Discussion How do you cope with life's unfairness ?

[finallydone]

i suffered greatly my entire life from unfairness, still do to this day, i got to the point of believing that i'm simply cursed by it, like every time things start gaining momentum, life seems to throw me in a ditch and step on my face reminding me that i'll never be strong enough or smart enough to out maneuver it
as a result i developed this new coping skill, where i set these small goals, and make them feel like a 'win" every time i achieve one of them, however i sometimes remind myself that what counts as a "win" to me, could be someone else's daily boring routine
the only thing that remained as it is however, is the fact that i'll never forgive my fucking parents for bringing to such a miserable place
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so what about you, how do you cope with life's unfairness ?

 

[ratioinsanity]

i don't cope, I just accept that I'm cursed with being fetch of society, it is what it is tbh

 

[_AllCatsAreGrey_]

I feel fairness and justice are human concerns. Projecting it into the world leads to disappointment, because the world is cruelly indifferent. Accepting this has helped some in managing the dissatisfaction.

I like your strategy of reframing and counting small things as wins. Redefining success is powerful imo.

 

[FuneralCry]

It just makes me wish for non-existence even more, personally I see existence itself as the ultimate problem as it's the source of all suffering, I only wish to permanently cease existing and never suffer ever again. I just see existence as something so terrible and harmful especially as there's no limit as to how much one can suffer as long as they exist, there's so much cruelty in existing, I'd never wish to cope with any of this rather I'd prefer to cease existing where finally I cannot suffer in any way and all is gone and forgotten about for me.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I like your coping mechanism. Mine isn't really coping. Anything awful that happens just cements my view further that life is a pile of shit!

I suppose I 'cope' with it because- I simply tell myself- your choices are limited for now. I tell myself: You can't kill yourself while your Dad is still alive. So- whatever shit thing has now happened, you're just going to have to deal with it the best you can. But- chalk that up as another reason why you want out of this place.

But yeah- it carries a great deal of resentment now too unfortunately. As in- this world is utterly unfair. Why did my parents think it was ok to bring me into this? What were they thinking? Were they thinking? I imagine all they were thinking was: 'I want children.'

 

[finallydone]

But yeah- it carries a great deal of resentment now too unfortunately. As in- this world is utterly unfair. Why did my parents think it was ok to bring me into this? What were they thinking? Were they thinking? I imagine all they were thinking was: 'I want children.'

as i grew older i came to realize that becoming a parent is the most selfish act one could commit, now i just get filled with rage every time i remember i have to pay the bill of another selfish mf

 

[ijustwishtodie]

I don't cope, I just go insane over how life isn't fair. Though perhaps I'm not insane but merely reacting normally to a profoundly sick society. I hate at how people procreate and bring new life into this world whilst repeating the saying "life isn't fair". I guess it's easy to not give a shit about the unfairness of life when you aren't the one being impacted by it but, for the ones who are being impacted by it, it sucks and we deserve better.

I guess the only saving grace of life for me is that death is inevitable so I won't have to suffer through existence permanently. Despite humanity's wishes to try and achieve immortality, we will all die one day because the laws of physics is simply too great for humans to overcome. I just wish that I could cut the process of life and reach death already so that I avoid suffering for pointless decades but, oh well, I will die one day regardless of whether pro lifers like it or not.

Still though, that doesn't change the fact that life is unfair and that it's wrong to impose this unfairness upon any new sentient beings

 

[needthebus]

i don't cope, I just accept that I'm cursed with being fetch of society, it is what it is tbh

this

 

[nattys5thtoenail]

I've just been viewing life as a fucked up game, at the end of the day we should prioritize ourselves and our own happiness over everything and we shouldn't expect people to give us unconditional kindness or any type of special support (with obvious exceptions for rape and murder and don't abandon your kids) sorry if this makes no sense but viewing it like a game just makes me feel better about it.

 

[zaikais]

I just try to internalize it, ignoring most problems until I physically can't handle it anymore. Though I do just enjoy listening to music and journaling as a more healthy way to deal with it. Life is extremely unfair and sometimes I personally can't deal with it.

 

[SmoolPepe]

I do not.
Unfortunately I just have to ultimately accept it, because I am powerless to do anything about it. I cannot change society, I cannot change people, I cannot change my past, I cannot undo what I did or what has been done to me. I do not live in a movie or anime and I am not the protagonist of this story and no, it will not just get better with time and things will not suddenly and magically align for me.
Very bad things happen to good/decent people all the time and very bad people do indeed get the best out of this life, no matter how much it hurts to admit. It is the world we live in, it is humanity.
I just realize I wake up every day against my wish, curse whatever deity I can think of in the moment and carry on with my day as best I can.
Also I listen to quite a lot of Woods of ypres lately, especially the song "Wet Leather". Helps blow some steam off I suppose.
I hope one day I can muster what little courage and willpower I have left for one final attempt and fucking get it right this time.

 

[cicatrezESP]

i don't and i can't, but music helps a lot, it can be like medicine

 

[sariff]

by falling through the cracks

 

[greebo6]

Don't cope but have come to kind of accept it is fate. That does not make it any easier to deal with most of the time.

 

[cotton]

I tend to also do things without reverence for who it affects... Playing a game of random madness...

 

[Just_Another_Person]

That would need a really long text but I am super tired so I am gonna be quick:

You (not op, I mean as in "any person") should learn how to let things go, even if the world isn't fair. Keeping hate, resentments, sorrows, regrets... these things won't do any good, they will make it worse because you are going to keep ruminating it over and over. You can't change the past but you can change the future. "Letting go" doesn't necessarily imply in forgiving everyone/everything, sometimes you let it go of your mind/soul. There are some things that cannot be forgotten or forgiven, but you can learn to live with it.

Of course, it isn't like "ok, now I am going to let everything go and be happy" or be "enlightened". Dealing with some things can take days, weeks... others can take months, years, decades... it is not always easy. But you have to try, because if you do nothing, you won't change anything. And even if you can't change things for you... do it for others so they don't have to experience the same pain/problem.

 

[finallydone]

You can't change the past but you can change the future.

i think most people can agree that you can't neither, how would go exactly about changing the future ?
the future is an extension of the past after all it's influenced by it, even your statement shows that

But you have to try, because if you do nothing, you won't change anything. And even if you can't change things for you... do it for others so they don't have to experience the same pain/problem.

well you see the problem isn't that i didn't choose not to do anything, it's the fact that i can't change anything no matter what i did

 

[Dai]

False hope because of ignorance, I suppose. I always held on to hope that I'd always change into the person I wanted to be, but reality has set in that it will never happen.

Somehow accept that I am inferior to blessed people, or ctb. It's that simple for me rn.

 

[ZeroM24]

I write on this site and think about killing myself all the time.