I need help

[golgappa]

How do I find motivation to do basic day to day task?

 

[littleraccoon3]

motivation doesn't always come in an instant. But once you start, even with small steps, you'll find yourself taking bigger ones. Trust yourself, and remember that you are progressing with every step you take.

 

[Dot]

How do I find motivation to do basic day to day task?

Wht knd of tsk r u thnkng of

 

[golgappa]

Wht knd of tsk r u thnkng of

Just basic like eating, showering, exercise or even sleeping, work... learning all I do is thinking and not take action

 

[Dot]

Just basic like eating, showering, exercise or even sleeping, work... learning all I do is thinking and not take action

Wht d/ u thnk = stoppng u -- e.g d/ u hve deprssn or adhd or smethng lke tht

 

[Mirrory Me]

Well, you can use some items and ornaments to make it more interesting.

 

[alltoomuch2]

What helps me sometimes is to break the tasks into much smaller steps. So for example if I can't get the motivation to get out of bed, I start by sitting up as a goal. Then I feel a bit different so it's easier to do the next step. Food wise, if I'm having a better day I make a lot of something online then freeze portions so when I'm not so good I can microwave a frozen portion. I also keep a supply of easy foods - eg peanut butter, marmite. I avoid anything that has to be prepared or any more cleaning up than a spoon and a plastic tub. I've also just started using an app called Finch which I'm finding much more motivating for self care than the usual apps

 

[CC123]

maybe add something to an activity you already do
take a piss after getting up, add brush your teeth after my first piss of the day
maybe check in with SaSu at a certain time of day

 

[Dot]

Just basic like eating, showering, exercise or even sleeping, work... learning all I do is thinking and not take action

Makng plannr fr eatng cn hlp bcse u cn pln easy dinnrs & grocris etc whch r nt mch effrt & thy tke awy th/ dy-2-dy 'thnkng' as evrythng = strcturd fr u alrdy 1nce pln hs bn mde

Thre = thred fr sleepng tps whch mght hve strt a basc routne

Smetmes havng t/ thnk 2 mch adds pressre 2 basc tsks

 

[golgappa]

Wht d/ u thnk = stoppng u -- e.g d/ u hve deprssn or adhd or smethng l

Makng plannr fr eatng cn hlp bcse u cn pln easy dinnrs & grocris etc whch r nt mch effrt & thy tke awy th/ dy-2-dy 'thnkng' as evrythng = strcturd fr u alrdy 1nce pln hs bn mde

Thre = thred fr sleepng tps whch mght hve strt a basc routne

Smetmes havng t/ thnk 2 mch adds pressre 2 basc tsks

It just make me feel like I am dead...I hate existing but I want to be better...I don't want a routine cause it will just make it worse I have no motivation to do anything I am used to eating once a day , most of the days I am fine even if I don't eat I have lost 10kgs in last 2 months cause of this it's not good ik but I feel nothing but like crying

 

[Dot]

It just make me feel like I am dead...I hate existing but I want to be better...I don't want a routine cause it will just make it worse I have no motivation to do anything I am used to eating once a day , most of the days I am fine even if I don't eat I have lost 10kgs in last 2 months cause of this it's not good ik but I feel nothing but like crying

Hve u rceivd n.e mentl hlth hlp

Mght nd sme medcatn or smethng t/ hlp

 

[golgappa]

Hve u rceivd n.e mentl hlth hlp

Mght nd sme medcatn or smethng t/ hlp

I been thinking to...but I hate taking medicine.. specially anti depressant it makes me feel worse been on and off on them for last 10 year no improvement....just getting worse but I will try therapy ig I just can't put so much money in it right now

 

[Dot]

I been thinking to...but I hate taking medicine.. specially anti depressant it makes me feel worse been on and off on them for last 10 year no improvement....just getting worse but I will try therapy ig I just can't put so much money in it right now

Ok

Wll thre r bdy-doublng webstes whch mght hlp wth certn tsks s/ u r nt alne whn doin thm

Also if u cn thnk of a rward fr doin certn tsks - lke plannng smethng tht u lke aftr havng a showr etc tht mght hlp wth sme motvatn
Playng musc whle cookng or findng sme easy rdy-mde optns

Breakng thngs dwn cn hlp
Also obvsly th/ optns frm oth ppl on thred

 

[Life_and_Death]

It just make me feel like I am dead...I hate existing but I want to be better...I don't want a routine cause it will just make it worse I have no motivation to do anything I am used to eating once a day , most of the days I am fine even if I don't eat I have lost 10kgs in last 2 months cause of this it's not good ik but I feel nothing but like crying

i personally found that i had to do the mental work before i could start the physical stuff.
and while a routine may be your long term goal, its a stressful thought, so dont worry about that. if you get a routine thats a bonus.
for now, start out really small, go by the moment. and if you have a nagging voice, i used it to my 'advantage', "ugh i dont want to listen to you for the next 2-4 days" so get up and do it now.

oh and probably the best piece of advice i can give, give yourself patience. its ok if you couldnt do it today. thats normal and part of the process. take a deep breath and try again when youre ready

 

[nothingspecial]

I find it very hard to do basic day to day tasks. This is a method that has helped me: breaking it down into very small steps.

For example, this is how I would brush my teeth:

1. All I need to do is walk to my bathroom. That's all I need to worry about right now.
2. Okay, I made it to my bathroom. All I need to do is grab my toothbrush. If I don't have enough energy, that's okay. Let's just try.
3. I grabbed my toothbrush. All I need to worry about is grabbing my toothpaste.

And then it goes on and on. I only set my mind to doing the smallest next step. I tell myself that if it's too much for me, I can go back to bed. But usually I find that I have just enough energy to do the smallest next step, and then the smallest next step, and then so on, and before I know it, the task is completed.

You could also promise yourself a reward after each step, or after completing a task.

I don't know if this makes any sense, but this is the only way my ADHD brain knows how to get stuff done, even the smallest tasks like putting socks on can be made easier for me by breaking it down into small steps!

There's a self care app called Finch that has helped me immensely with this, I reccomend it. You can get virtual rewards for doing very small steps.

 

[alltoomuch2]

I find it very hard to do basic day to day tasks. This is a method that has helped me: breaking it down into very small steps.

For example, this is how I would brush my teeth:

1. All I need to do is walk to my bathroom. That's all I need to worry about right now.
2. Okay, I made it to my bathroom. All I need to do is grab my toothbrush. If I don't have enough energy, that's okay. Let's just try.
3. I grabbed my toothbrush. All I need to worry about is grabbing my toothpaste.

And then it goes on and on. I only set my mind to doing the smallest next step. I tell myself that if it's too much for me, I can go back to bed. But usually I find that I have just enough energy to do the smallest next step, and then the smallest next step, and then so on, and before I know it, the task is completed.

You could also promise yourself a reward after each step, or after completing a task.

I don't know if this makes any sense, but this is the only way my ADHD brain knows how to get stuff done, even the smallest tasks like putting socks on can be made easier for me by breaking it down into small steps!

There's a self care app called Finch that has helped me immensely with this, I reccomend it. You can get virtual rewards for doing very small steps.

I use Finch. I find it really helpful. Especially the way you can tie a task to hatching the egg - that got me out for my 5 minute walk today despite the freezing wind and rain when all I wanted to do was stay in bed.

 

[nothingspecial]

I use Finch. I find it really helpful. Especially the way you can tie a task to hatching the egg - that got me out for my 5 minute walk today despite the freezing wind and rain when all I wanted to do was stay in bed.

Yes, this feature is so great!! As silly as it is, Finch gets me out of bed in the morning. I still have to do my five minute walk today!

 

[golgappa]

Wha

Yes, this feature is so great!! As silly as it is, Finch gets me out of bed in the morning. I still have to do my five minute walk today!

What is a hinch?

 

[nothingspecial]

Wha

What is a hinch?

Finch is a self care app for your phone :)

 

[alltoomuch2]

Wha

What is a hinch?

Finch is a self care app. I find it much more fun and helpful than the others. The free version is good enough on it's own. There's lots to it. It's based on a sort of cartoon reward system. Here's a link so you can try the free version if you want. https://finchcare.com/

 

[golgappa]

Finch is a self care app. I find it much more fun and helpful than the others. The free version is good enough on it's own. There's lots to it. It's based on a sort of cartoon reward system. Here's a link so you can try the free version if you want. https://finchcare.com/

Oh thank you i Googled but found nothing now I found it thank you will try it

 

[alltoomuch2]

Oh thank you i Googled but found nothing now I found it thank you will try it

Hope it helps xxxc