Feeling sad and lonely

[blackpillhopeless]

Just feeling sad and lonely, and feeling hopeless about ever finding a romantic partner because I am losing all my hair. Don't really have anyone to talk to as it's late at night here and most of my friends abandoned me when I opened up about my struggles.

 

[roommate]

Sorry you feel this way.
I've given up on ever finding a romantic relationship, it's just not meant to be for me.

And a shame you didn't get the support from your friends you deserve.

 

[tiredoflife2]

So sorry to about your hair, it must be difficult for you,

 

[MatrixPrisoner]

Physical attributes that we have no control over is quite possibly the cruelest thing about this existence. Congrats to the rich and beautiful people that won an existence lottery ticket. The rest of us that are suffering from being excluded from this club should be allowed euthanasia. Why are we forced to suffer?

 

[ShatteredSerenity]

I feel hopeless about finding a romantic partner because bipolar disorder destroyed my life and now I'm a cringey looser. Last year I had two nice homes, high paid tech career, beautiful wife and kids, lots of interesting activities, and now I live with my parents at 43 and barely get out of bed. Remembering time with my wife and kids is just traumatic, my only ambition each day is to CTB tomorrow.

 

[puppycharge]

Yeah I'm sorry about everything that's happened. I know I will most likely die never been in any relationship.

 

[tiredoflife2]

I feel hopeless about finding a romantic partner because bipolar disorder destroyed my life and now I'm a cringey looser. Last year I had two nice homes, high paid tech career, beautiful wife and kids, lots of interesting activities, and now I live with my parents at 43 and barely get out of bed. Remembering time with my wife and kids is just traumatic, my only ambition each day is to CTB tomorrow.

What happened to your wife? It's horrible when your life changes so drastically, sounds like you've gone through a lot these past few months

 

[DivineSpark]

I feel hopeless about finding a romantic partner because bipolar disorder destroyed my life and now I'm a cringey looser. Last year I had two nice homes, high paid tech career, beautiful wife and kids, lots of interesting activities, and now I live with my parents at 43 and barely get out of bed. Remembering time with my wife and kids is just traumatic, my only ambition each day is to CTB tomorrow.

Such fall sucks....losing everything...

 

[Richard Langford]

I say this a fair bit but it still holds true. I've had numerous relationships and numerous and numerous AND NUMEROUS sexual relationships (a big old number). I'm still here. In my country 2/3rds of people get divorced and a significant proportion of those not divorced are arguably unhappily married. Maybe what you're missing here is company perhaps. You're lonley. I don't think personally you're missing much in romantic relationship terms.

 

[lawlietsph]

I am so sorry you have to feel this pain. Not being okay with your appearance is another level of suffering...
I am a woman and also have some bald spots and very thin hair due to hormonal problems and depression.
Feeling like you'll never be desired by anyone is just plain torture.

 

[ShatteredSerenity]

What happened to your wife? It's horrible when your life changes so drastically, sounds like you've gone through a lot these past few months

The worst thing is she doesn't even tell me why she left me. I don't bother to ask because it would only make me more upset. I'm sure it's a mixture of misunderstandings and falsehoods.

My wife fell in love with another man (with my approval) who is more handsome, he's more sociable, he's much taller, he has an enormous cock, he's ultra athletic, and he's basically a chick magnet. His wife is also a hottie, and I had fun with her too, so I figured everything was cool and we'd stay married to the same partners, with the added benefit of intimate relations with this other couple who we both really clicked with as friends and lovers.

Then things changed out of nowhere with my wife, first she started questioning everything I did with money (even though I always was the money manager), then she served me divorce papers with no notice when I was staying at our vacation home. I basically panicked, and I believe all that stress pushed me into a manic episode. I was pretty sure my wife was angling to get her new lover to divorce his wife so she could marry him. Later I found out that was indeed the case, when his wife sent me photos of notes he sent her saying he wanted to divorce her to marry my wife.

I'm sad that the 4 of us couldn't make things work out, for example we could have just remarried each other amicably. But the other couple is too emotionally unstable. I continued to be friendly with his wife, but she has a serious case of untreated BPD and I had to break off communication with her. My wife is stable and extremely intelligent, but she's Russian so she can also be very mysterious, callous, stubborn, and fatalistic.

So anyways, that the steamy events that destroyed my marriage and my life. When the relationship worked it was incredible, but I was caught completely by surprise that it blew up so quickly, and it's extra painful because I still love all of them.

 

[tiredoflife2]

The worst thing is she doesn't even tell me why she left me. I don't bother to ask because it would only make me more upset. I'm sure it's a mixture of misunderstandings and falsehoods.

My wife fell in love with another man (with my approval) who is more handsome, he's more sociable, he's much taller, he has an enormous cock, he's ultra athletic, and he's basically a chick magnet. His wife is also a hottie, and I had fun with her too, so I figured everything was cool and we'd stay married to the same partners, with the added benefit of intimate relations with this other couple who we both really clicked with as friends and lovers.

Then things changed out of nowhere with my wife, first she started questioning everything I did with money (even though I always was the money manager), then she served me divorce papers with no notice when I was staying at our vacation home. I basically panicked, and I believe all that stress pushed me into a manic episode. I was pretty sure my wife was angling to get her new lover to divorce his wife so she could marry him. Later I found out that was indeed the case, when his wife sent me photos of notes he sent her saying he wanted to divorce her to marry my wife.

I'm sad that the 4 of us couldn't make things work out, for example we could have just remarried each other amicably. But the other couple is too emotionally unstable. I continued to be friendly with his wife, but she has a serious case of untreated BPD and I had to break off communication with her. My wife is stable and extremely intelligent, but she's Russian so she can also be very mysterious, callous, stubborn, and fatalistic.

So anyways, that the steamy events that destroyed my marriage and my life. When the relationship worked it was incredible, but I was caught completely by surprise that it blew up so quickly, and it's extra painful because I still love all of them.

Maybe you didn't do anything wrong and she just fell in love with him. When it hurts we tend to want closure, but as they say time is a healer. And you never know, perhaps their relationship won't even last.

From my own experience of a breakup, sometimes you don't ever get over them, but you move on and the pain does get easier. You've still got time to heal and start a new life in your 40s.

 

[blackpillhopeless]

I say this a fair bit but it still holds true. I've had numerous relationships and numerous and numerous AND NUMEROUS sexual relationships (a big old number). I'm still here. In my country 2/3rds of people get divorced and a significant proportion of those not divorced are arguably unhappily married. Maybe what you're missing here is company perhaps. You're lonley. I don't think personally you're missing much in romantic relationship terms.

I've had periods of my life where I had close friends with whom I spent quality time, I still felt miserable and lonely due to the lack of a romantic relationship even when I spent time with them. The biological drive to mate is too strong in me and cannot be replaced by friends/family. I appreciate your input but it's kind of like saying to a person who is suicidal due to being poor, 'hey look I'm rich I'm still suicidal, money is not what you need.' We're all different, and will have different reasons for feeling suicidal, we will have different things we want in life.