Venting Its okay to stop being friends with someone that rejects you!

[To match the colors]

this is not something that affects me pesonally but...i am so tired of the trend that i see of telling people that if you are rejected romantically by a friend that you love you HAVE to continue being friends with that someone....its laughable.
thats because NO, you dont have to do that, you are not obliged to do so and you are not a bad person if you do. if the person in question insists that you continue being a friend even if you dont want to, then they are the cruel ones, not you.
if you desire to continue the frienship yourself thats great but always know that its your choice and you can just cut contact if you want to. ( i just wanted to vent about it, dating is fucked anyways imo but thats another topic entirely)

 

[weedoge]

You're right on one hand, but on the other you should not start a friendship hoping to obtain a relationship and then cutting it off as soon as you realise you can't, that seems unhealthy and counter productive.

 

[Trashcan]

Agreed with both of you. It's also okay to not want to be friends with an ex or be friends with someone who has feelings for. I tried being friends with my ex and it didn't work out.

 

[Nem]

I was friends with my ex for over a year after we broke up. It was okay, eventually we drifted apart. She was a jerk way more often than I was and being friends was okay at the time. We only broke up because I had made a plan to die, thought she would've stayed with me since she knew I was messed up.
Wow, that relationship kind of ruined my life...need to ctb
Peace

 

[Dani Paradox]

This is something that I have always been on the fence with. Sometimes, you develop feelings. And once you get rejected it just feels too painful to continue hanging out and talking all the time feeling the way you do and knowing they rejected you. It hurts. Like most people, I've had this happen to me, and I feel like an asshole if I just stop talking to them simply because they don't share the same feelings. But there's that part of me that just wants to say goodbye......and yet, still, that other part of me that just cannot let go...

"Everything I've ever let go of has claw marks on it."

 

[worldexploder]

I been rejected romantically twice from online. They begged to continue being friends but then wound up treating me like pure garbage just to stop talking to me. As if I wasn't even a human being no matter how nice I was to them.

 

[Ravaene]

I've beed rejected once and we tried to stay friends. Saying it didn't work would be very nice way to describe what happened next, so yeah, I get what you think.