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SickSadWorld

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Oct 5, 2019
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Does anyone else have a problem taking care of themselves? My hair is one giant matted ball. I showered today for the first time in weeks. I don't brush my teeth. I don't even get dressed anymore cause all I do is lay in my own filth. I confined myself inside because I feel too digusting for anyone to see me. Especially cause I looked completely different 5 months ago. I wish I could crawl out of my skin. I know I'll never feel clean like I used to. Wondering if anyone else is or has been in this state? I doubt it. I think I'm one of the worst cases of this. It's surreal how gross I let myself get. My humanity is gone. Can't wait until I can finally free myself from this nightmare.
 
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BPD_LE

The Queen of Meme
Aug 11, 2019
1,576
No, it's not just you. When I shower, I feel like I've won the Olympic gold.
 
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clownangel

Student
Sep 25, 2019
122
You're not the only one, for sure. Still absolutely sucks to go through though, especially when it gets that rough.

Sensory issues are probably one of the only reasons I can drag myself into the shower. (Had one today, put clean clothes on after, kinda felt like I deserved a prize for it)
 
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OreoWellington

Ready To Die
Sep 28, 2019
123
YESSSS.
 
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Sweet emotion

Enlightened
Sep 14, 2019
1,325
No it's not just you. I've gone two weeks without showering. At night before I go to sleep I know I should brush my teeth but I say screw it. I hate showering. I have a nerve disease so it's very painful. Then having to dry my hair. It's like climbing mount Everest for me. I only shower once a week because it's so painful and I never leave the house unless I have to go to a doctor's appointment. And no one comes over because I'm in so much pain so I don't really care. Try to brush your teeth though so you don't get cavities and are in pain.
 
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Lefty

Mage
Dec 7, 2018
530
If it weren't for eczema, I probably wouldn't shower daily, but I find it helps. Still gotta use lukewarm-cool water though. I also brush my teeth, I had a lot of dental work done, so I force myself to try to take care of myself. It is hard, but it can be helpful.
 
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LastFlowers

the haru that can read
Apr 27, 2019
2,170
Yes, I guess I can't see the point anymore and my brain can't make my body do anything anymore unless it would wipe away my reason for catching the bus. I'm too far gone but I don't like being unhygienic. It is just impossible to function when you are this low and headed towards death's door. I wish I could at least take care of myself but I just don't have a body or face where it would make much of a difference to be honest. It would be like tending to an old brick, rather than a porcelain dish.
 
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SickSadWorld

Member
Oct 5, 2019
29
When I feel so far gone I just think why bother. I had expensive dental work done that my parent paid for and I've messed it up. Another thing that makes me feel guilty and ungrateful. My enamel is so thin from binging and not brushing. and smoking cigarettes. I don't see the point of brushing my teeth when I'm going to CTB.
 
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Haku

Walking ThePathOfSorrow, destination Denebokshiri
Oct 12, 2019
270
This was something I never intended to tell anyone, because it embarrasses me, but I found this thread, and saw people easily spilling their guts about this, and I kind of wanted to get this off my chest for awhile, but I was worried about what people might say to me, but being that I'm not the only one with this problem. Yes, I do not shower often, currently I'm a few days away from being 2 weeks since I last showered, before my most recent one, it had been almost a month, I lost track of the last time I brushed my teeth, but every once in a while when I dont forget, I just rinse my mouth with mouthwash. I am a guy with long hair, so whenever I do shower, I lose like a full head worth of hair, not exaggerating. Fortunately, I dont have any bald spots, but my hair is looking very thin, let's say if I were to keep breathing until 2022, I might be bald by that point, but, luckily, I dont plan on living past December 2019, so I hope I will never have to see myself bald, that also runs in my bloodline, so not taking care of my self and my genetics, I'm surprised I'm not already bald. But, the reasons why I like in hygiene is because, I'm always so exhausted, both physically and mentally, which I'm sure most people on here can relate, and when I do decide to shower, it's like planning a Black Ops mission, day 1. Prepare my clothing in the bathroom, Day 2. Find clean towel, Day 3. Operation Shower day, I know this probably sounds ridiculous, but that's technically how it is, and I saw some people on here say the reason for their lack of hygiene is because they dont leave there house, so what's the point, yea, I'm the same. In the entire year of 2019, I dont remember the exact number, but I think I have left my apartment only 5 times, maybe more or less, dont think it's more than 5, the last time I saw a movie in theaters, was 3 days after Avengers Endgame came out, holy shit, that was a mission to go to, I had plan to ctb a week after that, witch didnt work out. Other times was, doctor, Walmart, witch I felt like I was going to have a heart attack after stepping foot in that hell, and cant remember the other places, but yea. So that is one big reason I didnt shower, i did hate it though, my head was always so itchy, I would try to force myself, sometimes, it didnt work out. But yea, wanted to release that info for so long, but I hate feeling embarrassed, even if I'm just saying it online. Ugh, but I hate not showering, I cant live like this anymore, when it's time for my cross country ctb trip, I'm cutting my hair, it will be alot easier to shower with shorter hair, and if I'm going to be in public for almost a week, until ctb, then I need to try, once I'm gone, no more worries, plus, might be someone joining me, witch I'm still not sure about, though they probably wouldn't care being in the same boat.
 
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seekingoblivion

Arcanist
Dec 11, 2018
454
Around these parts (SS) it's not the strangest of things. When I'm really low I can go just about two weeks without a shower. And I be going to work haha. I'm in a bit of a slump and my last shower was Sunday. Will probably shower when I get home today.

I brush my teeth everyday though cause cavities are a bitch.
 
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Astral316

Specialist
Aug 26, 2019
332
Hot showers feel amazing and I'm a hedonist at this point so I take one everyday.

Brushing my teeth is a chore... I brush every fourth day though it's been more like six days.
 
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Jul 31, 2018
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Does anyone else have a problem taking care of themselves? My hair is one giant matted ball. I showered today for the first time in weeks. I don't brush my teeth. I don't even get dressed anymore cause all I do is lay in my own filth. I confined myself inside because I feel too digusting for anyone to see me. Especially cause I looked completely different 5 months ago. I wish I could crawl out of my skin. I know I'll never feel clean like I used to. Wondering if anyone else is or has been in this state? I doubt it. I think I'm one of the worst cases of this. It's surreal how gross I let myself get. My humanity is gone. Can't wait until I can finally free myself from this nightmare.
I'm in a similar state as I lack both motivation and strength. I used to be the cleanest of people. I never understood how anyone could live in squalor. Now I do. Funny how plight can teach you how to see the world differently.
 
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magick'sgone

And so on it goes....
May 16, 2019
125
I have to work so I have no choice. I was worse a couple years ago, completely unshaven, matted hair, bad skin etc etc. Now I make sure to shower daily, shampoo my hair, shave once a week, brush teeth at least once a day. It makes fuck all difference in the grand scheme of things, but I do feel slightly better for having accomplished something. People have a natural disliking for disfigured people, but less so if it looks like I'm trying somewhat.
 
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LonelyLight

Warlock
May 31, 2019
779
I shower every day because it's one of the only comforts I have so I spend like 40 mins just standing under the water. I brush my teeth every day and I have no choice but to brush my hair after a shower cause it's quite Curly naturally. I have a lavender lotion routine before bed too. Its literally the only things that break up my day and feeling like I have something to do tbh.
 
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Final Escape

I’ve been here too long
Jul 8, 2018
4,348
No, it's not just you. When I shower, I feel like I've won the Olympic gold.
Lol! Right. I do manage to shower most days because I can't get away with not doing it but if I didn't have to I'd probably not be as cleanly.
 
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snorli

Student
Sep 30, 2019
178
Does anyone else have a problem taking care of themselves? My hair is one giant matted ball. I showered today for the first time in weeks. I don't brush my teeth. I don't even get dressed anymore cause all I do is lay in my own filth. I confined myself inside because I feel too digusting for anyone to see me. Especially cause I looked completely different 5 months ago. I wish I could crawl out of my skin. I know I'll never feel clean like I used to. Wondering if anyone else is or has been in this state? I doubt it. I think I'm one of the worst cases of this. It's surreal how gross I let myself get. My humanity is gone. Can't wait until I can finally free myself from this nightmare.

So sorry to hear about your situation. Congrats on the shower though :hug:! In my book, you're 100% clean now! I hope showering can become something you enjoy (again). It find it very soothing.

I don't want to trivialize your issues, but are you sure the damage to your teeth is all that bad? Charcoal toothpaste works like a charm for removing tobacco stains. Also, you might want to schedule an appointment with your dentist for a check up. There's a good chance your teeth are a-okay. I worry about my teeth a lot too, but a visit to the dentist usually puts me at ease (once it's over :hihi:). As others have said, try to make brushing your teeth a top priority, you don't want to be in pain from cavities.

About the matted hair, I was in a similar situation about a year ago due to over-bleaching. I decided to shave it all off and haven't looked back since. If conditioners and the like don't help, you might want to consider getting a cute pixie cut (or going full Britney of course). It can be a very cathartic experience. Wishing you all the best :heart:!
 
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falconeyes

Member
Sep 27, 2019
80
I get warm shower and brush my teeth daily, showers are my temporary doses of relief during the day although i seldom go outside.
 
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sammii

sammii

I have no idea what I’m doing.
Oct 9, 2019
221
I just brushed my hair yesterday for the first time in a week, wasn't fun!
 
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Qdv

Student
Sep 17, 2019
100
Just got to say love this thread and the honesty :hug: Im down to four showers a week
 
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Darkhaven

All i have left is memories
May 19, 2019
979
2 years ago i was a buff guy, was an avid weigth lifter, used to buy expensive sneakers and boots, jackets, watches, bracelets, necklaces and all kinds of acessories.
People would look at me when i got in a new environment.
Sometimes i caught girls gawking at me in university and during our classes, and sometimes while taking the train or subway home.
Then the diagnosis of my disease hit like an atomic bomb along with the first symptoms.
Lost my interest in bodybuilding as i noticed i was getting weaker. Left the gym completely for several months.
Started losing muscle, and gained some weight with fat.
After that it was a total debacle.
Stopped feeling like buying new clothes.
Currently i am using the clothes i used when i was slimmer and they fit too tight.
People can clearly notice that i have gained weight.
And worst of all is that i don't have motivation to dropp my calories a bit. Eating has been the closest thing i have to an antidepressant.
I have absolutely no self esteem whatsoever.
And during university breaks, when i don't have to get out of the house, i shower like every 3 or 4 days.
Once i stayed like more than week without showering. I was disgusting.
 
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KiraLittleOwl

Lost in transition
Jan 25, 2019
1,083
I really neglected myself in last couple of weeks.
And the apartment.
It's awful
 
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Forest Fire

Student
Jul 19, 2019
119
I shower/bath daily as it is something to do and as I work I have too anyway. I was abused as a kid and washing has always made me feel a bit less dirty as well so that's another reason I keep that up.
Going bald now so I have short hair, but when I had a full head it was really long and I never brushed it in about 4 years.
I buy one or two tops/jeans a year and recycle 2 or 3 outfits for hot and cold weather. (If I go to the shop or see family etc)
At home my clothes are filthy and I wear the same stuff for over a month without washing it.
Zero interest in my appearance and I genuinely want to cry when I realise i'l have to shave soon.
Mixed bag with brushing my teeth but currently I usually manage once a day before bed.
My bedroom is a disgrace but all other areas are fairly tidy
 
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JimFord99

Enlightened
Aug 18, 2019
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I think this is quite a common symptom when it comes to the end: letting things and yourself go, don't care anymore. Kind of a 'given up already' feeling. Surrendered and ready to do the next step. I went through this phase myself.
 
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snorli

Student
Sep 30, 2019
178
I think this is quite a common symptom when it comes to the end: letting things and yourself go, don't care anymore. Kind of a 'given up already' feeling. Surrendered and ready to do the next step. I went through this phase myself.
I feel the same at times, but vanity keeps me going most of the time. Whatever you do (or don't), please don't stop brushing you teeth.

Edit: Damn, I sound like a dental hygienist. At least I'm not telling you to floss everyday :hihi:.
 
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Bpdboii

Frustrated
Oct 6, 2019
80
It's been 5 months I brushed my teeth last time.
 
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Rachel74

Enlightened
Sep 7, 2019
1,716
I'm the complete opposite and I think that's because of my OCD.
Shower twice a day, change PJs every day and bedding every 2 days. Constantly changing my knickers and wash my hands all the time.
 
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Dishonorable

Dishonorable

I think there is a flaw in my code
Oct 13, 2019
30
I really struggle sometimes to shower or even shave. on some days every little move is too much. sometimes even brushing my teeth, but I have to take care of them as I am bulimic and they are already fcked up enough.
 
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JimFord99

Enlightened
Aug 18, 2019
1,047
I'm the complete opposite and I think that's because of my OCD.
Shower twice a day, change PJs every day and bedding every 2 days. Constantly changing my knickers and wash my hands all the time.
Yeah, I can see that OCD sufferers act the opposite to that. In a way, quite admirable, being over organised and over tidy.
 
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Rachel74

Enlightened
Sep 7, 2019
1,716
Yeah, I can see that OCD sufferers act the opposite to that. In a way, quite admirable, being over organised and over tidy.
I'm currently nursing a broken foot in a cast and on crutches and still managed to vacuum the whole house. Bloody nutter!
 
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JimFord99

Enlightened
Aug 18, 2019
1,047
I'm currently nursing a broken foot in a cast and on crutches and still managed to vacuum the whole house. Bloody nutter!
Not nutter, admirable determination and attitude. Well done and good job.
 
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