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noname223
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- Aug 18, 2020
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I had my self-help group. There were two newbies. One was a woman that told us she struggles to open up in front of others. Afterwards she was very open and explicit about her traumatas and mental struggles. We were surprised how open she was and complimented her. Later she added she only struggles to open up in front of friends because she is scared to lose them if she is too honest. (Tbh imo If a friend does that he is not worth to be my friend.) In front of strangers she has no issues to open up as we found out later.
Later in the conversation she started to talk about masturbation. That sometimes when she masturbates she randomly starts crying. And it ruins her sexual experience. It was not one sentence. Rather 3-4. I shared the role of the moderator today with someone else. And when she said it gladly I was not the moderator. He handled it very well. It felt so awkward. I would have frozen as moderator. She genuinely wanted to talk about her masturbation experience. If I had been the moderator I would have had to tell her my view on it. Which I would have rejected. I looked at the face of the other newbie and he had to chuckle hard. I did not dare to look at the woman where I had/have a crush in that moment.
I don't even dare to talk about masturbation on Sanctioned Suicide an anonymous suicide forum. I did not feel comfortable in that moment.
I am against the concept of trauma dumping. And I am not angry or offended. It was just weird. I get what strangers think is unnecessary. But you know many in self-help groups have sexual traumatas. It is not something everyone wants to talk about. Interestingly, we never talked about side effects of medication. And despite the fact we say sexuality is on the agenda of this group. I never witnessed a meeting where we talked openly about sexuality. I think it is too awkward for everyone.
Later in the conversation she started to talk about masturbation. That sometimes when she masturbates she randomly starts crying. And it ruins her sexual experience. It was not one sentence. Rather 3-4. I shared the role of the moderator today with someone else. And when she said it gladly I was not the moderator. He handled it very well. It felt so awkward. I would have frozen as moderator. She genuinely wanted to talk about her masturbation experience. If I had been the moderator I would have had to tell her my view on it. Which I would have rejected. I looked at the face of the other newbie and he had to chuckle hard. I did not dare to look at the woman where I had/have a crush in that moment.
I don't even dare to talk about masturbation on Sanctioned Suicide an anonymous suicide forum. I did not feel comfortable in that moment.
I am against the concept of trauma dumping. And I am not angry or offended. It was just weird. I get what strangers think is unnecessary. But you know many in self-help groups have sexual traumatas. It is not something everyone wants to talk about. Interestingly, we never talked about side effects of medication. And despite the fact we say sexuality is on the agenda of this group. I never witnessed a meeting where we talked openly about sexuality. I think it is too awkward for everyone.
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