Story Porn and masturbation

[Leo]

Porn and masturbation addiction ruined my life. GF left because of erectile dysfunction. Never really had healthy relationship. It made me sick and so helpless that, even if I try to recover I can't.

For people who just started or few yera in to this, I suggest you to please stop. 10-15 years of self pleasure will ruin your rest of life like mine.

At this point life is real misery. Hoping to end everything soon.

 

[WornOutLife]

Have you seen a sexologist? That really worked for me and my ex some time ago.

I don't think masturbation and porn are bad at all. I think they're actually healthy (I'm 33 and I still find it pleasant).
The thing is, how often does a person masturbate? There's gotta be a limit because if there's not, in that case it will probably be unhealthy and bring problems.

Anyway, I think self-control is the key.

 

[BrokenArrow]

Porn and masturbation addiction ruined my life. GF left because of erectile dysfunction. Never really had healthy relationship. It made me sick and so helpless that, even if I try to recover I can't.

For people who just started or few yera in to this, I suggest you to please stop. 10-15 years of self pleasure will ruin your rest of life like mine.

At this point life is real misery. Hoping to end everything soon.

This is a problem for a lot of young men, but honestly, if you stop watching porn and jerking it, your sexual functioning will go back to normal. It might take a few weeks/months but it will definitely work.

As for your gf breaking up, this might sound insensitive, but there's loads of other girls out there that would want to be with you. Whenever I was coming out of a breakup, if I started talking to other girls it would help me a ton.

 

[BeansOfRequirement]

It's important to not "edge" and cut down on the time spent jacking off. Try to get it done as fast as possible, with as little porn as possible. One way of speeding the process up is focusing on the senses that are not getting activated (don't rely only on vision), instead incorporate imagining touch, hearing and sight in orchestra.

 

[ZardozOmega]

i wish i had a femboy bf

 

[Neowise]

GF left because of erectile dysfunction.

Don't be so harsh to yourself. I don't think she left you because of erectile dysfunction directly. You have just been watching other women and enjoying them all day so your girlfriend might have felt like you don't desire / love her anymore.

But just with any other addiction this can be overcome with patience and willpower!

but honestly, if you stop watching porn and jerking it, your sexual functioning will go back to normal. It might take a few weeks/months but it will definitely work.

Now I'm no expert, but I believe this is true. Masturbating too much doesn't "destroy" anything, it just makes you unsensitive the longer it goes on. You could try to lower your porn consumption slowly. If you feel like watching some go out for a walk, start up a video game or get some other distraction. After a while it should get better and even become normal again. I have hope for you!

 

[lugerepair]

Eh...I have too many weird kinks that no one wants anything to do with, and I have a dreadful lack of imagination, so I'll probably stick with the porn. Besides, I don't have a dick, so erectile dysfunction isn't a concern. I used to date a guy who had porn induced erectile dysfunction though. It wasn't so much the lack of erection that bothered me, but more so his general lack of interest in sex. There are ways to have sex that don't require an erection. I've been with men who had no trouble maintaining an erection, but they sucked in every other aspect of sex, and those were worse by far.

 

[makingsure4]

Being female the body can orgasm more than once. So in about a one hour session you can cause yourself to orgasm about 40 times or at least I could back in my hedonistic days. I don't count now. I just finish a marathon session and then I have no desire for orgasm for about a month. If I'm in a relationship that rhythm is different since their sexual needs turn on my desire but just left on my own I just have the session then I'm good. Females (most) are known to be less visual than men. So it's like meditation in the mind. Females are usually more stimulated by what they hear so sometimes I turn on some music. Guys with aesthetically pleasing voices who are known to me are nice to listen to. And enjoy. If a thought comes in that you don't like or don't want there anymore during masturbation just let it go. Like in meditation. Lots of meditation books out there, that might be helpful. Instead of reinforcing just let go. And back to the breath if you need somewhere to go.
To be polite some energy workers call it a sacral chakra release.

 

[BeansOfRequirement]

So in about a one hour session you can cause yourself to orgasm about 40 times or at least I could

 

[x~Sophia~x]

it's true, some of us females are lucky enough to be multi orgasmic, and it's probably the only good thing about being a woman.

 

[lugerepair]

it's true, some of us females are lucky enough to be multi orgasmic, and it's probably the only good thing about being a woman.

I've definitely never orgasmed 40 times in one sessions though, that's impressive as hell. My record is probably like...3 or 4 times.

 

[x~Sophia~x]

I've definitely never orgasmed 40 times in one sessions though, that's impressive as hell. My record is probably like...3 or 4 times.

... it just takes lots of practice- the first one is always the most intense, and the rest just follow and vary in intensity. You need a very dedicated partner though lol

Dunno why that text is dark :/

 

[Symbiote]

40 orgasms....

 

[x~Sophia~x]

40 orgasms....

 

[UterEntonaur]

I don't think masturbation and porn are bad at all.

There's nothing wrong with masturbation..... but excessively masturbating to porn is damaging.

You get to the point where your brain is only aroused when viewing sexually-graphic scenes, and after a while, that isn't enough anymore (kinda like how as an young teenager, a picture of a topless woman would be all I'd need to "finish", but wouldn't be anywhere near enough to stimulate me as a grown adult)

but honestly, if you stop watching porn and jerking it, your sexual functioning will go back to normal.

100% Truth. This is what I did years ago to "reset" myself.

 

[Makko]

Being female the body can orgasm more than once. So in about a one hour session you can cause yourself to orgasm about 40 times or at least I could back in my hedonistic days. I don't count now. I just finish a marathon session and then I have no desire for orgasm for about a month. If I'm in a relationship that rhythm is different since their sexual needs turn on my desire but just left on my own I just have the session then I'm good. Females (most) are known to be less visual than men. So it's like meditation in the mind. Females are usually more stimulated by what they hear so sometimes I turn on some music. Guys with aesthetically pleasing voices who are known to me are nice to listen to. And enjoy. If a thought comes in that you don't like or don't want there anymore during masturbation just let it go. Like in meditation. Lots of meditation books out there, that might be helpful. Instead of reinforcing just let go. And back to the breath if you need somewhere to go.
To be polite some energy workers call it a sacral chakra release.

That sounds nice. I've never had even one orgasm...

 

[OnlyTheWind]

Same here. People have no idea what it will do to them down the line. I don't think I'm even capable of forming a real relationship at this point.

 

[Lmd]

Being female the body can orgasm more than once. So in about a one hour session you can cause yourself to orgasm about 40 times or at least I could back in my hedonistic days. I don't count now. I just finish a marathon session and then I have no desire for orgasm for about a month. If I'm in a relationship that rhythm is different since their sexual needs turn on my desire but just left on my own I just have the session then I'm good. Females (most) are known to be less visual than men. So it's like meditation in the mind. Females are usually more stimulated by what they hear so sometimes I turn on some music. Guys with aesthetically pleasing voices who are known to me are nice to listen to. And enjoy. If a thought comes in that you don't like or don't want there anymore during masturbation just let it go. Like in meditation. Lots of meditation books out there, that might be helpful. Instead of reinforcing just let go. And back to the breath if you need somewhere to go.
To be polite some energy workers call it a sacral chakra release.

Holy... Isn't it unpleasant to have so many in such a short time? I had multiples in a short time but I prefer "long" ones and being totally K.O later

 

[makingsure4]

Holy... Isn't it unpleasant to have so many in such a short time? I had multiples in a short time but I prefer "long" ones and being totally K.O later

Depends on the method but no unpleasant would be the last thing I would ever call it. Your body will tell you how much rest you need in between each one. Then ofcourse there are both clitoral and vaginal orgasms and some people like their G spot hit too but literally you hit that and there is um well fluid...when I was younger I had to research on the net how to hit the G. If you've never had an orgasm please don't ctb without at least trying first. It can be really good stress relief. The water method is a good initiator. You just get in an unplugged bathtub and put your legs up under the spout and let the running water hit your clit. Make sure the temperature is right first! That was the secret method info first passed around the females when I was in school. Besides that and your own body self trying if you can't make it work just go get a vibrator or hand held massager. That will trip the trigger. Yes and you usually have to give your genitals a moment to rest before the next one is available. It may have been more exact if I had put closer to an hour and a half but you get my drift! And I kind of lose track of time.

 

[Lmd]

Depends on the method but no unpleasant would be the last thing I would ever call it. Your body will tell you how much rest you need in between each one. Then ofcourse there are both clitoral and vaginal orgasms and some people like their G spot hit too but literally you hit that and there is um well fluid...when I was younger I had to research on the net how to hit the G. If you've never had an orgasm please don't ctb without at least trying first. It can be really good stress relief. The water method is a good initiator. You just get in an unplugged bathtub and put your legs up under the spout and let the running water hit your clit. Make sure the temperature is right first! That was the secret method info first passed around the females when I was in school. Besides that and your own body self trying if you can't make it work just go get a vibrator or hand held massager. That will trip the trigger. Yes and you usually have to give your genitals a moment to rest before the next one is available. It may have been more exact if I had put closer to an hour and a half but you get my drift! And I kind of lose track of time.

I met a multi-orgasmic girl a long time ago and she told me that after a bit she doesn't enjoy things at all but 40 just wow I'm surprised.

That sounds nice. I've never had even one orgasm...

Don't CTB until you try the shower thing!

 

[HowSoonIsNow]

I have weird dreams that I'm watching gay porn bc when I was a kid I used to watch it for curiosity, this is so fucking uncomfortable

 

[enuff]

Porn and masturbation addiction ruined my life. GF left because of erectile dysfunction. Never really had healthy

um @Leo maybe you could masturbate WITH her. she might like that. maybe.
sorry if this suggeston is too late but next time

 

[diyCTB]

You could tell people to approach porn with moderation and willpower but most can't when they fall into addiction.

That's another reason why online free porn must be banned. It's becoming a worldwide disease that taints people's minds, especially minds of young men creating lust in them and causing them to view women as an objects.

Porn was restricted to magazines and VHS once that you had to buy but slowly it became normal and so overrated that I wonder how much it has to do with unplanned pregnancies, cheating, divorces, loss of moral values, violence, ruined lives etc.

 

[enuff]

You could tell people to approach porn with moderation and willpower but most can't when they fall into addiction.

That's another reason why online free porn must be banned. It's becoming a worldwide disease that taints people's minds, especially minds of young men creating lust in them and causing them to view women as an objects.

Porn was restricted to magazines and VHS once that you had to buy but slowly it became normal and so overrated that I wonder how much it has to do with unplanned pregnancies, cheating, divorces, loss of moral values, violence, ruined lives etc.

in the early days of www porn sites iinvented e-commerce.
then everybody started doing it so now they have to give it away in exchange for eyeballs & clicks.
you can't ban it. its free speech ya fucking dork.

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

You could tell people to approach porn with moderation and willpower but most can't when they fall into addiction.

That's another reason why online free porn must be banned. It's becoming a worldwide disease that taints people's minds, especially minds of young men creating lust in them and causing them to view women as an objects.

Porn was restricted to magazines and VHS once that you had to buy but slowly it became normal and so overrated that I wonder how much it has to do with unplanned pregnancies, cheating, divorces, loss of moral values, violence, ruined lives etc.

I don't really agree but even if that's true, it's too late now. The floodgates have already been opened. If we start trying to crack down and censor all the naughty material we'd just end up repressing an entire generation that comes after one that's gotten too used to this stuff. That's how you get Japan's porn culture. I suppose you could just ban porn entirely but that's what China does and even they just use VPNs...

As for porn itself, 2D art and erotic literature > regular porn anyway in my opinion.

 

[diyCTB]

@Dr Iron Arc Closing down free to access porn websites and only leaving subscription-based porn websites is a start. It will raise barrier to entry and reduce exposure of youngsters to porn.

But with current spoiled humanity as it is, doing so might still backfire like you said. I think people learned how to get government's attention. Sick world we are heading into..

 

[Makko]

Depends on the method but no unpleasant would be the last thing I would ever call it. Your body will tell you how much rest you need in between each one. Then ofcourse there are both clitoral and vaginal orgasms and some people like their G spot hit too but literally you hit that and there is um well fluid...when I was younger I had to research on the net how to hit the G. If you've never had an orgasm please don't ctb without at least trying first. It can be really good stress relief. The water method is a good initiator. You just get in an unplugged bathtub and put your legs up under the spout and let the running water hit your clit. Make sure the temperature is right first! That was the secret method info first passed around the females when I was in school. Besides that and your own body self trying if you can't make it work just go get a vibrator or hand held massager. That will trip the trigger. Yes and you usually have to give your genitals a moment to rest before the next one is available. It may have been more exact if I had put closer to an hour and a half but you get my drift! And I kind of lose track of time.

I met a multi-orgasmic girl a long time ago and she told me that after a bit she doesn't enjoy things at all but 40 just wow I'm surprised.

Don't CTB until you try the shower thing!

I've tried all sorts of things ranging from simple to weird, showers and toys included, but it's like I have no sexual sensitivity at all so I gave up. I guess I'd be a lot happier I was one huge, never-ceasing fountain of orgasms. Suicide would be the farthest thing from my mind with a life like that.

 

[262653]

40... holy cows. Just one can make me feel very exhausted and apathetic. Pleasure is supposed to be a good thing, right? Because my documentation doesn't show any influence of masturbation on the overall quality of my life experience. Other than doing it 3-4 times a day, then it feels bad. I've even went once on a 10 month streak and guess what? No apparent difference whatsoever.

But then, in addition to living a secluded life, I've been sexually attracted to fewer people IRL than I have fingers on my hands.

 

[diyCTB]

Other than doing it 3-4 times a day, then it feels bad. I've even went once on a 10 month streak and guess what? No apparent difference whatsoever.

But then, in addition to living a secluded life, I've been sexually attracted to fewer people IRL than I have fingers on my hands.

Were you following NOFAP culture? What helped me is staying busy and seclusion. The benefits for me were clear thinking, better mood and motivation. I think it helps you prioritize and go after your life goals and you no longer feel dependent on pleasure and no longer are you needy.

Maybe I should become a monk to be free first and escape Sansara...

Or become hermit. One or another is good enough...

 

[262653]

Were you following NOFAP culture?

No, I wasn't. Other than in spirit maybe. I find that being busy certainly helps. It's a peculiar state to be in, to feel but not to act on. I'm actually contemplating an extended abstinence again. Not to beat the streak or see how far can I go, but because I like how I feel.