I don’t want to be remembered

[Comatose11]

I don't want to be remembered when I die. I don't want there to be some funeral or anything. I just want people to forget about me and move on with their lives. The sooner I'm forgotten, the better.

Can anyone relate?

 

[Tiburcio]

Absolutely. I just prefer pretending nothing happened like I would never have born.

 

[Done]

Sort of. I don't want my family to be emotionally scarred from my death.

But yes, now thinking about it, it would be nice if when I died my memory would be wiped from Earth and from the minds of everyone who had met me.

 

[creatureoflight]

Your family is never going to forget you, even if they say they hated you.

 

[Ashpac]

I want to be forgotten too. I dont even want people to speak at my funeral. I will haunt them if they do. Thats more a joke but ill be super pissed if people speak at my funeral because there is nothing good to tell about my life. Just let me rest in peace.

 

[286165]

The only reason I'd ever leave a note would be to ask to take care of my cat and for NO funeral. My family cremates the dead, I just want to be disposed of entirely.

Leading up to it, I'll probably hire a notary and draft a will to donate my body to science or something, and for no wake or funeral to be held. I don't know if a will can legally bar a funeral but recording it in a will might incline people to respect your wishes. Then again, no one respects me now in life, why should they once I'm dead, it's not like I'll know if they do or don't.

 

[Deleted_9cKnXB34QG]

Yes, I want to poof out of existence, like I was never there.
I've burned everything already - my photos, documents etc., I only have my ID but that might still come in handy. I don't want a funeral, tombstone or anything. I want to be cremated and thrown into the trash or something - sadly that's illegal where I live, you must bury the urn (because no one bothered to change the law since 1950 lol).

 

[286165]

Yes, I want to poof out of existence, like I was never there.
I've burned everything already - my photos, documents etc., I only have my ID but that might still come in handy. I don't want a funeral, tombstone or anything. I want to be cremated and thrown into the trash or something - sadly that's illegal where I live, you must bury the urn (because no one bothered to change the law since 1950 lol).

Is it possible to have your body donated to science? That's what I want to do.

 

[Deleted_9cKnXB34QG]

Is it possible to have your body donated to science? That's what I want to do.

It is, there's some paperwork involved beforehand tho.

 

[286165]

It is, there's some paperwork involved beforehand tho.

Might be worth the effort, if you're determined not to be cremated and/or buried.

 

[not-2-b-the-answer]

I don't want to be remembered when I die. I don't want there to be some funeral or anything. I just want people to forget about me and move on with their lives. The sooner I'm forgotten, the better.

Can anyone relate?

I feel exactly the same.

 

[Jerryman]

Me 2, vanish from existence like I never existed in the first place. No funeral ,no body.

 

[Brokenanddeadinside]

I only want two people to remember me both being exes who completely fucked with my head that's led to my downfall.

 

[Ssname]

I only want an ex to remember me too. Not because she fucked with my head or anything but I can't stand the thought that I am unimportant to her when she means everything to me still. I check the paper daily to make sure there are no car crashes or anything in her part of town. I just with I meant something to her too.

 

[Brokenanddeadinside]

Ya the two exes I had one I believe was a sociopath and she fucked with my head bad and killed a lot of what was good in me and the other ex also put me through a lot of shit. We were talking about getting married she was supposed to move in and my father moved out so she could move in because he hated living at the place anyway. I went to welding school just to have a good career to support her then it all went to complete shit and then started self destructing got involved with a girl I started using drugs with and eventually led to me saying fuck everything after a night I blacked out from drinking dropped out of the school sold my condo then moved up north and then more bad shit happened. Now I have nothing and will be homeless by end of month. I made a lot of big decisions because she said she wanted to marry me and I told her she had to be 100 percent sure about being with me and she said she was then next thing I know she goes into psychward for a month then lied about when she got out and then said she was gonna marry her ex. I almost killed myself when she told me. A bunch of other shit happened too but this is pretty much summarized.

 

[FairyAlys]

Re leaving your body to science: it is likely it would be rejected if it's not in a good condition ie fresh and usable.
I say this as someone I knew left their body to science and it took the hospital too long to pass it on, so it was not acceptable.

You can put no funeral in your will . You need to set up/ pay for disposal of your body as well to be sure .

 

[FadedMemory]

Same here. I've made way too many mistakes and my death is the only way they could be erased. Because no one will ever be bothered about a dead person. I just want to correct the mess I've made.
I also burned my photos and erased myself from social media. I'm also planning to sell some old stuff of mine. There was nothing good to ever come out of my life, and I feel like I've been more hated than loved, so why should I want to be remembered?

 

[Imaginos]

Aside from my parents & my brother, I've had very little contact or dealings with anyone else throughout what is, essentially, my entire life. For all intents & purposes, I am a literal ghost. The opposite of a George Bailey like character, in every way conceivable. Speaking of that though, I've always found it quite amusing to think of a scenario where I'd be in the same position as he was with Clarence in "It's a Wonderful Life". Clarence would be like, "Shit. I guess you really didn't affect anyone else's life in any remotely detectable way, good or bad. Well this plan fucking backfired. Hmm, I guess we should just go back to the bridge then. Want me to give you a push this time, or something?" As for me, my thoughts on the matter would essentially just be, "Phew! What a relief! Went through life without getting tainted by any of that human filth! Squeaky clean with naught a stain upon me, or anyone else, due to my total non-participation in this sorry excuse for a universe! And now my angel of death is ready & willing to give me a much needed helping hand to finally get the fuck out of here. How luck can a guy get? Probably not what you had in mind, but thanks anyways Jeebus!"

 

[shadow11]

I want to be remembered as a good mother and grandmother that is all not by anyone else also want to be cremated and scattered to the wind

 

[musicislife]

I don't want to be remembered when I die. I don't want there to be some funeral or anything. I just want people to forget about me and move on with their lives. The sooner I'm forgotten, the better.

Can anyone relate?

Yep, I want want David Bowie had a Direct Cremation no funeral no fuss straight to the toaster ... then scatter my ashes wherever because in 200 years time like the graves from the 1800s and early 1900s no one remembers them no more!!

 

[BlackDragonof1989]

I confess I'm conflicted, as I've been a very needy person throughout my life more often than not in terms of validation, to be remembered; few things have upset me more than someone I liked, or if I possibly ever loved, not sure, thinking the worst of me and/or forgetting me. I wish I were stronger like many here, in that I would not mind to be forgotten truly, and indeed would wish for it, though I suppose after I die, people will move on with time, though I'm not sure how it will be on the other side, if nothing exists, or I will exist in perpetual misery, or to be reincarnated, or to be liberated into bliss. I simply don't know, but this world here is uncertain and fleeting, as someone mentioned I believe, we'll eventually run out of graves for the dead as well, so not only is the desire to be forgotten admirable to me, but to be scattered with no burial is also admirable. I am being cremated myself but I do have a plot next to my father, I gave into societal norms and existential angst I suppose *shrugs* Still paying on the damned thing, and for what lol, when it gets down to it. I'm not close to anyone offline right now and don't have any close local friends, and that's how I've chosen to be thus far. So yeah, I'm a mess in my lack of consistency. xD

 

[LoverofDeath]

Same here. I want to be forgotten. I would prefer that everyone just pretend I wasn't even here to begin with. That me being here was just their imagination. I don't want a funeral either. I don't want anyone staring at my corpse and mourning at my death.