I can't hold out in one job for more than three months...

[Moon25]

I can't hold out in one job for more than three months.

I can't hold out in one job for more than three months. Three months is a probationary period, after which it is concluded to leave the employee or not. I have tried different types of work, but I have not worked anywhere for more than three months.
Life gives a sign that life is not for me...

 

[FuneralCry]

I'm sorry things have not worked out for you. I also feel like life is not for me. It can be depressing when you try and things do not go to plan. I wish you well.

 

[Celerity]

I'm so sorry. I really didn't know how devastating losing a job could be until it finally happened to me. The entire process is humiliating and depressing even with a shitty job at a shitty company.

 

[noname223]

I can relate a lot. My future is poverty. I am extremely desperate. I have tried a lot of work. Almost everything failed. My biggest success was working 3 hours a week without getting severly depressed. (no joke)
For me there is probably no hope to find a stable job. One big reason for my suicide.

 

[everydayiloveyou]

Do you get fired, or are you quitting?

I really don't understand why jobs even have a probationary period, especially in countries/states with at-will employment. It's the perfect way to discriminate an employee -- especially for disabilities -- all while wasting the employee's time and the company's money. There should be much better oversight on at-will employment in general actually.

 

[summers]

@Moon25 what specific jobs have you tried doing? How do these relate to your strengths?

As a overly-simplified example, imagine someone with terrible allergies being a landscaper. Just wouldn't work. Maybe if you give us some more info, we can help with some suggestions.

 

[Midgardsorm]

I'm sorry. Having a job is really hard. A lot of pressure, you most likely will have people trying to ruin your day, using you to save themselves, bosses will ask for things, sometimes impossible to finish on the set deadline.

Depending where you live, where you work and with what you work is even harder. Especially in suicidal condition, some of us are even suffering from physical illness.

But that's the world we live in, we don't have much of a choice. What you can do is something that is less of a hassle for you, something that you are very good at or love to do. Maybe working from home too. It will still be a problem, but at least will be a little easier.

 

[meetapple]

I have an advanced degree and I am still unemployed. I never could hold a job because I was too slow at tasks. i am not sure I could walk into an interview with a straight face knowing that I probably wouldn't succeed at it. I never could get a job in the field in which I was most suited -research.

 

[Ms.Anthrope]

I have an advanced degree and I am still unemployed. I never could hold a job because I was too slow at tasks. i am not sure I could walk into an interview with a straight face knowing that I probably wouldn't succeed at it. I never could get a job in the field in which I was most suited -research.

You're definitely not alone in that. Academia does many people a disservice by setting them up with expectations that life is a meritocracy, that success can be "won" by simply performing well enough or obtaining the right degree. A side effect of this is often imposter syndrome or lower self-esteem, because it implies a person's value or worth can be measured by empirical metrics.

As a researcher, I don't think slowness is an issue (in academia at least). Everyone moves at a leisurely place - they just don't have much of a life outside of work.

 

[timf]

There are some people that make a career of temp jobs. You might try a temp agency. If nothing else, you can get a wider sample of what is available. Who knows you might find some place that "clicks".

 

[meetapple]

You're definitely not alone in that. Academia does many people a disservice by setting them up with expectations that life is a meritocracy, that success can be "won" by simply performing well enough or obtaining the right degree. A side effect of this is often imposter syndrome or lower self-esteem, because it implies a person's value or worth can be measured by empirical metrics.

As a researcher, I don't think slowness is an issue (in academia at least). Everyone moves at a leisurely place - they just don't have much of a life outside of work.

Thank you for responding. I can't get a job in research. I had a job interview for a position in which I would be creating summaries of legal cases. It involved a writing exercise. I performed poorly on it because I was anxious and was experiencing symptoms of mental illness.

 

[AwaySeaweed]

I can't hold a job for one day anymore.