Maybe this should be in off-topic but, I was curious to get the opinions of suicidal/ unhappy people who do or don't hide their true selves.
I tend to cry most days. When I visit my parents, I'll inevitably lose it at some point and cry. My Dad's never been good with tears. Almost immediately, he'll tell me to stop. Not in a violent or aggressive way. More in a: 'Come on now, you have to fight it' type of way. A repression if you like. Personally, I don't think that's helpful. I don't think repressed emotion goes away. I think it just festers. I think it's much better to express it and work through it.
He said the last time though that, it was 'easier to feel sad.' To give in to it I suppose. Perhaps he's right. It takes an enormous amount of effort to hide it. I think that's mostly where his annoyance comes from though. That he maybe did feel like he had to hide emotions to remain strong for the family.
I kind of admire people who 'put on a happy face' for the sake of others. I think it's massively selfless. Probably not all that healthy for them though.
I think I probably also felt a bit offended. That feeling sad was unchallenging or, enjoyable almost. I think it depends on the type of sadness. Like, certain levels are more comfortable than others. I don't think someone in a massively deep depression is taking the easy option! I'm not sure they have much control over how they feel at that point. I don't know. Maybe fighting sadness at the start works, before it takes a grip. I'm perfectly willing to accept that I do wallow in melancholly a lot. Probably because it is familiar and unchallenging.
I guess the issue here though is- are we talking about temporary low mood or, depression? Does one lead to the other maybe if you don't fight it? If you do suffer with depression, was that your path or, did it just hit full on out of the blue?
What are your feelings/ experiences though. Do you try to pretend you're ok when you're not? Are you able to even? Does it help or, just make it worse?
I tend to cry most days. When I visit my parents, I'll inevitably lose it at some point and cry. My Dad's never been good with tears. Almost immediately, he'll tell me to stop. Not in a violent or aggressive way. More in a: 'Come on now, you have to fight it' type of way. A repression if you like. Personally, I don't think that's helpful. I don't think repressed emotion goes away. I think it just festers. I think it's much better to express it and work through it.
He said the last time though that, it was 'easier to feel sad.' To give in to it I suppose. Perhaps he's right. It takes an enormous amount of effort to hide it. I think that's mostly where his annoyance comes from though. That he maybe did feel like he had to hide emotions to remain strong for the family.
I kind of admire people who 'put on a happy face' for the sake of others. I think it's massively selfless. Probably not all that healthy for them though.
I think I probably also felt a bit offended. That feeling sad was unchallenging or, enjoyable almost. I think it depends on the type of sadness. Like, certain levels are more comfortable than others. I don't think someone in a massively deep depression is taking the easy option! I'm not sure they have much control over how they feel at that point. I don't know. Maybe fighting sadness at the start works, before it takes a grip. I'm perfectly willing to accept that I do wallow in melancholly a lot. Probably because it is familiar and unchallenging.
I guess the issue here though is- are we talking about temporary low mood or, depression? Does one lead to the other maybe if you don't fight it? If you do suffer with depression, was that your path or, did it just hit full on out of the blue?
What are your feelings/ experiences though. Do you try to pretend you're ok when you're not? Are you able to even? Does it help or, just make it worse?
