If you get to have a second chance at a better childhood what would your family look like?

[asian.neet]

Didn't get chosen to be born in a Christian asian family who is homophobic, where I faced academic pressure only other asian kids felt, where my dad was emotionally abusive to my sister and mom during arguments.

My family right now consists of my sister, dad, and mom who are brainwashed in fundie Christian cult shit. I feel like super out of place in this world; I am a socialist while the rest of my family are socially conservative economically center but doesn't care about shit at all because "it's all useless the only thing to do is love god" bs.

I am also autistic and my dad may be a bit autistic but seriously I am very incompatible with my family. Also went through ABA shit when i was a toddler so basically any type of stimming got beaten out of me and probably caused emotional dysregulation issues on top of the abuse and nonsensical culty bullshit I went through.

I am also gay and used to have different neopronouns. I like male bodies but 99% of the crushes I have are anthropomorphic animal like (aka furry) but cannot develop an attraction to humans. Most brutal case was when I had a crush of someone that was alumni of the university I used to be in, attracted to his personality and thought of his furry character so much I was pretty much ready to ask him out on a date but after seeing him irl in his human form in person it kinda died.

Being neurodivergent society and my family ain't built for me but only for neurotypicals. Don't get me started on racism and lgbt-phobia in the shithole USA. I was absolutely delighted to get stereotyped as "China-virus" "the kid from Up (disney movie)" "do you eat dogs?" by Trump and racists :*)))))

In essence, I feel like a square piece being forcefully jammed into a round hole in a toddler's toybox full of different cut-out shapes and blocks of different shapes.

Now that I got that out of the way, here's my ideal family I wish I was fucking born in:
- 2 fathers, homosexual relationships
- 1 brother or sister, idc the orientation but way more empathetic than my biological sister ever was
- house of progressive values
- if string of abuse in extended family I hope my two dads would be the generation that breaks the cycle of abuse (EMOTIONAL INCLUDED; my biological mom does overcome the physical part but not emotional)
- preferably not human, but different species that is anthropomorphic humanoid like

What's yours, if you had a bad childhood or felt like you didn't belong in your family?

 

[アホペンギン]

I'd like to be a cat, in a family of cats

 

[sserafim]

If I had to be a human again, I'd want to be born into a family with no neurodivergent genes (unfortunately I have Asperger's/autism, ADHD, and social anxiety). I heard that these disorders have a genetic element to them and that autism is a result from genes from the father's side. Honestly autism is such a curse. There's no good reason for it to even exist in the first place. Fuck it for even existing.

I would also want to be born into a rich/wealthy family. My current family is well-off but I feel like if I were born into an even wealthier family, I'd have a better life.

I'd like to be a cat, in a family of cats
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Same. They all look so happy

 

[Spiritual survivor]

I would have had a mother and father who both loved me and wanted me to succeed. Unfortunately I had a mother that did not really love me and no father. They both rejected me. I ended up struggling severely in life as a result and even now I don't expect to live past age 50 due to just not having ever established myself the ways in which leads to a stable old age life.

 

[needrelief18]

Neurotypical Mom - a "good enough mother" which would've prevented me from developing a personality disorder.

 

[asian.neet]

I'd like to be a cat, in a family of cats
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i prefer this

not this bullshit

If I had to be a human again, I'd want to be born into a family with no neurodivergent genes (unfortunately I have Asperger's/autism, ADHD, and social anxiety). I heard that these disorders have a genetic element to them and that autism is a result from genes from the father's side. Honestly autism is such a curse. There's no good reason for it to even exist in the first place. Fuck it for even existing.

I would also want to be born into a rich/wealthy family. My current family is well-off but I feel like if I were born into an even wealthier family, I'd have a better life.

Same. They all look so happy

im fine with being autistic, i wish that society was accomodating towards our needs. nothing wrong with being neurodivergent, its society that chooses to ignore neurodivergents.

i would be fine with family in the same or below economic status because that would mean not having to run away which requires a lot of wealth. which also means i could be a club leader of my high school's Gay-Straight Alliance or smth, or just being a normal child instead of having to face the "asian kid" experience.

if i ended up with a similar family then i would ask for my parents to be billionaires because i could get away with them by studying at oxford, stanford, any UC campus, or some out of state or international prestigious university away from those dickheads.

 

[Kit1]

I don't even want to think about families or having another childhood. Just find that whole thought process depressing and distressing.

 

[dysthymia]

A spiritual or atheist white family with a strong but loving mother and non-neglectful father, 2 brothers and 2 sisters.

 

[The Ninth God]

I would live the same childhood. Why? Because I suffered a lot, shattering to the point of no return, but that pain made me learn a lot of things, made me stronger.

That applies to another similar question: "If you could met your young self and tell them something, what would you say?"

Nothing. I wouldn't tell myself anything and just gaze onto my past, because I know that I will be strong enough to keep fighting.