Too many people get married because they think it is a societal norm. And too many married people have children because they think it's a norm of marriage. In too many cases, the result is divorce and children that wish they were never born. Oh, and it seems like everyone cheats these days.
And your generation got the shaft. COVID crippled you guys. Inflation and income to housing expense ratios have never been worse. White collar crime is at an all time high and societal values have gone down the toilet.
So don't beat yourself up.
@MatrixPrisoner I want to get married because I want to be loved, cared for and i want to do the same back to someone.
I have been single all my life . It's absolutely hurts how I have never been that boys crush and a girl a boy really wanted. As a teenager the boys at school regularly builled and humiliated me while other girls the boys wanted to be their friend and more.
I was builled because I struggled to fit in and to make friends. I have a quirky personality which made different from everyone at school who fitted in with the crowd.
In adulthood I ask men out and at the last minute they dump me.
I ended up being stupid at 25 and I feel in love with a 55 year old man because he gave me attention and noticed me while guys my own age never wanted to know me. This arsehole brought me so much misery. I loved him so much.
I can relate, i just started uni this fall and i have failed most of our exams by now. Hard to study when i barely have will to live and no real goals. I found one competent therapist nearby but they are busy, plus it's expensive. And talking can only do so much anyways.
It's one thing to be hopeless cuz of my shitty past, but realizing that there is no help available just solidifies that hopelessness. The very system that is supposed to help us is making things worse.
@swankysoup Virtual hug
I hate how people think it's so easy to see a therapist just because the mental health care campaigns tell you to go see a therapist. Therapy has become an enormous business where the middle class and the rich can get help.
There is so much pressure to be academically successful at university or college. Here in the UK you if don't have certain degree grades you will not be allowed to apply for certain jobs, find it harder to get accepted into masters programmes or PHD programmes. Other countries have similar systems tooo.
Older people who didn't go to college or university think students are "snowflakes" and have it "easy".
I relate so much to you. Yesterday I studied all day with no study breaks from when I woke up until around 3 am today and it was futile. It wasn't enough. I tried my best, I really did and it wasn't enough meaning that's 20% of my grade for one of my courses gone just like that. I'm also losing some % in other courses due to not doing the coursework that they require from me as well. It's honestly just so tiring for me because I know I need to put all of my time and energy into this but that isn't possible for me as I have no motivation to do so. I thought that avoiding homelessness right now would be good motivation for me but apparently not.
I'm just so tired from all the university work. I did nothing today because I was burnt out from yesterday and the work just keeps on stockpiling meaning that I have to deal with it in the subsequent days. Fuck, fuck, fuck, I'm just so tired and exhausted. Why do I have to suffer and struggle so much!? It's so unfair that I am forced to do this in the first place.
I'm sorry for what you're going through. I hope your appointments go well and I wish you the best
@ijustwishtodie Universities need serious reform this is why i don't believe in higher tuition fees.
UK universities have poor services. At this stage the fees need to be frozen since the government won't cut them.
I tell people high tuition fees are not worth it because we students pay high fees and we are not getting a good service. Lecturers are regularly striking, administration is appalling my university constantly failed to send the correct information to student fiance and the list goes on.
I will never stop calling kier Starmer a sanctimonious piece of shit. He made a career complaining about the Conservatives raising fees when he was in opposition now his Labour government plan to raise fees to next September.
