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Suicide_vampire

Suicide_vampire

In Vino Veritas
Feb 11, 2020
426
Hey all, I'd love to get your thoughts. I'm constantly lonely and socially isolated and I guess I'd love to have a relationship.
The problem is I think I have undiagnosed bpd which is a cross to bare, and has probably been the issue in previous relationships. I have also been left with major trust issues.
I really don't know where to turn or what to do, anyone else have this sort of issue.
 
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Kikoo Loool

Kikoo Loool

Enlightened
Feb 25, 2019
1,128
I have suffered a terrible betrayal and found here my bestie to support me :hug:
 
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SuicideBoys93

SuicideBoys93

I am the lord of loneliness.
Feb 10, 2020
324
My own suffering has taken a serious hit on my marriage. After many failed attempts of trying to express my thoughts I went back to the drawing board. Past few days we've both been on autopilot, and noticed she was headed to bed. Well I didn't want to let her go before trying what I thought up to steer us in a better direction. First, and foremost I listened. I'm very charismatic, and know how to talk my way in circles all over people. I just shut up, and listened. After she finished I told her let's pick a few things that we both can work on during the day. Basically little wins during your day that'll leave a positive influence on the other person's day. So far so good. My wife wanted me to make her breakfast, and I did before she left for work. I got her lunch, and ate lunch with her. My patience runs thin so I've been good to not really be snappy at her. It's not severe, but it's enough to where I can see it get annoying. For me I wanted to have better line of communication between us. Her indecisiveness, I hate being told I don't know when it comes to daily life things. Example, what do you want to eat? I don't know drives me up the wall. It'll turn into me picking, and she's mad at what I picked.. The whole setting small reasonable goals throughout the day has been going great so far, and our day has been really good IMO. My advice would be to come up with a plan on how you'll achieve getting into a relationship. Don't be afraid of rejection. I've been rejected on multiple occasions. You'll miss 100% of the shots you never take. Life is short, ask that girl or guy out! Now I have a wife that I'm pretty sure is out of my league, but I got her because I went after her. When you get that person, never stop chasing them. Not for one second, NEVER STOP CHASING THEM. Moral of the story relationships are learning experiences. You live, and you learn. Don't let something small as trust issues prevent from having that connection in life. When they say there's someone for everyone, that's true.
 
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Marktheghost

Marktheghost

Paragon
Feb 20, 2020
911
Yes, I have this sort of issue. No idea what the answer is though! Most people I try to make friends with decide they don't like me without even making the effort to get to know me first!
 
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BPD Barbie

BPD Barbie

Visionary
Dec 1, 2019
2,361
They are painful for me to have and detrimental to my wellbeing. But I still have them, becuase it's human nature.
 
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MoreThanAFeeling

Specialist
Feb 23, 2020
392
They are painful for me to have and detrimental to my wellbeing. But I still have them, becuase it's human nature.
I agree. I am better of alone (or dead) but human needs (like SI) are stronger than me :(
 
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BFishy

Student
Dec 25, 2019
180
Ugh. So many feelings and my depression has given me the brain capacity of a umm I don't know, flea?
I so want to be back in a relationship and feel love and love someone and feel worth something. I am also so numb that I feel nothing nut sad and self hate and that other than my daughter things would be better for me to no longer exist. I feel like I am getting mentally worse. Last night I had flip flop emotions. I felt my mood sinking, then wanted to die and then 20-30 minutes like nothing even happened. That's never been me. I tend to hold pain or anger for days if not weeks.
 
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StillWaiting

StillWaiting

Need cats to comfort me
Jul 28, 2018
550
It depends how much effort you can put into maintaining one.
For me , I am too broken and tired to maintain one
 
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enjoy

enjoy

Creature
Dec 20, 2019
337
i suffer from abandonment and rejection issues. it's hard to make friends and even harder to pursue a romantic relationship. the majority of my trauma is from my ex leaving me. i also struggle with treating others well because my parents never treated me well. i've been working really hard on it.

i have a pretty decent group of friends, so i guess i'm doing an okay job. i'm just having a really hard time getting back into dating.
 
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BPD Barbie

BPD Barbie

Visionary
Dec 1, 2019
2,361
I agree. I am better of alone (or dead) but human needs (like SI) are stronger than me :(
Well, you're not totally alone. You have us ❤️
 
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