Help is life worth living?

[unalive.]

For people that are older than me, does life get any better in time, or should i just end it all now?

 

[Darkover]

Whether life is worth living or not is subjective
It depends on individual experiences, values, goals, and perspectives. Some people find meaning in relationships, creativity, or contributing to society, while others struggle with suffering and may question the value of existence.
Ultimately, it's up to each person to decide based on their circumstances

 

[unalive.]

Whether life is worth living or not is subjective
It depends on individual experiences, values, goals, and perspectives. Some people find meaning in relationships, creativity, or contributing to society, while others struggle with suffering and may question the value of existence.
Ultimately, it's up to each person to decide based on their circumstances

Okay, thank you so much ill try to get better and give life a chance i guess.

 

[Theresnoescape]

Hi and welcome. I think it's always worth giving life the best chance you can, it may work out well for you. I'm 42 and I thought the same when I was younger. Unfortunately for me, I still feel the same about life, but it's always worth a shot.

 

[unalive.]

Hi and welcome. I think it's always worth giving life the best chance you can, it may work out well for you. I'm 42 and I thought the same when I was younger. Unfortunately for me, I still feel the same about life, but it's always worth a shot.

Thanks so much for the help.

 

[Theresnoescape]

Anytime.

 

[MatrixPrisoner]

At 45, I can say that it's not guaranteed to get better. And if it doesn't, as is my case, it really sucks. And the suckage of only gets exponentially worse by the year.

But if you want to increase the chances of it getting better, you have to put in the work now, while you still have youthful energy. Work hard if you need to, but try to work smart as often as possible.

Practice minimalism and saving as much money as you can. Material possessions will only weigh you down.

I wish you luck, if you wish to live.

 

[unalive.]

At 45, I can say that it's not guaranteed to get better. And if it doesn't, as is my case, it really sucks. And the suckage of only gets exponentially worse by the year.

But if you want to increase the chances of it getting better, you have to put in the work now, while you still have youthful energy. Work hard if you need to, but try to work smart as often as possible.

Practice minimalism and saving as much money as you can. Material possessions will only weigh you down.

I wish you luck, if you wish to live.

Thanks so much i really appreciate it, i really hope that life gets better for you!

 

[Praestat_Mori]

The younger you are the higher the chances that it can get better. That's subjective and depends on what you consider "better". Ultimately nobody knows the future.

 

[Daydream Believer]

I am just sitting on the fence. I just plod on day after day hoping that things get better. Some days are better than others. Some are madness, where I hide under the duvet and dream of death. Today is an ok kind of day. There's a whisper of hope somewhere in my delusional hazy mind xx

 

[Tig]

At 59, I've seen a lot things, some better some worse.
At 18, hope to see you take a chance at life getting better than worse.
You have only just begun to experience life's ups and downs.
I hope you stick it out to see if life gets better, at least to 21, that's the next milestone.
You deserve to experience it, before make your decision.

 

[Forever Sleep]

My best years to date were probably my 30's but, that's because in my 20's, I knew I was very unhappy and on the wrong tracks, so I put in a lot of effort to change things. I did a second degree in my late 20's, I later moved 100's of miles for a new job and a new start. I ended up leaving that job and subsequent jobs till I found something I felt happier doing.

So- I'd say- life can get better but, it's unlikely to happen my magic. You'll likely need to put (a lot) of effort in. Ultimately for me personally, it still hasn't exactly felt worth it but it probably depends where you put your focus. I put all my eggs in one basket (as it were.) I focused on one thing to the exclusion of everything else. That's a bit of a risky tactic. It's probably better to try and work on all areas of life- friendships, relationships, career, hobbies and interests so- if one fails, you still have the others. I hope you do manage to turn things around.

 

[Heidi48]

depends what you mean by better- for me personally growing older had its advantages, i have definitely learned to give less of shit about things eg: what people might think/ how i look/ saying no to things.
but there has been disadvantages too- eg. financial pressure

 

[chocosyrup]

For people that are older than me, does life get any better in time, or should i just end it all now?

It depends, but on average a lot of people will experience a life where there is only continued suffering coming for them

Its like setting sail on your boat on a nice day to go on an adventure, not knowing that a storm is coming your way,

The reality in those situations is that death is the only gate opening towards peace.

 

[ijustwishtodie]

It depends. Only you are able to look at your life and determine that for yourself

 

[WeDontKnowTheFuture]

You will see over time if it's get better ot not, if you have hope, hobbies, projects and friends It is already a good soil to grow plants.

 

[Unhumanly.]

Most people will say everyone can have the opportunity to see it for themselves, but truth is, it depend on internal conditions and the environment one find themselves in

 

[Unknown21]

Depends on your circumstances ofc.

 

[CogitoMori]

For people that are older than me, does life get any better in time, or should i just end it all now?

I don't think so. I tried to make things better, and they seemed to get better for a while, but that was just life giving me a taste of false hope so I'd suffer even more once I knew what happiness felt like.
I honestly wish I'd been successful when I was younger so people would still think I had potential instead of knowing I'm a burnt out waste.

 

[FuneralCry]

Personally I'd always prefer to not exist but really I wish I never existed at all more than anything, I just have no interest in suffering in this existence, none of this could ever be worth it for me rather I see existence as the opposite. I see existence as something so dreadful, cruel and futile that just causes so much terrible suffering all for the sake of it, I wish this existence was never imposed, for me only non-existence could ever be desirable, the thought of being enslaved in this existence until old age is horrific to me, personally I find it a burden to simply be conscious at all, existence itself will always feel like a mistake to me no matter what.

 

[unalive.]

thank you all so much! i really appreciate it

 

[Trismegistus_13]

I'm not sure how old you are, but once you become an adult, getting older just means being an adult + more experience, so I would say it gets better in that sense. I'm 26 but know who I am SO much better than I did at 20. Sometimes things take time to fall into place. It won't always be easy, but you learn how to manage the bad better, if that makes sense,

 

[AnderDethsky]

There are four possibilities:

	You decide to live	You decide to die
Had you lived, then with probability p life would stay the same or get worse	-1​	0​
Had you lived, then with probability 1 - p life would get better	1​	0​

This is of course a very extreme abstraction of the problem, but hopefully we can get something out of it. The numbers in the table indicate how good this combination of options is (relative to the other ones) from the point of view of the individual who is facing such a dilemma. The larger the number, the better the outcome. These numbers are in no way intended to be precise in any sense. The "die" column contains the same number on both rows since if someone dies it makes no difference for him what his life would be like had he lived. Suicide turns out to be just a mediocre outcome , however if one does not think that things will improve, its appeal increases.

Some Pro-lifer would say that the chances that things will get better is high, but truthfully neither of us know what will happen, so why not just play it safe? An argument at this point is at a dead end, there are simply too many variables. How will your life turn out? What are the "real numerical" values which should be in the table? There is probably no way to answer these questions.

To make things interesting lets hypothesize for a bit... Suppose that a "future me" could come back in time to convince me not to commit suicide.

Future me: "I never dreamed that life could be this great. Please don't commit suicide. If you wont you will end up like me. I promise you it is great."
me: "Well thats easy for you to say. All of the shit is far behind you. What do you care of what I will have to go through to become you. You are at the end of a trail where *I* will have to suffer passing. Why should I do this for you"

Fme: "But I *am* you."

me: "No you are not. You are a future me"

Fme: "But you shall become me in time..."

me: "But is it worth the suffering I will have to go through until I become you?"

Fme: "I promise you it wont take a lot of time and you will hardly suffer any more. I remember the time when I was you. The abrupt change surprised me. I am glad I am alive to tell you this".

me: "Thats very touching but how can I believe you? You have absolutely no concern for my feelings. All you care about is that you will continue to exist in your state of bliss. You know that if I take my life you will vanish. What do you care what will happen to me until I become you? It's already behind you?"

Fme: "Come on. I do care! We can get through this together!"

me: "We are not 'together', we are practically rivals. Although we do share some common goals, we are competing over resources. You would probably want me to save more money, to exercise and to go on a diet until I become you. And although we both will benefit, I will be the only one who will pay for it.

Fme: "So are you going to go through with it?"

me: "I might. It is my choice."

Fme: "But thats murder. You are going to kill me."

me: "No I am going to kill *me*! *You* would have never been."

Fme: "But it *is* murder. You are killing another person. You said yourself that we are not the same."

me: "How can I murder somebody that never lived? How can you have rights if you never lived? Besides, I am the one in control and I will decide what will happen to me. Thats how life is".

Fme: "But thats discrimination against future men!"

me: "Yes it is... I know it's sad... I dont have any solutions for you... Please dont cry, that's just life..."

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Answering Pro-Life Arguments

 

[nobob]

I don't care. There are good reasons for suicide as well as for living.