Discussion Isolation and Death at Home

[Ash’Girl]

Scenario: Today I called the police to do a wellness check on my neighbour. He's mostly a shut in, gets everything delivered, and though we chat occasionally in the stairwell, or when we take parcels in for each other, our contact is fairly limited. However he'd spend most of his time gaming online and he had a tendency to scream profanities when being attacked in battle so I'd hear him fairly regularly.

I hadn't heard him in several weeks. No answer at his door. So I called the police to check on him.

He's dead. Possibly been dead for in excess of 6 weeks.

From what I know of him, he had no friends or family. Nobody to care or check on him. I have no idea if he killed himself or died of natural causes. If I hadn't called, who knows how long before anyone noticed.

When the police broke down the door, the smell immediately started to permeate the building. I can't explain it but it's like nothing I have smelt before. Attending officers threw up. Since they then had people in and out for the next 4 hours, the smell has even seeped into my flat (apartment). When they moved the body it got even worse. I dread to think what he looked like and the biohazard in his flat but I googled enough about body decomposition process to give me nightmares.

Anyway, I'm also very isolated in terms of engagement with humans. Right now, if I did CTB, which given my social anxiety would likely be at home, work would raise the flag if I was missing for a few days, I guess. But if I leave work or end up on longterm sick, nobody would raise the flag for weeks. When my mum passes, months even.

For those of you who are equally isolated, do you have a plan to ensure your body being found within a certain window of time or do you not care?

 

[final_countdown12]

Scenario: Today I called the police to do a wellness check on my neighbour. He's mostly a shut in, gets everything delivered, and though we chat occasionally in the stairwell, or when we take parcels in for each other, our contact is fairly limited. However he'd spend most of his time gaming online and he had a tendency to scream profanities when being attacked in battle so I'd hear him fairly regularly.

I hadn't heard him in several weeks. No answer at his door. So I called the police to check on him.

He's dead. Possibly been dead for in excess of 6 weeks.

From what I know of him, he had no friends or family. Nobody to care or check on him. I have no idea if he killed himself or died of natural causes. If I hadn't called, who knows how long before anyone noticed.

When the police broke down the door, the smell immediately started to permeate the building. I can't explain it but it's like nothing I have smelt before. Attending officers threw up. Since they then had people in and out for the next 4 hours, the smell has even seeped into my flat (apartment). When they moved the body it got even worse. I dread to think what he looked like and the biohazard in his flat but I googled enough about body decomposition process to give me nightmares.

Anyway, I'm also very isolated in terms of engagement with humans. Right now, if I did CTB, which given my social anxiety would likely be at home, work would raise the flag if I was missing for a few days, I guess. But if I leave work or end up on longterm sick, nobody would raise the flag for weeks. When my mum passes, months even.

For those of you who are equally isolated, do you have a plan to ensure your body being found within a certain window of time or do you not care?

Thats a sad story, very sorry.
im into a hotel for sure.
I want my body to be found soon enough so it can be in good conditions for my family recognition.
But i understand how confort it may sound to CTB at home.

 

[PanaxMan]

Scenario: Today I called the police to do a wellness check on my neighbour. He's mostly a shut in, gets everything delivered, and though we chat occasionally in the stairwell, or when we take parcels in for each other, our contact is fairly limited. However he'd spend most of his time gaming online and he had a tendency to scream profanities when being attacked in battle so I'd hear him fairly regularly.

I hadn't heard him in several weeks. No answer at his door. So I called the police to check on him.

He's dead. Possibly been dead for in excess of 6 weeks.

From what I know of him, he had no friends or family. Nobody to care or check on him. I have no idea if he killed himself or died of natural causes. If I hadn't called, who knows how long before anyone noticed.

When the police broke down the door, the smell immediately started to permeate the building. I can't explain it but it's like nothing I have smelt before. Attending officers threw up. Since they then had people in and out for the next 4 hours, the smell has even seeped into my flat (apartment). When they moved the body it got even worse. I dread to think what he looked like and the biohazard in his flat but I googled enough about body decomposition process to give me nightmares.

Anyway, I'm also very isolated in terms of engagement with humans. Right now, if I did CTB, which given my social anxiety would likely be at home, work would raise the flag if I was missing for a few days, I guess. But if I leave work or end up on longterm sick, nobody would raise the flag for weeks. When my mum passes, months even.

For those of you who are equally isolated, do you have a plan to ensure your body being found within a certain window of time or do you not care?

I can't since I live with my parents. I just plan on making sure if I live. my way of CTB ain't gonna show.

 

[DeIetedUser4739]

Wtf that sounds like a nightmare, did you find out how he died?

 

[Praestat_Mori]

For those of you who are equally isolated, do you have a plan to ensure your body being found within a certain window of time or do you not care?

After I'm dead whether naturally or CTB i don't care. I'm not here anymore and nature will the natural job on dead bodies.

What you experienced may happen a lot of times in nowadays societies when people are more and more alone / lonely.

He's relieved from all agony and pain in this existence and that is what should count for us. RIP

 

[Ash]

If I CTB naturally or impulsively then I hope someone notices because of the dog. At least she'll have a good source of food, I guess.

 

[Forever Sleep]

It was kind of you to think about him enough to check up on him. It does seem so sad when someone dies and no one notices.

Potentially, yes- by the time I do get to CTB- if I do, it's possible it could go unnoticed for a while. Depends what I have on work wise really. I would intend to send a delayed email to my solicitor to alert the police. I'd probably set it up to send a couple of days after the attempt.

 

[J&L383]

Scenario: Today I called the police to do a wellness check on my neighbour. He's mostly a shut in, gets everything delivered, and though we chat occasionally in the stairwell, or when we take parcels in for each other, our contact is fairly limited. However he'd spend most of his time gaming online and he had a tendency to scream profanities when being attacked in battle so I'd hear him fairly regularly.

I hadn't heard him in several weeks. No answer at his door. So I called the police to check on him.

He's dead. Possibly been dead for in excess of 6 weeks.

From what I know of him, he had no friends or family. Nobody to care or check on him. I have no idea if he killed himself or died of natural causes. If I hadn't called, who knows how long before anyone noticed.

When the police broke down the door, the smell immediately started to permeate the building. I can't explain it but it's like nothing I have smelt before. Attending officers threw up. Since they then had people in and out for the next 4 hours, the smell has even seeped into my flat (apartment). When they moved the body it got even worse. I dread to think what he looked like and the biohazard in his flat but I googled enough about body decomposition process to give me nightmares.

Anyway, I'm also very isolated in terms of engagement with humans. Right now, if I did CTB, which given my social anxiety would likely be at home, work would raise the flag if I was missing for a few days, I guess. But if I leave work or end up on longterm sick, nobody would raise the flag for weeks. When my mum passes, months even.

For those of you who are equally isolated, do you have a plan to ensure your body being found within a certain window of time or do you not care?

It's very thoughtful for you to consider this very practical aspect of ending your life, if you choose to do so, especially considering what happened with your neighbor (which I agree is very sad, but not all that uncommon, unfortunately.) If you don't have someone that would notice your absence within a few days I would try to make some sort of plan so that you would get "discovered" for the reasons you expressed, and you don't want to stink up the whole neighborhood. Not a good last lasting impression! For that reason, a hotel is often used, but I would try to take the staff out of the picture by putting a note just inside the door to call the police, who are trained to deal with such a situation. I've often fantasized, although not seriously, about dying in the wilderness and being eaten by wolves and vultures (not while I'm still living, of course, that would be very masochistic to say the least). That way I could give back a little bit of what I've consumed of animal flesh over the years. (Never been successful as a vegetarian ). You know, the whole circle of life thing.

 

[Mi Mi]

It could be a few days to weeks before I'm found.
I don't care.
As long as I'm in my bed with my childhood pillow
My sweet perfume and candles
My favorite jammies
That's all that Matters
I had to smell their weed
Now we're even

 

[lostinwoe]

I'm ctbing in nature so I'm not worried about it

 

[set0553]

It's very thoughtful for you to consider this very practical aspect of ending your life, if you choose to do so, especially considering what happened with your neighbor (which I agree is very sad, but not all that uncommon, unfortunately.) If you don't have someone that would notice your absence within a few days I would try to make some sort of plan so that you would get "discovered" for the reasons you expressed, and you don't want to stink up the whole neighborhood. Not a good last lasting impression! For that reason, a hotel is often used, but I would try to take the staff out of the picture by putting a note just inside the door to call the police, who are trained to deal with such a situation. I've often fantasized, although not seriously, about dying in the wilderness and being eaten by wolves and vultures (not while I'm still living, of course, that would be very masochistic to say the least). That way I could give back a little bit of what I've consumed of animal flesh over the years. (Never been successful as a vegetarian ). You know, the whole circle of life thing.

Id always tell my family, when I die to chuck my body over the hillside behind my house and let nature take its course, and also wouldn't mind a ctb in the middle of nowhere, but I'm truly only relaxed enough to do it, in my family room at home where I spend nearly all of my time.. but I think its a nice idea to give back to nature for the same reasons..

If I CTB naturally or impulsively then I hope someone notices because of the dog. At least she'll have a good source of food, I guess.

Dogs are loyal and empathetic to a fault. I already know mine would curl up next to my corpse and simply starve, or found other ways to get to stored food in the kitchen. Of course no way to know for certain, but I doubt they'd eat my body even if hungry enough..

 

[Ash]

Dogs are loyal and empathetic to a fault. I already know mine would curl up next to my corpse and simply starve, or found other ways to get to stored food in the kitchen. Of course no way to know for certain, but I doubt they'd eat my body even if hungry enough..

Years ago a load of us got together with almost more dogs than humans and after an enormous Sunday dinner (us, not them) went through the list of who would and wouldn't eat their humans in the event of sudden death at home. There was a fair bit of disagreement except for one dog who is well known for being completely fastidious and would probably prefer to be fed at the table with a napkin and cutlery. The dog I had at the time was voted Most Likely, and this was before the incident when I had to pull a huge fish out of her mouth that she'd nearly swallowed whole. (She tried it with a dead seabird the following week and I didn't go back to the beach for about six months.)

 

[Ash’Girl]

Thank you to everyone who replied. My neighbour passing triggered another big grief wave in me (not for him though it was sad, but my own grief over my fiancé and brother) so I ended up in another of my disassociative cycles that pretty much means I stop engaging with anyone and everyone. Largely because my poor neighbour died of a sudden heart attack and that's what happened to my fiancé.

So, I'm just peeking back out of my depression pit. Anyway, some food for thought for me in my planning processes, so, thank you. X