Discussion Happiness - my take

[BeenDoneForSoLong]

I think happiness needs to come from within. It needs to be removed from external influences. Otherwise if will spiral and twist further downwards, at that point it will become inevitable- you will crack.

There are extremely traumatic exceptions to this rule. But if you think you need your girlfriend back, or a girlfriend at all. Or a better job, or one at all... to stop you from killing yourself. Then I think your mind state is entirely misplaced. You're not even giving yourself a chance. You're not addressing what the real issue. And if that's what the issue really IS ( a girl, a house, a job). You need to move past it (or try). It is truely only temporary in your case.



I hope whoever is reading this can find a way to control your inner happiness, I think you need to find an existential meaning, or a philosophy towards life that brings you happiness.



I've done the full circles. - I've gone from homeless- to rich - to poor - single - in love - sex addict.



At all points during my adult life. I wanted to die. I think my mind could be too far in the gutter. I'm in what should be a content, easy road now. Everything from my relationship to my job should put me in a very content place - Compared to when suicidal thoughts first manifested at least. But it hasn't . I want to die. I have not yet found my philosophy for life. I have not yet been able to shake the existential feelings that weight me down. Maybe my hormones are all too fucked up still who knows?

But I'm trying to find it still. I guess I'm just making this post... Because I think that's the right path to look down. Maybe I won't even make it. I'd love for someone to argue against, or add to what I've rambled on about. Any advice, would be awesome.

Thanks.

 

[After The End]

I think happiness needs to come from within

I think it follows a psycho-social-physical model.

I've done the full circles. - I've gone from homeless- to rich - to poor - single - in love - sex addict.

Do you have much experience with stability and structure?

 

[AvaAdore]

I think happiness comes from when you are fulfilling yourself by living according to the things you value. So if caring about other makes you happy it would make sense to care of yourself so that you're in a position to take care of others.

 

[BeenDoneForSoLong]

Do you have much experience with stability and structure?

In adult life? Not a whole lot to be honest. Over the last year- definitely. But maybe you need to become more acclimatised to stable surroundings before you can then build your mindset up from that point?

 

[BitterlyAlive]

I think happiness comes from when you are fulfilling yourself by living according to the things you value.

I agree with this. I believe it also comes from being content with your life; to me this is better to strive for than happiness because happiness is so fleeting.

 

[so tired or manic]

it's okay if your happiness is external because some of us aren't capable of being happy unless there's a brain transplant.

 

[Deleted member 1465]

I think happiness comes from fulfillment, and that may be different for different people. If happiness comes from within, could one be happy alone and isolated, cut off from everything?
I think acceptance or understanding come from within and you need that to be able to fully appreciate fulfillment from external sources without becoming enslaved to it.
Innocence is happy due to acceptance, whilst understanding can bring happiness but only via experience, and that comes with its own dangers.
If.