How do you feel about your body, and other specific physical traits?

[Magi129]

I suppose that most of this forum probably does not have a good relation with self-image, but fuck, I have a particularly bad one with my voice (is it a "physical" trait? Don't know, but seems the best category). Like, you can basically hide all of your body most of the time, and I genuinely do not feel it as particularly bad when in real life, but always seems horrible when I first speak. Many people have insecurity with it, at least from what I see, are men with higher pitched voices (soprano, etc., which are seen as more femininr), in my case, the opposite, as a male with a baritone, excessively deep voice since 12. I have to say this is horrible cause I feel every word I say sounds harsh, even when trying to be soft. Know when you are talking to the person nexto to you in a class or something and to just that person? OK, deep voices are horrible for that cause they're easier to notice even when keeping it down, specially among higher voices (and mine sounds much more adult). (Also, just to know, I have no prosody problems)

 

[Forveleth]

It took me a very long time to get over hating myself. I used to have huge self-image problems, I was even suicidal over it. It took finally figuring out a clothing and hair style that made me feel good and confident. After a while, I even got in shape (although now I'm fat again ). It took a few decades but I accepted that I am who I am and I can only change so much so I better just live with it. There are still things about myself that I wish I could change but, oh well, that's life.

 

[Jealous Blackheart]

(and mine sounds much more adult)

Are you not one?

 

[Forever Sleep]

I don't like much of me- my face, body, voice, clumsiness, lack of intelligence with things like maths and general knowledge. I also feel bad about the elements I brought on myself- being overweight and stupid.

Still, I care a whole lot less now. It's not like I even want a partner now so- I don't need to attract someone. I'm very isolated too which takes a lot of the pressure off. I weirdly think I could be happier living like this.

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

My only redeeming quality physical or mental is being 6 feet tall. Other than that I have too much body fat particularly in my gut, a high pitched whiny voice, and a tiny tiny wiener.

 

[Namelesa]

I used to hate my body so much and was very gender dysphoric about it but now I am mostly comfortable and happy with my body thanks to hrt. Some of the things I don't like about my body still tho are my tall height (mostly cus I want to be seen as helpless and vulnerable so others look after me), little bit of facial hair I am always shave (thankful no facial hair shadow) and testicles (hopefully will get surgery to get rid of that)

 

[Timelapse]

There's a lot to hate about my body. The worst is being shamed for it.

 

[FoxSauce]

Lots of it wish I could have a idk hourglass bit mostly triangle shaped, I mostly hate my braod shoulders, I still feel fat. I dislike my curly / wavy hair but im learning to rocket that. It is what it is.

 

[EvisceratedJester]

I wish I didn't have stretch marks, I wish that my boobs were perkier, I wish that I didn't have scarring along my lower legs, I had a bigger ass and thighs, I wish that my hair was longer and straight (straight hair seems much easier to manage compared to curly hair), I wish that I had a nicer looking face, I wish that my hands and feet were smaller, I wish that I didn't have any moles at all, and there is probably more but that is all I can come up with at the moment. There are a few aspects that I like about my body, such as the fact that I have a small waist and the fact that my legs aren't short, but I overall have a lot of issues with my appearance. Then again, it's pointless to get caught up in bullshit like this since it's not like my body is even going to always look the same way that it does now.


I really dislike the fact that my mom and ex-stepmother always felt the need to comment on my appearance growing up. Hell, just yesterday my mom pointed out that my thighs are getting bigger. Parents do shit like this and then become surprised when their children grow up obsessing over their appearance when in reality it is partly their own doing. Even when you get complimented on your appearance it can end up being a negative thing, with it putting pressure on you to try to maintain it or to try and improve it rather than putting your efforts into more healthy and better endeavours. Just look at Megan Fox, for example. The woman is literally consumed by the thought that her entire self-worth is tied to her appearance to the point where she is getting a shit ton of cosmetic procedures to try and fight against the aging process.

People have this tendency to treat beauty as though it is an aspect of morality. Being seen as not conventionally attractive is treated as a moral failing. Beauty standards are getting so insane to the point where it is now becoming a trend for women to get plastic surgery done on their genitalia because they want their labias to resemble the ones you see in porn. I remember when I was in middle school and I stole one of my mom's razors and shaved off all of my pubic hair and was surprised by how my vulva looked. I thought it was deformed because it didn't resemble the ones I saw in porn and it was not until years later that I found out that most people's vulvas don't even look like the ones found in porn. It wasn't until I started sexting men that I realized that most men didn't really care about that kind of shit and that the ones who spent their time making fun of women for how their vulvas looked were the minority. Even still, I would be lying if I didn't say that I still feel insecure about the appearance of my vulva.

People keep on trying to twist this shit into being something that they are doing to "empower" themselves when in reality they are just desperate to meet the new beauty standards and are sometimes even advocating to uphold them. If you want to get cosmetic procedures then fine I guess, but don't try to pretend as though what you are doing has anything to do with empowerment.

 

[GlassMoon]

I'm unhappy with my belly because it is too large. Also, I dislike that my voice is somewhat high pitched. My hair is very thin and I can't find a length at which it will simply sit right after being combed unless I get it cut every two weeks. It always stands up and that makes me insecure every time I see myself in the mirror. I often try to make it sit right using water when I'm in a restroom, but that does not really work. Found some photos of myself recently where I could see the back of my head, and the hair was standing upright. I felt quite ashamed because I was walking around in public places like this. I mostly think that others' hair is ok but then wonder how can they stand looking at mine while talking to me.