Really struggling today

[LaBrava]

Yesterday I had a job interview for a job that would be perfect for me. I have decades of relevant experience and way more qualifications than required, I've done more senior versions of this exact job and could do it in my sleep, and I really wanted this job. I've spent every spare moment preparing. And I think I blew the interview - I'm kind of cringing recalling some of my answers. The format caught me off guard a bit, I felt on the back foot and got nervous I guess. I could still get the job if I did just enough and am the best qualified applicant, but I'm not hopeful. They have another applicant later in the week, so no answer till the end of the week and I've just got to wait and it's agony.

I really wanted this job, it would be ideal and would get me out of the hellish minimum wage retail job I'm stuck in. These jobs very rarely come up, this could have been my only chance and I dropped the ball. I really want to recover but not getting this job is going to be pretty devastating and I don't know how I'll be able to push on and fix things going forward. Real struggle to be positive right now.

 

[Beautifulletdown]

So, one of the things I've been told and I know it is very hard to do is to stay positive, so keep trying to do that the best you can. Sometimes what looks bad is good and what looks good is sometimes bad, another thing I've been told. With all that being said, you probably did better than you think. We are always our worst critic. Don't give up hope. Just keep putting out into your world thoughts that you did get the job and think about all the things or write down all the things that you will be able to do. I hope this helps because I'm not always sure what to say. Be well and take care.

 

[Baskol1]

Yesterday I had a job interview for a job that would be perfect for me. I have decades of relevant experience and way more qualifications than required, I've done more senior versions of this exact job and could do it in my sleep, and I really wanted this job. I've spent every spare moment preparing. And I think I blew the interview - I'm kind of cringing recalling some of my answers. The format caught me off guard a bit, I felt on the back foot and got nervous I guess. I could still get the job if I did just enough and am the best qualified applicant, but I'm not hopeful. They have another applicant later in the week, so no answer till the end of the week and I've just got to wait and it's agony.

I really wanted this job, it would be ideal and would get me out of the hellish minimum wage retail job I'm stuck in. These jobs very rarely come up, this could have been my only chance and I dropped the ball. I really want to recover but not getting this job is going to be pretty devastating and I don't know how I'll be able to push on and fix things going forward. Real struggle to be positive right now.

Did you get the job, or did you fail?

 

[LaBrava]

So, one of the things I've been told and I know it is very hard to do is to stay positive, so keep trying to do that the best you can. Sometimes what looks bad is good and what looks good is sometimes bad, another thing I've been told. With all that being said, you probably did better than you think. We are always our worst critic. Don't give up hope. Just keep putting out into your world thoughts that you did get the job and think about all the things or write down all the things that you will be able to do. I hope this helps because I'm not always sure what to say. Be well and take care.

Thanks so much for your reply. The support people provide to each other on here is such a great thing. I will try and stay positive and things could still work out but I'm also trying to brace myself for the worst so I can try and cope with it.

Did you get the job, or did you fail?

I don't know yet. They said that they won't know the result until the end of the week so I just have to wait.

 

[Beautifulletdown]

I know exactly how you feel about bracing yourself if the outcome isn't favorable because I'm the same way. I'm really rooting for you. Stay strong.

 

[LaBrava]

Thanks for your words, they're much appreciated.

 

[pole]

stay positive, isnt over till its over, and dont tell urself and get attached to the idea its a done deal and its over and you didnt get it. you got thiss, i believe.

 

[GinaIsReady]

I find that distractions are really helpful, particularly physical ones like taking mindful walks. It gets me out of my head and gives my mind a chance to rest. It helps me stay calmer and more confident and solid, overall.

I completely agree with, "Not everything that seems good is actually good, and not everything that seems bad is actually bad." Who knows. Best wishes to you.

 

[Dead beat dad]

Yesterday I had a job interview for a job that would be perfect for me. I have decades of relevant experience and way more qualifications than required, I've done more senior versions of this exact job and could do it in my sleep, and I really wanted this job. I've spent every spare moment preparing. And I think I blew the interview - I'm kind of cringing recalling some of my answers. The format caught me off guard a bit, I felt on the back foot and got nervous I guess. I could still get the job if I did just enough and am the best qualified applicant, but I'm not hopeful. They have another applicant later in the week, so no answer till the end of the week and I've just got to wait and it's agony.

I really wanted this job, it would be ideal and would get me out of the hellish minimum wage retail job I'm stuck in. These jobs very rarely come up, this could have been my only chance and I dropped the ball. I really want to recover but not getting this job is going to be pretty devastating and I don't know how I'll be able to push on and fix things going forward. Real struggle to be positive right now.

Hey friend, well done for getting to the interview and having the conviction to put yourself out there.
Maybe this is your time, maybe not, but look at all the positive things you wrote about in your post. You sound very capable. Whether that is realised by this interviewer is another matter, but look at how this has got you talking about yourself. I understand you're struggling in the self doubt now, but you have shown that positivity here, let's hope it is realised by the employer.
Good luck friend
DBD

 

[dandan]

Why aren't there more jobs like that? Meanwhile the week is over couldn't you search for similar job positions anywhere in the country? Best wishes , you sound like you know that stuff, hoping for the best.

 

[LaBrava]

Update is that I didn't get the job. Hasn't really sunk in but I guess I'll feel pretty bummed out, but I kind of knew in my gut that it hadn't gone the way I hoped. It'll give me some ideas for how to prepare if another job ever comes up, I made some mistakes. And I guess I need to think about how to go forward from here. It's a shame, this job would have really improved my life.

 

[Beautifulletdown]

Update is that I didn't get the job. Hasn't really sunk in but I guess I'll feel pretty bummed out, but I kind of knew in my gut that it hadn't gone the way I hoped. It'll give me some ideas for how to prepare if another job ever comes up, I made some mistakes. And I guess I need to think about how to go forward from here. It's a shame, this job would have really improved my life.

I'm sorry you didnt get it. I know there is something that's perfect for you out there. Don't give up. Trust me, I know how it feels. Be well.

 

[GinaIsReady]

Update is that I didn't get the job. Hasn't really sunk in but I guess I'll feel pretty bummed out, but I kind of knew in my gut that it hadn't gone the way I hoped. It'll give me some ideas for how to prepare if another job ever comes up, I made some mistakes. And I guess I need to think about how to go forward from here. It's a shame, this job would have really improved my life.

Good for you for being open to learning from the experience and not letting it get you!! You'll find something even better.

 

[JoeFailure]

Update is that I didn't get the job. Hasn't really sunk in but I guess I'll feel pretty bummed out, but I kind of knew in my gut that it hadn't gone the way I hoped. It'll give me some ideas for how to prepare if another job ever comes up, I made some mistakes. And I guess I need to think about how to go forward from here. It's a shame, this job would have really improved my life.

I hear you. I feel like a good job is a path to at least some kind of half-decent life. It's just really hard to get that. You're doing awesome by trying though, that's all you can do.

 

[justanotherday]

Update is that I didn't get the job. Hasn't really sunk in but I guess I'll feel pretty bummed out, but I kind of knew in my gut that it hadn't gone the way I hoped. It'll give me some ideas for how to prepare if another job ever comes up, I made some mistakes. And I guess I need to think about how to go forward from here. It's a shame, this job would have really improved my life.

I can relate.... I didn't get a job I was qualified for either. I am thinking it is just one more thing to go wrong in my life and make me want to leave the planet. I am stuck in a low paying job right now. I work hard, but it is a dead end.

 

[woxihuanni]

I do hope you get the job after all! Even if not, please be gentle with yourself.

Don't know if this might help, but I have an example of a thing that looked bad and was good. Messed up my interview for the thing that would save my life, and hated myself so much for it that I fell very ill. But then something much, much better came along which I could not have imagined at the time. It can happen...