my poor cat

[mariannelle]

Humans all know what death is and can atleast somewhat rationalize why someone would want to cbt. Everyone has felt sad before and everyone has wished they didn't exist, but my cat does not have these same touchstones. My cat is nice and soft and wonderful, and all he wants is for me to play with him and sleep with him. My cat will never understand where I went and that makes me very sad. I'm worried he will think I didn't love him enough so I ran away from him, but that's not true at all. I love him so much I wish I could take him with me, and I want him to know that but I really don't know how to tell him because he doesn't speak english, and no amount of me meowing at him will get him to understand better. I am horribly conflicted. I have come to terms with the guilt of cbt in regards to humans; humans can rationalize stuff and have relationships with me that are built off of a lot of things, but the only thing supporting me and my cat's relationship is love; there is nothing more to it. i don't want to destroy it. glory glory.

 

[Sunderland]

i'm not an emotional person but holy shit this one hit... "i can't ctb, my cat would be sad" are gonna be words to live by.

 

[Pluto]

 

[CatLvr]

i'm not an emotional person but holy shit this one hit... "i can't ctb, my cat would be sad" are gonna be words to live by.

I cannot tell you how many times over the years I have literally thought to myself "Self you HAVE to stay until everyone has a good home, or has passed before you." I just took in a 1 year old red conure parrot. Their lifespan is 20-30 years. I am almost 70.

I have 6 inside cats -- 1 is 4 years old, 2 are 3 years old; and 3 are a year old. The average lifespan of a house cat is 12 to 18 years. The last litter of cats I raised (they were indoor/outdoor cats), the oldest one lived to 24. Most passed on around 20-22 years of age.

I have 2 dogs -- one is going on 13. The other one is approximately 2 years old or so ... The lifespan of the average dog in the US is 10-13 years.ost of my dogs have made it past 13, none have lived past 22.

Basically, I have pretty much screwed myself over when it comes to catching any bus anytime in the reasonable future. Hell, I'm gonna have to live to see 150 at this rate -- so none of my pete will miss me.

 

[NonEssential]

I've been told my cat occasionally starts meowing in my room when I've been away for too long.

 

[limpimitation]

My cats are one of the few reasons I have to stay. They seem to not care how horrible I am when I'm in a bad mood, unlike everyone else that's gotten tired of my mercurial moods

 

[Griever]

 

[areyousafe??]

I'm currently fostering a cat and waiting for her to be adopted. She knows when I'm feeling sad. When she saw me cry for the first time, she stared at my face for a long time, meowed at me and rubbed herself against my legs. I love spoiling her and giving her a happy, loving home.

I'm torned between adopting her myself or going ahead with my ctb in June.

 

[karakoltriste]

I feel the same about my cat... He loves me so much I can't do this to him, I'm thinking of waiting for something to happen to him

 

[CantTurnBack]

I feel exactly the same about my cat, and couldn't have said it better myself. He's a primary reason I'm alive.

I was so scared when he got sick recently.. I made sure to get my cat to the vet despite knowing that I should be visiting a doctor myself. He got steroid shots and flea medicine, and I'm relieved to say he's better now.

 

[Deleted account 549]

I feel this on a deeper level, I actually made a thread about it before. My cat means absolutely everything to me. I think I'm obsessed with him beyond reason, and I can talk about him for hours. He does so many random stuff and I know every tiny detail about his fur, nose freckles and spots he has on his paws. I hate the fact that he'll never understand what happened… he has been the greatest love lesson in my life. I didn't think I would ever be loved the way I love, but he does. And he exceeds that.

 

[PhDone]

Yep i feel this deeply. I have three cats, have moved round the world and theyve always come with me. But now I'm chronically ill, cant bear my non-life. They are literally the only living souls in my day endlessly. I love them so much. But I cant exist like this. I think they will be so confused but on a deeper level know. I know they would never want me suffering. My eldest I think will pass soon after I go. The other two will make it through a rehoming but with sadness. Its gut wrenching the whole damn thing.

 

[lok_sat]

i feel you on that deeply, the only reason i'm still here today is my cat. i can't imagine her thinking i abandoned her, she already get sad and refuses to eat whenever i'm gone all day i wish we could communicate with our little guys so they would understand that it's not their fault and we truly do not wish to leave them behind and sad.

 

[Kanoh]

Your cat will forget you in a day or two, you don't need to worry about that. They are selfish creatures by nature and care for food and shelter they receive not for the owners themselves.

 

[mariannelle]

Your cat will forget you in a day or two, you don't need to worry about that. They are selfish creatures by nature and care for food and shelter they receive not for the owners themselves.

everytime I come home my cat runs over to me and waits for me to pick him up and hug him. He then licks me to make sure I am clean. I don't give him shelter and food based on how much affection he shows me. He should know this because I have given him the same resources at every stage of his attachment to me. If all he wanted from me was food and shelter all he would have to do is exist. Please tell me why he continues to take actions that take care of me and make me happy if he gets no physical gain from it.
also dont call my cat selfish. it hurts my feelings. you are of course allowed to have this opinion but you are making my thread sad and negative. this specific thread is supposed to be sad and self-reflective, not negative. I wish you joy and I hope you find an outlook on things more similar to mine. We are both in the dregs and on SaSu but I laughed and felt really happy today because my cat fell asleep on my head, presumably you did not feel this same joy. glory glory.

 

[monetpompo]

I wish you joy and I hope you find an outlook on things more similar to mine. We are both in the dregs and on SaSu but I laughed and felt really happy today because my cat fell asleep on my head, presumably you did not feel this same joy

awesome post mariannelle. i feel the same joy you get from your cat from my own cat even if all he does is sit down or walk around the house. my whole family likes the cat. i think it's rude to say your cat only likes you because you take care of it, because that's like saying no one's pet cares about them.

 

[Michelstaedter]

Personally, I endured all these years until all my pets died. I felt like jumping off a bridge, but I endured, overcame tough times, and it's been almost two months since my last pet died.
I don't know what your point is, if you're thinking about doing it and your cat makes you sad, and if you just want to do it and what your cat would feel sad about.
Frankly, I feel it's better to wait until your cat dies. I'd find it sad that he'd be lonely, and even if he doesn't understand, no one will give him the same attention you do. It's also unknown if he really doesn't know, and it's us humans who are stupid, and our supposed animal compassion, when they should be sympathizing with us for being so aware of all this shitty world. Well, I think you shouldn't die until your cat-friend dies, because at least symbolically he is the only one who wouldn't understand what happened to you, ironically and under the same line of thinking, pets won't care what happens to their owners as long as they have food, peace and quiet, a place where they can rest, but those are just our ideas about them, maybe he is like Hachiko who is said to have died of sadness waiting for the return of his beloved master.

 

[Kanoh]

everytime I come home my cat runs over to me and waits for me to pick him up and hug him. He then licks me to make sure I am clean. I don't give him shelter and food based on how much affection he shows me. He should know this because I have given him the same resources at every stage of his attachment to me. If all he wanted from me was food and shelter all he would have to do is exist. Please tell me why he continues to take actions that take care of me and make me happy if he gets no physical gain from it.
also dont call my cat selfish. it hurts my feelings. you are of course allowed to have this opinion but you are making my thread sad and negative. this specific thread is supposed to be sad and self-reflective, not negative. I wish you joy and I hope you find an outlook on things more similar to mine. We are both in the dregs and on SaSu but I laughed and felt really happy today because my cat fell asleep on my head, presumably you did not feel this same joy. glory glory.

This is how you wish it was but you will never receive any genuine affection from a cat. If you died, the next day your cat would start eating your body like it happened many times when cat owners died with their cats around even if they had another source of food qvailable. Another story if it was a dog but a cat is not capable of sharing any positive feelings towards you. I do not mean to take away any joy from you though, if you really want to believe what you think, you do you.

 

[butimstillsoblue]

My boy is the only reason I've stayed. I can't leave him for the same reasons, @mariannelle
I've had him since he was young, nobody would look after him like I do and he wouldn't understand.