Help Getting over people

[shrizoid]

How do you get over someone?
There's people I used to be extremely close with but now I just want to get over them and move on, I want to move on from these people just they just can't get out of my head, it makes me feel horrible and is one of the things hindering my recovery

 

[derpyderpins]

Well, we have certain social needs. (Yes, everyone does). So it is possible that these people were filling a certain social need for you and you haven't moved anyone else into a position to fill that role. You may have to meet new people or get closer to the ones who are still in your life.

Another thing is how you think about life. I think of it as a novel. A story. An adventure, in some ways. Sometimes, characters play their role and then the story moves away from them. It doesn't diminish their importance. It doesn't mean you don't care, or you are doing them dirty, or that your life can never be complete without them. It's just the next chapter, and even if this one isn't great there will be a chapter after that.

 

[JoysoftheEmptiness]

Try discover and develop new activities, to help occupy your mind. I know it can be difficult, I've been there, and still am there.

 

[shrizoid]

Well, we have certain social needs. (Yes, everyone does). So it is possible that these people were filling a certain social need for you and you haven't moved anyone else into a position to fill that role. You may have to meet new people or get closer to the ones who are still in your life.

Another thing is how you think about life. I think of it as a novel. A story. An adventure, in some ways. Sometimes, characters play their role and then the story moves away from them. It doesn't diminish their importance. It doesn't mean you don't care, or you are doing them dirty, or that your life can never be complete without them. It's just the next chapter, and even if this one isn't great there will be a chapter after that.

The novel way of seeing things seems nice, but I have been trying to find new people, it's hard ngl

Try discover and develop new activities, to help occupy your mind. I know it can be difficult, I've been there, and still am there.

I'll have to find something to give a try