Venting Everyone invalidates my feelings

[ThatStateOfMind]

I feel like my family specifically just invalidates how I feel.

It hurts when the people who are supposed to love and support you are simultaneously the ones who make you feel bad. Every time I try to open up, I feel dismissed, like my thoughts or feelings are inconveniences.

I feel like a burden sometimes. I know I'm likely not but regardless, it's how i feel. I feel like my mind is just broken, wired the wrong way. My thoughts spiral in ways that don't make sense to others.

Idk I feel exhausted and lonely. I may delete this post later, I don't know. I just feel isolated and need this off of my chest to move on with my day for now. Feels like a small weight off my chest.

 

[Electra]

I'm so sorry you feel this way. Venting here can certainly help. Do you have any friends that you could talk to and tell them how you feel? If not, like I said - writing your thoughts here to get that weight off your chest can definitely help.

 

[Overwhelmed52]

I agree that venting here helps a lot. It is really hard when your family is not on your side-- especially because it is assumed that they will be, so if you tell someone you're family doesn't love you, the automatic reaction is "Aw, of course they do." But, in reality, that's not the case for a -lot- of people. You can probably find a number of books on it. Definitely keep writing things down, even if you delete or throw them away later.

 

[ThatStateOfMind]

I'm so sorry you feel this way. Venting here can certainly help. Do you have any friends that you could talk to and tell them how you feel? If not, like I said - writing your thoughts here to get that weight off your chest can definitely help.

Not really, I tried with one and still felt somewhat invalidated. It did help to write this down though

I agree that venting here helps a lot. It is really hard when your family is not on your side-- especially because it is assumed that they will be, so if you tell someone you're family doesn't love you, the automatic reaction is "Aw, of course they do." But, in reality, that's not the case for a -lot- of people. You can probably find a number of books on it. Definitely keep writing things down, even if you delete or throw them away later.

Yeah, you would expect your family, especially immediate family to be supportive and help when you need it but it isn't like that. It is helpful to write things here. I've probably posted and deleted a few times in the last couple weeks, my mental state is fluctuating so badly right now. I'm just grateful the mods and the site itself have, so far, let me delete things. I don't intend to abuse that either.

 

[Overwhelmed52]

Not really, I tried with one and still felt somewhat invalidated. It did help to write this down though


Yeah, you would expect your family, especially immediate family to be supportive and help when you need it but it isn't like that. It is helpful to write things here. I've probably posted and deleted a few times in the last couple weeks, my mental state is fluctuating so badly right now. I'm just grateful the mods and the site itself have, so far, let me delete things. I don't intend to abuse that either.

My mother has issues and doesn't like anything that hers, including her husband and kids. She was the dominant person in the family and was always putting us down, to ourselves and to others. Some people are just not cut out to be parents. It's good that you recognize how your family makes you feel, that will help you go in the right direction. Sometimes it helps to write down what you advice you would give to someone else in your situation.

 

[Electra]

Not really, I tried with one and still felt somewhat invalidated. It did help to write this down though

Well, if you ever want to chat or just tell me what's on your mind - I'm here for you. I know how it feels when you keep inside things because you can't voice them.

 

[ThatStateOfMind]

Well, if you ever want to chat or just tell me what's on your mind - I'm here for you. I know how it feels when you keep inside things because you can't voice them.

Alright I greatly appreciate that. I'll keep it in mind

 

[LaVieEnRose]

Your existence could never be a burden

 

[Thisisnotaname]

Same here, I heard laugh and joke. Fk

 

[APeacefulPlace]

I feel like my family specifically just invalidates how I feel.

It hurts when the people who are supposed to love and support you are simultaneously the ones who make you feel bad. Every time I try to open up, I feel dismissed, like my thoughts or feelings are inconveniences.

I feel like a burden sometimes. I know I'm likely not but regardless, it's how i feel. I feel like my mind is just broken, wired the wrong way. My thoughts spiral in ways that don't make sense to others.

Idk I feel exhausted and lonely. I may delete this post later, I don't know. I just feel isolated and need this off of my chest to move on with my day for now. Feels like a small weight off my chest.

Hey, I'm glad you shared that you feel that way because I do too, maybe not exactly but it's close, you helped me feel less alone, thank you!

 

[Alcoholic Teletubby]

Story of our lives, bro. *hugs*

 

[ThatStateOfMind]

Your existence could never be a burden

Thank you, your replies to my posts genuinely help. Recently, a part on my car has failed me, and I'm gonna have to spend quite a bit to get it up and running again, unfortunately, which is why I'm on the site today.

Hey, I'm glad you shared that you feel that way because I do too, maybe not exactly but it's close, you helped me feel less alone, thank you!

Thanks, I'm glad I could help. Sucks that we have to feel this way :/