Story I think i fucked up really bad

[0kcomputer]

So...uh. Someone in my gf's personal life killed themselves. I honestly don't know what's wrong with me but I basically congratulated them i feel. I just said "it's good that their at peace, there was nothing else" type shit. I feel bad but I honestly don't even react to suicides or death anymore. I dont know what is wrong with me. I'm terrible for this.

 

[Worndown]

I would say you were tired.
It is best to keep a sympathetic response to the death of others. You do not want to be viewed as a jerk.

 

[VoidBlessed]

I understand where you're coming from. Whenever I hear of a suicide I feel a similar sense of pride, as well as inspiration. However, modern society doesn't view suicide fairly and while I agree that the end of suffering is a good thing, the best thing to do is simply to mask up and play the expected role. Shake your head, offer condolences, and move on.

 

[dumbnhappy]

You can always play it off as a shock response. If she asks, apologize and tell her that you were shocked and messed up. I understand where you were coming from tho. Dont worry this can be fixed with a white lie

 

[Adûnâi]

Umm, that's a totally sensible response? Everything else is selfish and yucky. It's like if everyone in your tribe murdered a puppy, and you were having pangs of conscience over not doing that lmao

A year ago my mom said that the cute intelligent female doctor who had been touching me months prior had died in her sleep, and I congratulated her, too^^

 

[nattys5thtoenail]

It's okay, you're not a therapist we're humans and you comforted them in the best way you could. If they get mad then they shouldn't have vented and not set boundaries beforehand.

 

[lnlybnny]

It's always very awkward when someone says to me somebody ctb'd. I can't act like I'm shocked or upset. I think to myself "good for them" but on the outside I just say something casual like "oh really? wow!" I never know what to say without drawing attention to my own suicidality