Help Final additions to my suicide note

[TransTaxEvader]

hey sasu, tomorrow will be my final day and i have fully finished my note minus the last part that I would like YOUR help with.

i want to add a small portion just filled with questions that my friends and family might have for me, and Im not sure what to include for the questions, if you all have any ideas for questions, or maybe have someone who's passed away in your life that you wish you could ask these questions to, feel free to respond

i love you all and thank you for being such a welcoming community, I felt accepted here, you all have made the journey less lonely.

 

[Manaaja]

I have known many who have committed suicides. This is what I'd like to ask them:

Could it have gone differently or did it feel it was destined to happen?
Did you ever show your suicidality and we failed to notice?
Why did you choose this time and not a year earlier or later?
What is something you wanted to tell a specific person or everyone but couldn't?

 

[Average Joe]

I won't interfere with your choice of ending things but please 'proof-read' your letter to make sure you aren't passing on guilt/shame.
I don't know you, your circumstances or what your letter says but try state why you did it and that there's nothing that could have been done differently.

Edit: Just to add, I lost my ex last year and I often ask myself "why didn't she reach out?". Although I suppose when someone is determined to die, they won't reach out.
There are some answers you can give but I doubt they will have any effect. When people say to me "there's nothing you could have done" I brush it off and still ponder about what I could have done.

Hindsight is a bitch.

 

[TransTaxEvader]

I won't interfere with your choice of ending things but please 'proof-read' your letter to make sure you aren't passing on guilt/shame.
I don't know you, your circumstances or what your letter says but try state why you did it and that there's nothing that could have been done differently.

Edit: Just to add, I lost my ex last year and I often ask myself "why didn't she reach out?". Although I suppose when someone is determined to die, they won't reach out.
There are some answers you can give but I doubt they will have any effect. When people say to me "there's nothing you could have done" I brush it off and still ponder about what I could have done.

Hindsight is a bitch.

I'm sorry that happened, I'm leaving behind a part specifically saying that no one was to blame for it.

 

[Average Joe]

I'm sorry that happened, I'm leaving behind a part specifically saying that no one was to blame for it.

I wish you the best of luck with your decision. I'm very sorry your in this position

 

[TransTaxEvader]

I have known many who have committed suicides. This is what I'd like to ask them:

Could it have gone differently or did it feel it was destined to happen?
Did you ever show your suicidality and we failed to notice?
Why did you choose this time and not a year earlier or later?
What is something you wanted to tell a specific person or everyone but couldn't?

thank you for this. I appreciate your contribution and in sorry for your loss, but my loved ones will get the answer to these questions because of you.

 

[opheliaoveragain]

honestly everyone above me covered it. sending you hugs OP

 

[skyfall]

13 reasons why and 11 reasons why not.

 

[timmy_o]

For my suicide note, I have written:
1. Acknowledging all their love for me,
2. Telling them that I purposefully didn't reach out, and that I know that all of them would have helped me if I had reached out:
"This decision was about my struggle, not about your perceived failure. None of you failed me."
3. Telling them that their place in my life is what kept me from CTB until now,
4. Giving them permission to be angry at me, to hate me, to grieve me,
5. Giving them vague, nonspecific closure:
"I drove somewhere and hiked into the woods where no one would find me. I was comfortable and at peace with my decision. It was instant and painless."
6. Giving them the entire list of reasons why I made the decision.

That's all the questions I can imagine they would have for me. Why I did it, what they could have done differently, what kept me from doing it until now, how I died.
I won't be telling them specifically how I died, so they don't have to imagine me actually doing it. That's too much.

 

[Loser1989]

I'm going to miss you. I dont have any suggestions, I just hope you find your peace and know you've made my time here happy.

 

[StrugglingSienna]

For my suicide note, I have written:
1. Acknowledging all their love for me,
2. Telling them that I purposefully didn't reach out, and that I know that all of them would have helped me if I had reached out:
"This decision was about my struggle, not about your perceived failure. None of you failed me."
3. Telling them that their place in my life is what kept me from CTB until now,
4. Giving them permission to be angry at me, to hate me, to grieve me,
5. Giving them vague, nonspecific closure:
"I drove somewhere and hiked into the woods where no one would find me. I was comfortable and at peace with my decision. It was instant and painless."
6. Giving them the entire list of reasons why I made the decision.

That's all the questions I can imagine they would have for me. Why I did it, what they could have done differently, what kept me from doing it until now, how I died.
I won't be telling them specifically how I died, so they don't have to imagine me actually doing it. That's too much.

This is really simple and really good. Thank you. I'll probably be using this a few times when drafting my own note.