How to deal with narcissistic parents

[HereToday]

After my suicide attempt 3 months ago, I quit uni and had to move back in with my parents temporarily to save on rent.

I'm starting a new life halfway across the world in just over a month.
I can't move until March because I need surgery to remove my thyroid, so I'm doing that here before I go. This means I have to deal with my parents until then, so I can save as much money as possible for my new life.

My parents are narcissistic psychopaths who were always physically and mentally abusive. They don't physically abuse me anymore (because I'm bigger than them), but make up for it in mental abuse. The past few months they've started completely ignoring me like I'm not even here. If I talk to them they don't even react, it doesn't matter what the topic of the conversation is. I have to repeat myself over and over and over and OVER, and literally ASK them to reply to me. That's what my life has come to, begging my so called 'parents' not to ignore me! And when they do reply, it's just one word answers. I guess this is a form of mental abuse?
I'm also very isolated here as they live in a tiny village with nothing to do and no public transport. Sadly they're my only 'human' contact.

I tried talking to them, they don't give a fuck and won't change. So how can I deal with them for another month or so, without going crazy?! I can't even describe how angering it is for your 'parents' to completely ignore you like you're invisible.
Shall I just stop talking to them and hide in my room until I can finally be free and start my new life? I can't wait to be 6,000 miles away from these psychopaths, change my name and number, and never see them again.

 

[Backwood_tilt]

That fucking sucks. I've had to deal with abusive narcissistic parents as well and I know how damaging that can be.

Hang In there. Just over a month and you'll be out of there. Then a new chapter of your life. You can do this!!

 

[HereToday]

That fucking sucks. I've had to deal with abusive narcissistic parents as well and I know how damaging that can be.

Hang In there. Just over a month and you'll be out of there. Then a new chapter of your life. You can do this!!

Thank you for your kindness. Literally counting down the days! I think I'm just going to have some self respect and stop talking to them. I can get through a month of loneliness, it will be worth it in the end.
Hope you're far away from your parents now, or at the very least that you've started to heal

 

[Backwood_tilt]

Both! I'm far away and I've healed a lot from my ptsd.

Yeah if you can just stick to yourself. There's no point in engaging abusers. They will probably eventually try to engage you if they see ignoring you isn't getting a reaction out of you. Try your best to ignore that, too!

 

[Final Escape]

You must leave, they will destroy u and suck your life out. I mean have some sort of action plan on what u will do. It might have to be something as risky as homelessness sometimes in order to save yourself. If ure a young person it's a bit easier to get out and find a better situation. Sorry u have to be in that mess, but u will get out, your future depends on it. You will find that your energy and mental clarity improves as soon as u are away for a bit, then solutions will begin to come to u. But while u are there it feels like u can't think at all. Like your brain is shut down.

 

[decafcoffee]

both my parents are n. and id love to just be ignored by them. i get bullied like a little kid on the playground. they have no mercy or remorse.

 

[HereToday]

both my parents are n. and id love to just be ignored by them. i get bullied like a little kid on the playground. they have no mercy or remorse.

I used to think the same but it turns out being treated like you're invisible is just as damaging... Especially when they're the only 'human' contact you have, you attempted a couple of months ago, you're having surgery soon, etc. How nice it must be to have normal, loving parents to confide in! Narcissists (at least the ones I've been unfortunate enough to meet) are demons straight from hell lol

 

[decafcoffee]

I used to think the same but it turns out being treated like you're invisible is just as damaging... Especially when they're the only 'human' contact you have, you attempted a couple of months ago, you're having surgery soon, etc. How nice it must be to have normal, loving parents to confide in! Narcissists (at least the ones I've been unfortunate enough to meet) are demons straight from hell lol

they ignore me until they have something bad to say. so its the best of both worlds. i have nobody else. wonderful stuff, i tell you. i use exercise as some relief, have a gym membership. i go see movies. im going tonight!

 

[Pan]

After my suicide attempt 3 months ago, I quit uni and had to move back in with my parents temporarily to save on rent.

I'm starting a new life halfway across the world in just over a month.
I can't move until March because I need surgery to remove my thyroid, so I'm doing that here before I go. This means I have to deal with my parents until then, so I can save as much money as possible for my new life.

My parents are narcissistic psychopaths who were always physically and mentally abusive. They don't physically abuse me anymore (because I'm bigger than them), but make up for it in mental abuse. The past few months they've started completely ignoring me like I'm not even here. If I talk to them they don't even react, it doesn't matter what the topic of the conversation is. I have to repeat myself over and over and over and OVER, and literally ASK them to reply to me. That's what my life has come to, begging my so called 'parents' not to ignore me! And when they do reply, it's just one word answers. I guess this is a form of mental abuse?
I'm also very isolated here as they live in a tiny village with nothing to do and no public transport. Sadly they're my only 'human' contact.

I tried talking to them, they don't give a fuck and won't change. So how can I deal with them for another month or so, without going crazy?! I can't even describe how angering it is for your 'parents' to completely ignore you like you're invisible.
Shall I just stop talking to them and hide in my room until I can finally be free and start my new life? I can't wait to be 6,000 miles away from these psychopaths, change my name and number, and never see them again.

I couldn't help but shed a tear for you in solidarity, friend. It is sad indeed when children are parented by monsters; believe me, I have been there and still tremble a bit when I think about my own past. Best of luck to you and lots of love.

 

[Susannah]

That's a shitty situation! Since you obviously have no choice but to stick around, remember it's just for a short while. Being adult and living with your parents rarely works out for anyone. Focus on saving money, and use your friends here on the forum when you feel frustrated or sad.

lots of loveS

 

[Pan]

My friends on this forum are the family I never had. Bless all of you!!!

 

[Johnrio]

My narcissist mother really did a number on me. I haven't lived with her in ten years and I still am haunted by her every day, even though I've had some EMDR and whatnot.

I have no solutions for you. I agree that you should ignore them if you can. That's easier to say from the outside of course ... thinking of you.

 

[Mizzmini45]

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My friends on this forum are the family I never had. Bless all of you!!!

I wish we could all move in with each other and support each other. Real family is sometimes not family at all

 

[Egddios]

For any of you who still use Reddit (I do, sigh), there's a sub called r/RaisedByNarcissists and whoa. It's a supportive, encouraging sub and at the same time, it's astounding how many members (525,476) there are.

 

[Pan]

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I wish we could all move in with each other and support each other. Real family is sometimes not family at all

What a nice thought! You are a peach!

My narcissist mother really did a number on me. I haven't lived with her in ten years and I still am haunted by her every day, even though I've had some EMDR and whatnot.

I have no solutions for you. I agree that you should ignore them if you can. That's easier to say from the outside of course ... thinking of you.

Mine did a number on me; stern, unloving; I always waiting for the next shoe to drop...that she is truly sick doesn'tentitlehertoforgiveness; I will hate her until the day she dies.i