Help How to convince my family I want to drop out of college

[hohohohotdog]

It's either I drop out and focus on learning and studying my own way, or I just die completely.

College really made me realize how unfit I am for this world and for the future. First few month's were just okay, but since this months new classes has started, im really reaching my limit. Im already feeling extremely burnt out. first 2 weeks I have already had 3 all-nighters, crying for days in a row, but after that, I've just given up. I haven't been able to complete any assignments at all since then. I can't understand anything anymore. Im already feeling isolated as it is from college and I don't think my family can understand.

I've tried to convinced my mom to let me drop out due to my mental health worsening, but she just doesn't understand it. I dont think anyone in my family understands. My mom says to just try harder, my brothers think im just being lazy, and maybe I am. Either my adhd is to blame, or im just incapable and lazy of doing anything, im sick of it all.

I just want to drop out, but I feel like convincing my family to let me is impossible. I know im just wasting their money and all the time they've spent on raising me, but I cant take it anymore. I don't want death to be my final option. I want to live, but I dont want to deal with the consequence of disappointing my family.

I've been searching online and have seen that many people have gotten jobs without degrees by studying on their own and making their own portfolios, and I want to do the same. Thats my plan if I ever drop out, but my family just wants me to continue. How can I convince them to let me drop out?

 

[Rabscuttle]

As someone who has dropped out 3 times and graduated with an associates at 26, you know you best. I think just be honest with your family, explain your mental and financial concerns. Have some semblance of a plan to present to them, maybe they'd be okay with you working part time and taking a class or two, rather than a full course load.

That phone call to my mom when I was 18 telling her I wanted to drop out was absolutely terrifying, but in hindsight the right thing for me. I don't know your age, but not everyone is meant to go to college, and especially not when we are still in our teens.

 

[hohohohotdog]

As someone who has dropped out 3 times and graduated with an associates at 26, you know you best. I think just be honest with your family, explain your mental and financial concerns. Have some semblance of a plan to present to them, maybe they'd be okay with you working part time and taking a class or two, rather than a full course load.

That phone call to my mom when I was 18 telling her I wanted to drop out was absolutely terrifying, but in hindsight the right thing for me. I don't know your age, but not everyone is meant to go to college, and especially not when we are still in our teens.

thank you for sharing your advice and experience :)

to be honest, my family made me apply for college right after I finished highschool, so I just went with a program I barely knew anything about. looking back at that decision, this definitely wouldn't have worked out in the first place haha

 

[Rabscuttle]

thank you for sharing your advice and experience :)

to be honest, my family made me apply for college right after I finished highschool, so I just went with a program I barely knew anything about. looking back at that decision, this definitely wouldn't have worked out in the first place haha

Similar for me, it was just expected of me to go, was a very poor decision. I wish I would've just gone to community college right out of high school, take a few classes at a time and figure out what I actually want.

 

[derekWest]

It's either I drop out and focus on learning and studying my own way, or I just die completely.

College really made me realize how unfit I am for this world and for the future. First few month's were just okay, but since this months new classes has started, im really reaching my limit. Im already feeling extremely burnt out. first 2 weeks I have already had 3 all-nighters, crying for days in a row, but after that, I've just given up. I haven't been able to complete any assignments at all since then. I can't understand anything anymore. Im already feeling isolated as it is from college and I don't think my family can understand.

I've tried to convinced my mom to let me drop out due to my mental health worsening, but she just doesn't understand it. I dont think anyone in my family understands. My mom says to just try harder, my brothers think im just being lazy, and maybe I am. Either my adhd is to blame, or im just incapable and lazy of doing anything, im sick of it all.

I just want to drop out, but I feel like convincing my family to let me is impossible. I know im just wasting their money and all the time they've spent on raising me, but I cant take it anymore. I don't want death to be my final option. I want to live, but I dont want to deal with the consequence of disappointing my family.

I've been searching online and have seen that many people have gotten jobs without degrees by studying on their own and making their own portfolios, and I want to do the same. Thats my plan if I ever drop out, but my family just wants me to continue. How can I convince them to let me drop out?

maybe you follow up MOOCs ? Some MOOCs offer a certificate (but i don't know how is it recognize by firms in your country)

 

[missedmybus]

Does your college have any student amenities to help you with this type of stuff?

I dropped out of school when I was 14-15 and I'm doing a bachelors now at age 34. There's a lot of help if you look for it, at least where I am studying.

I started working manual labour when I was 16ish and did self study before and after work. Now I am doing freelance work while doing higher education.

I think the kindergarten -> preschool -> elementary -> middle school -> high school -> higher education trajectory is grom a an age gone by long ago.

 

[hohohohotdog]

maybe you follow up MOOCs ? Some MOOCs offer a certificate (but i don't know how is it recognize by firms in your country)

I searched and it seems like my college only offers 2 of those which aren't relevant to the classes im taking right now

Does your college have any student amenities to help you with this type of stuff?

I dropped out of school when I was 14-15 and I'm doing a bachelors now at age 34. There's a lot of help if you look for it, at least where I am studying.

I started working manual labour when I was 16ish and did self study before and after work. Now I am doing freelance work while doing higher education.

I think the kindergarten -> preschool -> elementary -> middle school -> high school -> higher education trajectory is grom a an age gone by long ago.

I haven't gone to their student services in person yet, but I checked what they had on their site for mental health & stress and they just offer videos and relief apps for it.. which just seems like a waste of time when you have busy classes

and yeah I definitely agree with that last part with how the world is rapidly changing these days (especially since covid stayed throughout all my years in highschool )

 

[derekWest]

I searched and it seems like my college only offers 2 of those which aren't relevant to the classes im taking right now

I haven't gone to their student services in person yet, but I checked what they had on their site for mental health & stress and they just offer videos and relief apps for it.. which just seems like a waste of time when you have busy classes

and yeah I definitely agree with that last part with how the world is rapidly changing these days (especially since covid stayed throughout all my years in highschool )

i though about these MOOCs : https://www.edx.org/

 

[SadFoxDreamer83]

O abandono y me concentro en aprender y estudiar a mi manera, o simplemente muero por completo.

La universidad realmente me hizo darme cuenta de lo poco apta que soy para este mundo y para el futuro. Los primeros meses estuvieron bien, pero desde que comenzaron las nuevas clases este mes, realmente estoy llegando a mi límite. Ya me siento extremadamente agotada. Las primeras 2 semanas ya estuve 3 noches en vela, llorando durante días seguidos, pero después de eso, simplemente me di por vencida. Desde entonces no he podido completar ninguna tarea. Ya no puedo entender nada. Ya me siento aislada de la universidad y no creo que mi familia pueda entenderlo.

He intentado convencer a mi madre para que me deje abandonar la escuela debido al empeoramiento de mi salud mental, pero ella simplemente no lo entiende. No creo que nadie en mi familia lo entienda. Mi madre dice que me esfuerce más, mis hermanos piensan que soy una perezosa, y tal vez lo sea. O mi TDAH es el culpable, o simplemente soy incapaz y perezosa para hacer cualquier cosa, estoy harta de todo esto.

Solo quiero abandonar la escuela, pero siento que convencer a mi familia de que me deje es imposible. Sé que estoy desperdiciando su dinero y todo el tiempo que han dedicado a criarme, pero no puedo soportarlo más. No quiero que la muerte sea mi última opción. Quiero vivir, pero no quiero lidiar con las consecuencias de decepcionar a mi familia.

He estado buscando en Internet y he visto que muchas personas han conseguido trabajo sin tener un título, estudiando por su cuenta y creando sus propios portfolios, y yo quiero hacer lo mismo. Ese es mi plan si algún día dejo la carrera, pero mi familia solo quiere que continúe. ¿Cómo puedo convencerlos de que me dejen dejarla?

Tienes que hacer lo que te haga feliz, nunca sufrir una situación que te haga daño por culpa de los demás. Que le jodan a quien no te entienda, hazlo a tu manera, haz lo que te guste y como te guste, sin mirar atrás y sin pensar en lo que piensen los demás, ni siquiera tu familia. Lo difícil no es descubrir lo que quieres hacer, sino cómo lograrlo. En mi opinión, es mucho mejor estar solo y haciendo lo que te gusta, que estar con gente que te impone su forma de ver la vida. Enfréntate a quien haga falta para lograr lo que te haga feliz.