Help How do I cope with not having a single friend?

[Theodora]

I don't know.. I'm fucking trying.. 21 now and I still don't have a single friend.. I know I'm grateful to have a bf but honestly our relationship is going south.. I live at home and rn my older brother is going thought stuff, my other brother comes and goes.. they are on the phone talking to their friends, going out with friends .. my self worth is just rock bottom rn..

 

[goofy]

No way to "cope" with not having any friends (a community of people you are accepted in).

Only way is to get friends.

 

[Pluto]

Why do you think this is happening? For some people it can relate to autism, for others it could be anxiety, PTSD or low energy levels.

 

[whatevs]

No way to "cope" with not having any friends (a community of people you are accepted in).

Only way is to get friends.

I'm under the impression that is not COMPLETELY impossible to accept friendlessness, but overall it seems very hard for a human being.

 

[Bootleg Astolfo]

Become a neckbeard who doesnt shower and wears mlp shirts. You won't have more friends that way, but at least you'll be able to go ''oh yeah, i'm a neckbeard, of course i don't have friends !''

 

[EraseRewind]

It's extremely tough to not have friends, I can't really say I have any friends, they seem to have drifted away over my life. I know people and have a significant other but not friends.

I accept my situation and live on the periphery of life, someone in my situation can't really make true friends but the occasional interaction has become useful, I study at university so I do have interactions there but no real friendship relations.

I've tried to see the positives in my life but of course there are the days when my depression kicks in, I quit drinking and drugs so I don't have that crutch anymore, being on here can hinder and help, I'm sporadic in my engagement with anything these days and employment is 90% impossible because my past it's difficult to even get a response letter.

I would say hang in there and keep on trying, for me it's not so important as I'm in the Autumn/Winter of my life, I wish you well in you search.

 

[stellabelle]

I don't know.. I'm fucking trying.. 21 now and I still don't have a single friend.. I know I'm grateful to have a bf but honestly our relationship is going south.. I live at home and rn my older brother is going thought stuff, my other brother comes and goes.. they are on the phone talking to their friends, going out with friends .. my self worth is just rock bottom rn..

I know how that feels.

It'll drive you down so quickly.

Post on the forum?

Try joining other groups online?

 

[MelancholyMagic]

I have a similar difficulty. I've spent an inordinate amount of time investigating how to make friends, but I've had nothing substantial come of it.

I don't think one gets used to it, but one can come to accept it - then it won't hurt so much. That's what I'm in the process of doing.

I've gotten to the point where nearly everyone disgusts me too, so even though I have a hazy feeling of wanting friends, I doubt I'd be able to tolerate the displeasure of being around others in a 'friendship' capacity.

 

[natali4]

I feel you. I'm an introvert and get social anxiety sometimes but I think I got lucky up until college and made friends. Now I am in a place where I have no friends, no one at all. I'm still in touch with old friends from high school and college but that doesn't help me much because they cannot be with me physically. I'm not close to my family either. There are some ways to make friends, I have tried bumble bff, and meetup app. It's a little bit of investment and patience which I know can be hard when you are already depressed, but these are some ways to make friends irl.

 

[Marktheghost]

By pming me. I've got no friends.

 

[Chinaski]

By pming me. I've got no friends.

I would strongly advise against this.

 

[Marktheghost]

I would strongly advise against this.

Why? Having somebody to talk to at least, would help her.

 

[indigomoon]

I don't really have any friends. So my husband is getting me a dog.

 

[Why Me?]

Why do you think this is happening? For some people it can relate to autism, for others it could be anxiety, PTSD or low energy levels.

OMG, for me it's all of the above and more.

 

[onlyanimalsaregood]

I don't really have any friends. So my husband is getting me a dog.

You're lucky. An animal is much better than a person.
Sometimes I like to be alone.

 

[Chinaski]

Why? Having somebody to talk to at least, would help her.

Perhaps, but someone with a history of attempting to lure what he thought was a young woman to his flat to act as his domestic servant and who asks for tips on how to strangle women and write effective death threats is probably not the prime candidate for this imo.

 

[Marktheghost]

That's highly inaccurate. I offered what I thought was an unemployed young woman a job, cleaning my flat. It's extremely unlikely that I ever would strangle my worst enemy; and I would only do it to frighten her, with no intention of actually hurting her. And I didn't ask for tips on how to write effective death threats, I asked whether it would be morally OK to send a death threat that I didn't mean and that she'd be very very unlikely to read. And I was fairly easily talked out of it.