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Enlightened
- Apr 8, 2020
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I really thought he liked me and I wanted a future with him but he ended up messing with my head with his constant lying and mind games. In 2022 I was 25 and for the first time in my life I was no longer suicidal because my life was riding at an all time high. I had the most amazing holiday in Venice where I truly found myself and felt so alive like never before. After coming back from travelling my life subsequently kept getting better which is why 2022 was the best year of my life. For the first time in my life I was looking forward to the future.
I feel deeply in love with a 55 year old White British old man ( let's call him a pseudonym name Tom ) he made me feel so special in a way no man has ever done. All my life I have been that girl who never had a guy like her. As a teenager I had the confidence and social skills to talk to boys I liked but they always rejected me. I even experienced boys pretending to like me as a part of a sick entertaining joke to make their friends laugh. In adulthood I ask guys out but always they dump me at the last minute. Men sees other women special but no one sees anything special in me.
Part 1 : In November 2022 the first week in to my job I met Tom at an office event day organised by the workplace . The role was a WFH job and sometimes the workplace organised office days where the team meets up. At work I was wearing purple lipstick matching with a purple lacy dres and I was interacting with other people. Talking to people and making the effort to know people for me feels just natural, i always been like that. Tom saw me and we got talking.
I ended up leaving the office with Tom and another male colleague in his 30s to go for a walk. During our walk we both got to know each other. In the neighbourhood area where the office was located there is a large museum called the Imperial War Museum. I brought up with men I visted that museum and I was explaining about the stuff inside the museum I saw. The guys were impressed. Tom previously been to the museum a couple of years ago and he talked how is father used to hang out in the area as a boy however the other colleague never has been to the museum. Tom decides we should all go right now to the museum and he knew another walk path route to vist the museum. At the museum Tom told me to show them around and to keep track of time. I showed the man and other guy around the museum its was wonderful because it like having friends all life I never really had friends.We made it in time for lunch at work.
The next day at work Tom emailed me morning time. He wrote good morning and said he was looking forward to seeing me around. Tom hadn't started his job role yet and was due to start a week after me . He was in an a managerial role but we both had the same boss. I later discover he was close mates with our boss who is a white old man like him.
My second week at work I saw Tom again in at a 9.00am Microsoft Teams meeting. Seeing him on camera I felt my heart racing when i saw that polar neck he was wearing and those green eyes standing out. I smiled at him during the meeting and he smiled back. Nobody in the meeting saw because imajority had their cameras turned off and the boss was too busy talking. I was so proud of myself that I flirted with him without getting caught. I emailed him complimenting his polar neck and he said thanks.
In the beginning it was so wonderful because he was so caring and attentive it was so great having a mn finally notice me. When I emailed the workplace IT department and our boss that I needed a something the man saw my email somehow and even wrote if there was anything he can do to help. When it was his day off the man messaged me saying he was decorating his house. He used to tell me things he was doing. One time at work he began calling me S instead of my full name when I asked why he did this he didn't respond and went back to calling my full name. When I mentioned I was not feeling well the man remembered our previous conversation and asked how I was doing.
He gave me compliments at work too. When I mentioned I camd back from the dentist the man wrote a public message on the workplace chat "you can smile again"
During ALL our messaging the Tom NEVER EVER mentioned his relationship status and constantly gave the impression he was single. He lived by himself, he never married and has no children. At the office he mentioned he was spending Christmas by himself and I saw the sadness in his eyes. He later told me his father died earlier in the year and his brother is not a nice person who kerosene bullying him in a family property dispute
During the Christmas season I sent a E Christmas card to my boss, a card for the whole department thanking them for making me feel welcome and a separate card to the man. Nobody in the department said thank you for my cards except the man. When the man received my card he thanked me for showing him kindness and told me if I ever needed anything he I can always go to him. I shared with him the loss of my own grandfather who died in December 2020 I never shared that with anyone, when my grandfather died I kept that grief to myself.
Part 2 - I was forced by my famiky to see my relatives overseas in January for family stuff and I ended up applying for remote working aboard which the company granted. I didn't want to be stuck in a holiday apartment with toxic relatives who don't even care about me and I would rather spend it with colleagues. Tom began to change completely towards me.
When he found out I was leaving the country he told me to spend time with my family and thats when he began to distance himself from me. I couldn't understand why. During my overseas stay I told him my relative problems which are bit similar to his are the reason why I root for him in wanting him to best his brother. It was wonderful having him listen and understand. I felt I finally had someone I can connect with.
I was struggling in my job role and confinded in Tom my worries. He was my number 1 ally
During a work meeting he asked me when was I coming back to the UK I thought was sweet. I began to get suspicious that he either had a wife or another woman in his life so when I came back to the UK I was going to find some answers by carrying out a plan I made.
Part 3- The day I came back to the UK I decided to log in for work in the afternoon and cared about carrying out my plan which involved a Microsoft Teams phone call. The plan was to get him to come to me and I started a causal normal conservation about work and normal stuff in our lives. I was so calm and relaxed throughout that is how I extracted information out of him and caught him. I made sure he was relaxed as possible. I charmed him by saying " enough about me tell me about how you are doing you been going through a lot lately " I made feel him important and good about himself that is how I got him relaxed and off guard.
I charmed him by saying " enough about me tell me about how you are doing you been going through a lot lately " It all came out because I asked him more about his holiday plans in the conversation. He told me he was going away on February to Spain. This is how I got very suspicious.
I asked him who is going with because he lives by himself, estranged from his brother and his friends are all busy with their spouses and children. He told me he was going with a woman lets call her K .Then the interrogation began.• I asked him calmly who is K? He told me she is his girlfriend• I asked calmly him how long has this been going for then I asked why did he spend Christmas by all himself instead of it at her house.
K is 55 years old like him and she has 2 kids from her previous relationship. Tom has been on and off with K for 20 fuckiing years I was so devastated. It was clear he found me when he was no longer with her and when he got back with her he decided to stop focusing his attention on me.
He was even struggling to answer my questions especially why his has been on and off with his girlfriend for 20 years. The call at one point cut then phoned me again saying he customer came on the call and he needed to deal with it. Bullsh*t he cut the line himself because he couldn't cope with my questions as I was grilling him like a police officer in police questioning.
The man was telling me about his ALL past relationships . I learnt he gets into relationships with other women including in the company when he splits up with his gf and leaves them when he gets back with his gf. He even told me a bizarre story that he had a relationship with a Colombian employee he had a relationship with. He told me she "disappeared one day". He said he thinks "her visa expired". I always thought the visa story was not making any sense. I now question "what did he do to her" and why was he telling me this.
I asked him if he ever dated anyone younger than himself. He told me I should be with a man my own age and then proceeded to say he doesn't date 25 years olds because he "can't keep up" I was sooo crushed by that comment. I asked him are you saying you can keep up with me ?. He said we will never happen and how K is his "Rock" . I made a joke making fun of his masculinity but he didn't understand it. The joke was why can't you beat up your brother the way Prince William had been beating Prince Harry. I was upset when he made the comment he couldn't keep up with me so I decided to make fun of him not being man enough standing up to his family. He is the eldest sibling, the eldest is supposed to be strong. I learnt he couldn't win fights as a teenager. I won school fights than him.
I emailed him saying I was love with him even though I didnt want to be. I also wrote I that I was happy for him, accepted his relationship and I wished him well and I said I let him go.
I was ready to move on from him, no longer depend on him for stuff and he knew all this then he began sabotaging me at work assisted by an older woman colleague at work who I thought was my friend and our boss believed all the lies he told about me without question. I got humiliated so much at work. This was my first serious job since graduating university this is how my career turned out.
This man is one of the reasons why I do want to kill myself because everyday I am finding it impossible to get over him. I feel like I will never meet another exciting man who noticed me the way he did, made me feel special he way did and gave me real excitement in my life . Guys my own age can't see infront of them the woman who wants to be infront of them and always run after another woman.
I didn't care how about his age and the fact he came into work with four front teeth missing. I really wanted a future with him. I don't think there is anyone else
I feel deeply in love with a 55 year old White British old man ( let's call him a pseudonym name Tom ) he made me feel so special in a way no man has ever done. All my life I have been that girl who never had a guy like her. As a teenager I had the confidence and social skills to talk to boys I liked but they always rejected me. I even experienced boys pretending to like me as a part of a sick entertaining joke to make their friends laugh. In adulthood I ask guys out but always they dump me at the last minute. Men sees other women special but no one sees anything special in me.
Part 1 : In November 2022 the first week in to my job I met Tom at an office event day organised by the workplace . The role was a WFH job and sometimes the workplace organised office days where the team meets up. At work I was wearing purple lipstick matching with a purple lacy dres and I was interacting with other people. Talking to people and making the effort to know people for me feels just natural, i always been like that. Tom saw me and we got talking.
I ended up leaving the office with Tom and another male colleague in his 30s to go for a walk. During our walk we both got to know each other. In the neighbourhood area where the office was located there is a large museum called the Imperial War Museum. I brought up with men I visted that museum and I was explaining about the stuff inside the museum I saw. The guys were impressed. Tom previously been to the museum a couple of years ago and he talked how is father used to hang out in the area as a boy however the other colleague never has been to the museum. Tom decides we should all go right now to the museum and he knew another walk path route to vist the museum. At the museum Tom told me to show them around and to keep track of time. I showed the man and other guy around the museum its was wonderful because it like having friends all life I never really had friends.We made it in time for lunch at work.
The next day at work Tom emailed me morning time. He wrote good morning and said he was looking forward to seeing me around. Tom hadn't started his job role yet and was due to start a week after me . He was in an a managerial role but we both had the same boss. I later discover he was close mates with our boss who is a white old man like him.
My second week at work I saw Tom again in at a 9.00am Microsoft Teams meeting. Seeing him on camera I felt my heart racing when i saw that polar neck he was wearing and those green eyes standing out. I smiled at him during the meeting and he smiled back. Nobody in the meeting saw because imajority had their cameras turned off and the boss was too busy talking. I was so proud of myself that I flirted with him without getting caught. I emailed him complimenting his polar neck and he said thanks.
In the beginning it was so wonderful because he was so caring and attentive it was so great having a mn finally notice me. When I emailed the workplace IT department and our boss that I needed a something the man saw my email somehow and even wrote if there was anything he can do to help. When it was his day off the man messaged me saying he was decorating his house. He used to tell me things he was doing. One time at work he began calling me S instead of my full name when I asked why he did this he didn't respond and went back to calling my full name. When I mentioned I was not feeling well the man remembered our previous conversation and asked how I was doing.
He gave me compliments at work too. When I mentioned I camd back from the dentist the man wrote a public message on the workplace chat "you can smile again"
During ALL our messaging the Tom NEVER EVER mentioned his relationship status and constantly gave the impression he was single. He lived by himself, he never married and has no children. At the office he mentioned he was spending Christmas by himself and I saw the sadness in his eyes. He later told me his father died earlier in the year and his brother is not a nice person who kerosene bullying him in a family property dispute
During the Christmas season I sent a E Christmas card to my boss, a card for the whole department thanking them for making me feel welcome and a separate card to the man. Nobody in the department said thank you for my cards except the man. When the man received my card he thanked me for showing him kindness and told me if I ever needed anything he I can always go to him. I shared with him the loss of my own grandfather who died in December 2020 I never shared that with anyone, when my grandfather died I kept that grief to myself.
Part 2 - I was forced by my famiky to see my relatives overseas in January for family stuff and I ended up applying for remote working aboard which the company granted. I didn't want to be stuck in a holiday apartment with toxic relatives who don't even care about me and I would rather spend it with colleagues. Tom began to change completely towards me.
When he found out I was leaving the country he told me to spend time with my family and thats when he began to distance himself from me. I couldn't understand why. During my overseas stay I told him my relative problems which are bit similar to his are the reason why I root for him in wanting him to best his brother. It was wonderful having him listen and understand. I felt I finally had someone I can connect with.
I was struggling in my job role and confinded in Tom my worries. He was my number 1 ally
During a work meeting he asked me when was I coming back to the UK I thought was sweet. I began to get suspicious that he either had a wife or another woman in his life so when I came back to the UK I was going to find some answers by carrying out a plan I made.
Part 3- The day I came back to the UK I decided to log in for work in the afternoon and cared about carrying out my plan which involved a Microsoft Teams phone call. The plan was to get him to come to me and I started a causal normal conservation about work and normal stuff in our lives. I was so calm and relaxed throughout that is how I extracted information out of him and caught him. I made sure he was relaxed as possible. I charmed him by saying " enough about me tell me about how you are doing you been going through a lot lately " I made feel him important and good about himself that is how I got him relaxed and off guard.
I charmed him by saying " enough about me tell me about how you are doing you been going through a lot lately " It all came out because I asked him more about his holiday plans in the conversation. He told me he was going away on February to Spain. This is how I got very suspicious.
I asked him who is going with because he lives by himself, estranged from his brother and his friends are all busy with their spouses and children. He told me he was going with a woman lets call her K .Then the interrogation began.• I asked him calmly who is K? He told me she is his girlfriend• I asked calmly him how long has this been going for then I asked why did he spend Christmas by all himself instead of it at her house.
K is 55 years old like him and she has 2 kids from her previous relationship. Tom has been on and off with K for 20 fuckiing years I was so devastated. It was clear he found me when he was no longer with her and when he got back with her he decided to stop focusing his attention on me.
He was even struggling to answer my questions especially why his has been on and off with his girlfriend for 20 years. The call at one point cut then phoned me again saying he customer came on the call and he needed to deal with it. Bullsh*t he cut the line himself because he couldn't cope with my questions as I was grilling him like a police officer in police questioning.
The man was telling me about his ALL past relationships . I learnt he gets into relationships with other women including in the company when he splits up with his gf and leaves them when he gets back with his gf. He even told me a bizarre story that he had a relationship with a Colombian employee he had a relationship with. He told me she "disappeared one day". He said he thinks "her visa expired". I always thought the visa story was not making any sense. I now question "what did he do to her" and why was he telling me this.
I asked him if he ever dated anyone younger than himself. He told me I should be with a man my own age and then proceeded to say he doesn't date 25 years olds because he "can't keep up" I was sooo crushed by that comment. I asked him are you saying you can keep up with me ?. He said we will never happen and how K is his "Rock" . I made a joke making fun of his masculinity but he didn't understand it. The joke was why can't you beat up your brother the way Prince William had been beating Prince Harry. I was upset when he made the comment he couldn't keep up with me so I decided to make fun of him not being man enough standing up to his family. He is the eldest sibling, the eldest is supposed to be strong. I learnt he couldn't win fights as a teenager. I won school fights than him.
I emailed him saying I was love with him even though I didnt want to be. I also wrote I that I was happy for him, accepted his relationship and I wished him well and I said I let him go.
I was ready to move on from him, no longer depend on him for stuff and he knew all this then he began sabotaging me at work assisted by an older woman colleague at work who I thought was my friend and our boss believed all the lies he told about me without question. I got humiliated so much at work. This was my first serious job since graduating university this is how my career turned out.
This man is one of the reasons why I do want to kill myself because everyday I am finding it impossible to get over him. I feel like I will never meet another exciting man who noticed me the way he did, made me feel special he way did and gave me real excitement in my life . Guys my own age can't see infront of them the woman who wants to be infront of them and always run after another woman.
I didn't care how about his age and the fact he came into work with four front teeth missing. I really wanted a future with him. I don't think there is anyone else
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