and ugly. I'm not proud of how some white british people behave though. I'm not even comfortable with how I think some of the time. I'm not entirely without prejudice.

 

[dune7263]

Ethnicity is a social construct. There is, for instance, no magical difference between a Somali or an Afar, an Arab or Kurd, or a Brit or a Frenchman.

You're not tied to your ethnicity. It doesn't inherently imbue you with any qualities, good or bad.

You say: "I am associated with a country widely regarded as the most corrupt, most poor and worse in so many categories".

This is not an inherent feature of being Somali or even of Somalia itself, though. It's a result of historical contingency and Somalia's marginalised position within the global world-system. There's very little difference between humans, and physical differences in, say, skin tone or eye colour, are very superficial. They only vary because they're controlled by a small number of genes that don't have a significant impact on your 'human-ness' in any way. There is no cognitive difference between ethnic or racial groups (which are largely constructed and artificial, as human physical and genetic difference is on a gradient but largely miniscule, there are no concrete differentiation), and you're not intrinsically bound to whatever cultural aspects you don't like, especially since you're diaspora.

there's still culture and there are a lot of parts mine that are culturally backwards like fgm, gender apartheid, child marriage etc

 

[Foolishness]

I also hate my ethnicity. I have since childhood. I've grown better at accepting it now, but I won't deny that I still have envy.

 

[deadbidaylight]

I am white and a lot of times hate my ethnicity.

I hate how everyone talks about white privilege. I know it's a thing but it's not as pronounced as a lot of people are led to believe. Being from Canada, our country is focused a lot on inclusion, which is great. But it's getting to the point here that we are marginalized because of the countries need to please everyone. It's like we're being forgotten about. People new to the country get tons of handouts to help them get established when they come here, but many of us are struggling for housing and putting food on our tables. We are taxed to death here. We don't get handouts.

I also hate that if we are proud to be white, we are instantly called a racist. Literally every other ethnicity is allowed to be proud except for us. Coincidentally, tonssssss of other ethnicities are racist towards us, but are never, ever accused of being racist. That's just not a thing.

I don't think it's fair. That's my opinion though. I'm not here for an argument so please don't bother.

 

[JesiBel]

Not really. My family's blood isn't "pure". I'm a mix of descendant of Italian and Spanish immigrants and native people.

 

[dune7263]

I am white and a lot of times hate my ethnicity.

I hate how everyone talks about white privilege. I know it's a thing but it's not as pronounced as a lot of people are led to believe. Being from Canada, our country is focused a lot on inclusion, which is great. But it's getting to the point here that we are marginalized because of the countries need to please everyone. It's like we're being forgotten about. People new to the country get tons of handouts to help them get established when they come here, but many of us are struggling for housing and putting food on our tables. We are taxed to death here. We don't get handouts.

I also hate that if we are proud to be white, we are instantly called a racist. Literally every other ethnicity is allowed to be proud except for us. Coincidentally, tonssssss of other ethnicities are racist towards us, but are never, ever accused of being racist. That's just not a thing.

I don't think it's fair. That's my opinion though. I'm not here for an argument so please don't bother.

a lot of what you said is true, there are double standards against white people

 

[sspkky]

It's crazy how white coucasian pepole have modified so much history to have been seen as the "good guys" that every person on this thread that doesn't like their ethnicity doesn't because they are used of this perception that has been installed into society.
I have immigrant parents, and since i was little i've been made fun of my origin so much that i started to hate it, so much i forced my partents to not speak their native langauge anymore, and now i don't know how to speak in that language anymore because of this, and i regret it so much. I know it's kinda usless to say this since i look white but hating your own ethnicity just powers this perception, and i think it's fine to hate how you look (i do too), but you should put some barriers and realize that not every person of your ethnicity enter in the racial steriotypes set by others and if you think they still do just realize you are not your race, you are yourself, be less harsh on yourself on things you can't control.

 

[divinemistress36]

Off topic but Im jealous of people with tan and darker skin cause they tend to look younger than they are less wrinkles sorry if that sounds vain

 

[EvisceratedJester]

I hate how everyone talks about white privilege. I know it's a thing but it's not as pronounced as a lot of people are led to believe.

How do you know? You are shielded by your privilege from a lot of the bullshit that people of colour have to go through. Also, being white isn't an ethnicity. It's a race. Nobody is going to go after a white person who is proud of their ethnic roots, such as if they are of Irish or French descent. There is a difference between "white pride" and showing appreciation for your ethnic roots. My mother is an immigrant and she has had to face all sorts of racist bullshit while living here. She has struggled financially throughout basically the entirety of my life, so I have no clue where these "handouts" are. She probably would have loved to have had some considering the amount of times she's struggled to pay rent. There are no double standards against you. Stop pretending to be oppressed.

 

[Lo$t95]

This thread has unsurprisingly gone to shit… how about we all skip this argument?

 

[deadbidaylight]

How do you know? You are shielded by your privilege from a lot of the bullshit that people of colour have to go through. Also, being white isn't an ethnicity. It's a race. Nobody is going to go after a white person who is proud of their ethnic roots, such as if they are of Irish or French descent. There is a difference between "white pride" and showing appreciation for your ethnic roots. My mother is an immigrant and she has had to face all sorts of racist bullshit while living here. She has struggled financially throughout basically the entirety of my life, so I have no clue where these "handouts" are. She probably would have loved to have had some considering the amount of times she's struggled to pay rent. There are no double standards against you. Stop pretending to be oppressed.

Okay for real. What the hell is your problem with me? I can't seem to say anything without you ripping me apart. If I bother you so much, why don't you click ignore on my name so you don't have to get so worked up over my existence on this site? It's irritating asf.

I am entitled to my opinion just as much as everyone else on this thread. Think whatever the hell you like but I am fucking done arguing with you. I stated specifically in my post that I'm not here to argue so don't bother, and yet you still want to cause drama. Please, fuck off.

This thread has unsurprisingly gone to shit… how about we all skip this argument?

It's because of me. This person for some reason has it out for me so I cannot post on this forum with any sort of opinion without it going to shit. I'm sorry, it's my fault.

 

[soledad.virgen]

i dont hate being mexican, but i also recognize that im very privileged given that im half whitexican and i grew up in a predominantly mexican community. but i don't blame people who hold negative attitudes against themselves, most first world countries promote the dominant group one way or another and it's easy for minorities to internalize those sorts of notions. it's easy to say like "just don't place so much value on it" but it's probably much harder to actually rewire your brain to do that.

 

[iamanavalanche]

i am japanese and i dont necessarily hate being it but i despise how i am treated. the constant fetishisation throughout my life for being japanese is a lot of the reason why i want to ctb. sometimes, because i live in the UK, i just want to be white. i can sometimes be so jealous due to how alien i feel that i look sometimes.


also:
this is such bs. you wouldnt know your privilege since you can walk around without what poc go through. i advise you to educate yourself please please on poc experience and stop trying to act like a victim for not being a minority.

I am white and a lot of times hate my ethnicity.

I hate how everyone talks about white privilege. I know it's a thing but it's not as pronounced as a lot of people are led to believe. Being from Canada, our country is focused a lot on inclusion, which is great. But it's getting to the point here that we are marginalized because of the countries need to please everyone. It's like we're being forgotten about. People new to the country get tons of handouts to help them get established when they come here, but many of us are struggling for housing and putting food on our tables. We are taxed to death here. We don't get handouts.

I also hate that if we are proud to be white, we are instantly called a racist. Literally every other ethnicity is allowed to be proud except for us. Coincidentally, tonssssss of other ethnicities are racist towards us, but are never, ever accused of being racist. That's just not a thing.

I don't think it's fair. That's my opinion though. I'm not here for an argument so please don't bother.

 

[deadbidaylight]

See? This proves my point. Anyone on here who isn't white gets to voice their opinion. But because I am white I am ridiculed based on my opinions about what I've experienced living in Canada. THATS actually what's bullshit.

Can you see that maybe this is why I don't enjoy being white? Because I'm not allowed to say that I've faced any kind of backlash or whatsoever just because I'm not a person of colour?

Here's a prime example, and there's no arguing on this one. I applied for a job that I had the exact qualifications for. I was told to my face that unfortunately they were only hiring a person of colour for that position and handed me my resume back. That's white privilege right?

You know what. It's not even worth it for me. yall win. I don't have the strength anymore.

 

[Pathetic and Sad]

I'm originally from a third world country too, I feel mostly indifferent about it. While, I think I would be having it much easier with first world citizenship and and Caucasian features, I'm not necessarily unhappy with where and what I was born as.

See? This proves my point. Anyone on here who isn't white gets to voice their opinion. But because I am white I am ridiculed based on my opinions about what I've experienced living in Canada. THATS actually what's bullshit.

Can you see that maybe this is why I don't enjoy being white? Because I'm not allowed to say that I've faced any kind of backlash or whatsoever just because I'm not a person of colour?

Here's a prime example, and there's no arguing on this one. I applied for a job that I had the exact qualifications for. I was told to my face that unfortunately they were only hiring a person of colour for that position and handed me my resume back. That's white privilege right?

You know what. It's not even worth it for me. yall win. I don't have the strength anymore.

So sorry you had to go through that. And happiness is relative, even if you are in objectively better position than me at life, you can still be more unhappy and depressed so you pov is totally valid.. But a question, would you prefer being of any other ethnicity than what you are right now?