Help Has anyone ever thought they had no chance at a social life, only to end up finding one?

[slamjoetry]

I think the main thing pushing me to CTB is the crippling loneliness. I ruined my own social life and pushed away every person who ever cared about me, leaving me with no-one. And it makes every single obstacle in my life feel so much worse. If only I had someone to confide in and be comforted by, things would feel so much easier. Maybe I'd have the will to live, because then I'd be living for somebody. Cause I don't really give a damn about living for myself.
I really want to try to make friends and start a new social life, maybe even try dating again. But it feels insurmountable. I'm a total mess, undeserving of friendship. Is it really possible? Please share your experiences if you relate at all. I really need the motivation to at least try.

 

[Sheeanabrugh]

Oh yeah.
I was intensely lonely as a kid, thought I'd never have one friend. It's crazy because I never believed the advice that if you just go out and talk to people some of them will be your friend???
My neighbor is one of my best friends now. It's always possible

 

[Gangrel]

Yep, never imagined i had partner, i still don't have friends irl but a lot of people find me very nice to be around i think, at least they say that. But they're never my age. I just don't have much places to go living in a small town and i work alone inside an office with like two middle aged ladies. I do have some pretty great online friendships.

 

[Mirrory Me]

It can feel good and comforting to spend time with close people, you can get support and understanding from them. Then again, there are those moments when you have to learn something yourself, for example: about yourself and life.

 

[N33dT0D13]

It is possible, I went from socially hopeless to an accidental social butterfly but I still feel empty so having so many people in my life kind of makes things worse lol

 

[Temporal_Anchorite]

I have no advice to offer, just my sympathies. You sound exactly like me, so I totally get it.

I've destroyed all my relationships and burnt countless bridges, now I'm left with no one. Unfortunately, I don't have the social skills or energy to try to cultivate new ones, so I think I'm pretty fucked lol

 

[Aloneandinpain]

If you've dated in the past then that shies you can do it.

I still haven't had my first kiss yet and my shyness and 100% failure rate to find a partner makes me extremely depressed and I get anxiety knowing that the odds are I'll die a virgin.

 

[ceilng_tile]

Starting a social life is the hardest part. I've lived in multiple cities and had friends in about half of them. The difference between being able to make friends and having no friends for me is whether I find a group or a designated person with an existing social circle.

 

[sadidiot0328]

I have an online friend group but I dont have many irl people Im friendly with. Its a depressing feeling watching my peers in college go out to places with their friends while I sit at home, infront of my computer alone.

 

[Mirrory Me]

I have an online friend group but I dont have many irl people Im friendly with. Its a depressing feeling watching my peers in college go out to places with their friends while I sit at home, infront of my computer alone.

If you feel bit introverted, you could try start talk to local people online, and then perhaps hook up something irl?