Story Money and looks mean nothing :(

[Shatteredsouls]

Ok story time again, ill explain my position a little better.
Ill start off by saying money and looks wont solve any of your problems, truly.
I dont want this to sound like im bragging but for context
Im 22 i have a great career and make a lot of money for my age, i live on my own and am debt free, i hit the gym regularly 4 -5 days a week and have been told im decently attractive.
Ive also traveled all over the world, owned 15 different cars now and have had 3 motorcycles, 2 bought brand new and were paid off within months.

but am i happy?
No.
I could blame the fact that i was a happy popular smart kid in school up until i was diagnosed with scoliosis and had to wear a back brace for the last 5 years of school.
(I dont have to wear it anymore and scoliosis doesn't really effect me anymore other than my back being sore every now and then)
I became a social outcast, a loser, i had next to no friends and became incredibly secluded.
But thats too easy to blame, even before that nothing truly made me happy, nothing ever lasts.
But i focused on myself as everyone always says and here i am, successful, well off financially and can do basically whatever i want.
But NOTHING fills that void, oh sure im happy when i buy some fancy new thing but that doesn't last, riding my motorcycle and traveling is cool, but every night the dread, the emptiness, comes back, nothing fulfills me, i have no purpose in life no reason to wake up every morning.

Nothing ever actually makes me happy.
I have and can have anything i want except the thing i want most.
Joy.
Perhaps this is my own personal hell, looking at all the smiling people and putting on my mask and smiling back.
Funny, maybe they're wearing masks too and the whole world is dead.

 

[encore]

the recipe to joy is very simple. genuine connection, community, health and having your basic physical needs met consistently. unfortunately our society strays further and further from what makes us human - connecting with other people. we get more and more divided with each day, even though we are all very similar at the core. i maybe only ever met a handful of people who were truly happy, and all of them lived very simple lives, some were earning below average salary here. they didn't look like models either. in my opinion, what made them happy was having a healthy brain, body and a support system. it seems simple, but in reality, is quite unachievable for many of us.

 

[Kbeau]

Wow, 15 different cars, 22, rich!!

 

[EvisceratedJester]

Sorry, slightly unrelated, but why do you own 15 cars and three motorcycles? That seems pretty impractical. Wouldn't one car and maybe one motorcycle be enough? Tbh, a large part of me feels skeptical about your claims of being 22 and having 15 cars and three motorcycles...

 

[Kbeau]

Sorry, slightly unrelated, but why do you own 15 cars and three motorcycles? That seems pretty impractical. Wouldn't one car and maybe one motorcycle be enough? Tbh, a large part of me feels skeptical about your claims of being 22 and having 15 cars and three motorcycles...

He's also traveled the world and regularly hits the gym and is very attractive.....

 

[EvisceratedJester]

He's also traveled the world and regularly hits the gym and is very attractive.....

Yeah, the hitting the gym part and being attractive is kind of whatever, but it's the 15 cars, three motorcycles, and travelling around the world all at age 22 part that is making all of this a bit hard for me to believe...

No offence OP

 

[Shatteredsouls]

Sorry, slightly unrelated, but why do you own 15 cars and three motorcycles? That seems pretty impractical. Wouldn't one car and maybe one motorcycle be enough? Tbh, a large part of me feels skeptical about your claims of being 22 and having 15 cars and three motorcycles...

I dont own them all currently lol, i said owned i only have 1 car now and am back to 1 bike as well, although i will be getting another

He's also traveled the world and regularly hits the gym and is very attractive.....

I said decently not very, like a 6.5 outa 10

Yeah, the hitting the gym part and being attractive is kind of whatever, but it's the 15 cars, three motorcycles, and travelling around the world all at age 22 part that is making all of this a bit hard for me to believe...

No offence OP

Wealthy parents

I dont own them all currently lol, i said owned i only have 1 car now and am back to 1 bike as well, although i will be getting another

I said decently not very, like a 6.5 outa 10

Wealthy parents

Also to add the cars were not new cars, they were 90s Japanese shitboxes like ek civics and a 240sx

But all thats beside the point, the point of the post is simply look at how good i got it and how lucky i am, and yet i still have nothing to live for,
To all the fools that are wishing for the lottery or simply say "if i had more money" or "if i was hotter"

IT DOESN'T CHANGE ANYTHING.
It sure looks like it does but behind every smiling perfect person is a pathetic loser so desperate to keep the mask together.

 

[EvisceratedJester]

Wealthy parents

Knew it

 

[Shatteredsouls]

Knew it

Yeah it should be obvious

 

[theboy]

True

 

[deadbidaylight]

Material things can't buy happiness. It's a tale as old as time. Personal connections and what's inside is what makes us happy. Cars and toys can't replace the isolation and feelings of loneliness, and anyone who says they can are lying.

I'm happy that you were privileged growing up, but that could be the cause of your loneliness and unhappiness. Regular people have trouble relating to unhappy people who seem to have everything because they just don't get WHY you have anything to be depressed about. You'd think in this day and age, the stigma behind depression would be more understood, but the bullshit surrounding it is still there, and people love living in ignorant bliss.

I don't have much to contribute to this thread, but I'm sorry you're going through this and my heart goes out to you.

 

[divinemistress36]

Materalism doesnt guarantee happiness it only gives temporary dopamine highs

 

[CluelessBlob]

I'm in a similar position myself. People can judge all they want, but growing up wealthy is a curse in its own way.

Can you imagine anything, even something impossible, that would bring you joy?

 

[SVEN]

I'm in a similar position myself. People can judge all they want, but growing up wealthy is a curse in its own way.

Can you imagine anything, even something impossible, that would bring you joy?

Nembutal ?

 

[Richard Langford]

Maybe you need to work on your Social/People skills a little to facilitate those seemingly lacking human connections? Maybe also incorporate some Charity work into your free time? How about taking up some hobbies and interests where you get to meet people easily? Failing that hire a Life Coach (as you've got a few quid).

 

[usernamenoonecares]

I got how you feel. I don't own any cars or motorcycles. I don't really care about those things. My life has been pretty well off though. At least money wise, I have enough to spend and I am satisfied. I recently got a job with really really good pay. But I can't see what's the meaning of all these.
I don't feel happy even if I try, even if I want. I don't know what to do since I see the end of things are meaningless to me. I have been actively engaging with people in past five years to improve my situation. However, the emptiness only got stronger. It is suffocating and I cannot find a way out.

 

[ForgottenAgain]

I can't relate to being wealthy but I can relate to being in a good position in life, on paper, and being unhappy. I think you're lacking social connection, like others have mentioned. It's what I'm lacking as well, besides healing from a shit ton of grief.
It's very hard to make friends, I've been trying for 5 years now with no success.

You have the money, and therefore time, so I think you may have a lot to explore on that regard. Also, if you're wealthy, you're most likely going to make friends with people with a similar economic status so they may have more free time to hang out with you, I'm assuming.
I can't judge your whole life based on this one post, maybe you already tried a lot of things or, even if you didn't, you may not see the point in trying and just want to check out. Whatever the case is, evaluate whether you can approach fixing your life from a different angle. Having money and time is a huge luxury, your life may still improve.

 

[Richard Langford]

I got how you feel. I don't own any cars or motorcycles. I don't really care about those things. My life has been pretty well off though. At least money wise, I have enough to spend and I am satisfied. I recently got a job with really really good pay. But I can't see what's the meaning of all these.
I don't feel happy even if I try, even if I want. I don't know what to do since I see the end of things are meaningless to me. I have been actively engaging with people in past five years to improve my situation. However, the emptiness only got stronger. It is suffocating and I cannot find a way out.

Try exploring some alternative religious views.

 

[usernamenoonecares]

Try exploring some alternative religious views.

Such as?

 

[Richard Langford]

There's a wealth of them. Have a look.

 

[PI3.14]

Wealth and looks will solve problems that are related to them like poverty, debt, body dysmorphia...etc. I'd doesn't however guarantee that you will be happy if you got the looks and wealth but at least you will not suffer from stress about paying bills or dating(from a physical point of view).

You're the type of person who I will truly say is depressed, as in having a disease. Come despite your wealth, good look, young age, you're somehow depressed.

Most people I see here have one or more reasons of why they're depressed but if you can't point your finger at the cause of your depression then perhaps you should see a therapist(I usually hate them but your case is different).