Nobody likes me

[-nobodyknows-]

I am a very lonely person. I don't have anyone I can talk to about things. I've tried to before, but people don't want to hear it. I'm too depressing.

I am quite introverted, so reaching out to people is very difficult for me. I will try to do it anyway, but I think people find it annoying. No one ever reaches out to me. If I want to hang out with someone, I always have to be the one to extend an invitation.

I can't really talk to people very well either. I suck at it and come off extremely awkward. I sometimes try anyway, but it weirds people out. No one ever approaches me to talk.

I hate this so much. Why does no one like me? I know I don't have any charisma, but I really do try. It's so tiring and disappointing. I don't even like going to social events anymore because standing around and watching everyone else around me form groups and chat is one of the most isolating feelings.

 

[GoSan1]

I am a very lonely person. I don't have anyone I can talk to about things. I've tried to before, but people don't want to hear it. I'm too depressing.

I am quite introverted, so reaching out to people is very difficult for me. I will try to do it anyway, but I think people find it annoying. No one ever reaches out to me. If I want to hang out with someone, I always have to be the one to extend an invitation.

I can't really talk to people very well either. I suck at it and come off extremely awkward. I sometimes try anyway, but it weirds people out. No one ever approaches me to talk.

I hate this so much. Why does no one like me? I know I don't have any charisma, but I really do try. It's so tiring and disappointing. I don't even like going to social events anymore because standing around and watching everyone else around me form groups and chat is one of the most isolating feelings.

I know that feeling well, also when you move out of your comfort zone, and start talking they just seem to ignore you or interrupt you always, it sucks...

There isn't much we can do about it, we simply do not fit in a society such as this, another cruelty of this earth...

If you wanna talk, feel free to dm me, I cant do anything, but I can at least listen while I'm still here.

 

[whywhywhy]

As someone that was born with negative charisma I feel represented by what you said. With age though I found things that helped but when I was younger I didnt do them because I was wallowing in my loneliness and later regret not doing them. Here is some things you can try.

Speak your mind with the attitude of not caring what others think even if it means an opposite opinion. The more you care what other things the more disapointed you are gonna get. Try to do things for yourself. Most people dont like people pleasers because for them they seem unauthentic.

Dont say no to plans just because you think you are not gonna have fun and would rather stay at home. Friendship many times is a long game and hanging out increase probability of finding someone you connect with. Ideally though try to find groups based on common hobbies. Keeping in touch is also a skill I lost many friends I may have had just because I wasnt really a texter.


Talking is a skill and any skill needs practice. I realized I bored people when I talk because I didnt vary entonation. The content of what you say matters less than how you say it. Try to improve your speech little by little and it will eventually become a habit. Also practice looking at people on the eyes when they speak.

It feels weird explaining this because for a lot of people this comes natural but for me it took too long to learn. Feels sociopathic tbh.

Sorry for the long rant, I really probably went too long and some of the things probably are just my problem but I sincerely hope your situation improves and you can find people you are happy with.

 

[Overwhelmed52]

As someone that was born with negative charisma I feel represented by what you said. With age though I found things that helped but when I was younger I didnt do them because I was wallowing in my loneliness and later regret not doing them. Here is some things you can try.

Speak your mind with the attitude of not caring what others think even if it means an opposite opinion. The more you care what other things the more disapointed you are gonna get. Try to do things for yourself. Most people dont like people pleasers because for them they seem unauthentic.

Dont say no to plans just because you think you are not gonna have fun and would rather stay at home. Friendship many times is a long game and hanging out increase probability of finding someone you connect with. Ideally though try to find groups based on common hobbies. Keeping in touch is also a skill I lost many friends I may have had just because I wasnt really a texter.


Talking is a skill and any skill needs practice. I realized I bored people when I talk because I didnt vary entonation. The content of what you say matters less than how you say it. Try to improve your speech little by little and it will eventually become a habit. Also practice looking at people on the eyes when they speak.

It feels weird explaining this because for a lot of people this comes natural but for me it took too long to learn. Feels sociopathic tbh.

Sorry for the long rant, I really probably went too long and some of the things probably are just my problem but I sincerely hope your situation improves and you can find people you are happy with.

Friendship is long game.... this is sooo true. I dropped a lot of friendships because I didn't think the friends were as good to me as I was to them. Now I wish I hadn't. I wish I'd been generous even when I didn't think people were being generous with me. Generosity pays off in the long run, even if it's in an indirect, karma kind of way. I also needed to accept that I have negative charisma and that I will never be the most liked person and that "popular" people will never want to make me one of their own. It would have saved me from building up hope all the time just to be disappointed. I wish I'd been more casual about socializing and not created high expectations for every new connection.

 

[niki wonoto]

I'm from Indonesia (42/M). I can deeply relate with your post. I've always felt so alone. I feel like I'm different from everyone else (& most people in this world). I often feel like an alien among human beings. I'm too 'weird/strange', & I don't feel 'normal' like most people. It's really frustrating & disappointing also of how I was only ever diagnosed with Major Depression back in 2020, while seriously, I think I have a lot of other 'mental health' problems, that nobody knows nor cares at all. I think I'm a neurodivergent type. I'm also a socially-awkward introverted person. Maybe this is why I have difficulties socializing with people (especially women). It's frustrating & depressing, honestly, to watch all other 'normal/normies' people can easily socialize, functioning really well in society & this world, while here I am being a failure/loser. But nobody seems to care. It's a cruel world/life/society/reality/existence.