Discussion Does anyone else switch from liking to disliking a person based on if theyre talking to them or not?

[coolgal82]

Something ive noticed is with like about 2-3 people my opinion on them changes based on whether im actively talking to them or not (also sometimes not based on that but it mostly is)

Like take this one person, he has some views i dont agree with and does some stuff that annoys me/that i dislike, but when im not talking to him those issues feel like 10x as big and bad and i just genuinely do not like him and i dont get how i like him and like i would just consider cutting contact if i could

But then when we're in vc together suddenly its like nah im having fun hes chill and those issues are basically non existent and i don't care about them? and we're just chill and friends. then when they leave its back to that.

Does anyone else do this? is this normal? or is this just a me thing? cus like at this point idk what is and isnt normal lmao. my brain is very weird with people but like in different ways for different people, and this is just one way ive noticed.

 

[gnarly]

I get this 100% I was the same with my old friend groups. I would always go back in forth on my opinion.

 

[coolgal82]

I get this 100% I was the same with my old friend groups. I would always go back in forth on my opinion.

i go back and forth like way more extreme but less often with my besties there lmao and for some people it just shifts randomly for some its like when im interacting with them for others its just stuck one way idk its weird lmao

 

[gnarly]

i go back and forth like way more extreme but less often with my besties there lmao and for some people it just shifts randomly for some its like when im interacting with them for others its just stuck one way idk its weird lmao

I don't think I've switched up on a bestie. but I usually just switch on friends or co workers at my job.

 

[coolgal82]

I don't think I've switched up on a bestie. but I usually just switch on friends or co workers at my job.

fair. with my besties its like every few weeks or so at this point sometimes more often sometimes less? but its always like something like them hanging out with eachother without me and i percieve that as like them not caring about me and they just seem like idk just bad lmao and i just start hating them. it usually ends after like i go to sleep but one time it didnt? idk. this is all kinda new cus like i've never had this happen like this before. previous friendgroups and friends i have fell out with due to some like tiny issue blowing up and i decide theyre just evil or dont care about me or whatever and i cut them off and like i can kinda remember changing my opinion on them in like smaller ways. ngl it's been really hard not to cut my besties off lmao even though i love them sm and im literally nothing without them. my running theory is its because im closer with these guys than i ever have been with other friends. idk. i've had most of the other ways of it manifesting happen before but not exactly like this

 

[gnarly]

fair. with my besties its like every few weeks or so at this point sometimes more often sometimes less? but its always like something like them hanging out with eachother without me and i percieve that as like them not caring about me and they just seem like idk just bad lmao and i just start hating them. it usually ends after like i go to sleep but one time it didnt? idk. this is all kinda new cus like i've never had this happen like this before. previous friendgroups and friends i have fell out with due to some like tiny issue blowing up and i decide theyre just evil or dont care about me or whatever and i cut them off and like i can kinda remember changing my opinion on them in like smaller ways. ngl it's been really hard not to cut my besties off lmao even though i love them sm and im literally nothing without them. my running theory is its because im closer with these guys than i ever have been with other friends. idk. i've had most of the other ways of it manifesting happen before but not exactly like this

I unfortunately lost all my friends in the end. Idk if it's selfishness or what but tbh they were pretty terrible people so I'm glad I ended up losin em in the end lol

 

[coolgal82]

I unfortunately lost all my friends in the end. Idk if it's selfishness or what but tbh they were pretty terrible people so I'm glad I ended up losin em in the end lol

i guess thats good then?

 

[gnarly]

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i guess thats good then?

I guess so. Being alone sucks tho. Kinda like a win lose situation lmao

 

[coolgal82]

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I guess so. Being alone sucks tho. Kinda like a win lose situation lmao

yeah i guess