Venting SaSu has lost its magic for me :'(

[zengiraffe]

I use to come to SaSu almost every day. I found it very therapeutic to read about the feelings and experiences of other people who are seriously thinking of CTBing like myself. However, after a while I noticed the same discussions kept happening over and over, the same questions kept getting asked over and over, the same answers kept getting given over and over, and so on. Every thread I read began to feel like a repeat of a repeat of a repeat. There's nothing new left, and there hasn't been for months, or years even. It's sad. I use to come here to be comforted and now coming here just makes me feel bored and tired. I feel like I lost a close friend. There's no other place like SaSu on the internet so I don't know where else to go.

 

[locked*n*loaded]

It's always been a lot of the same questions, especially from new members who lack search function capability. Why not help people out with their inquiries? Not sure what you're looking for, but I hope you find it wherever you go. Peace on your journey.

 

[ForeverCaHa]

I feel like it's the nature of this kind of forum for there to be a lot of repeat questions (especially when the search function is blocked to new users). I mean, we're all here for a very specific reason, so the info we want is essentially the same.

You could always start some new threads if you want to change the direction of the forum. Plenty of active users here who would take part, I'm sure.

 

[platypus77]

What you described to me is not only SaSu, it's just life itself. But as others said, you can help creating movement.

 

[MercenariesofMidgar]

I can understand that... I've stopped viewing threads pretty much and just stay on chat. Feels more personal

 

[Namelesa]

I do somewhat agree with this tho I feel like this applies to everything in life. Everything to me becomes boring and repetitive eventually. Tho I feel like I get purpose out of this site as my posts can give info and/or comfort to other members. Also new ideas for threads will still appear sometimes so there is excitement there and I like the feeling of actually belonging and being valued somewhere which I feel greatly here.

 

[Lyn]

I guess that's just how it goes with pretty much anything in life.
I mean, we spend enough time with it and eventually the novelty just fades off. Same patterns, same conversations, same feelings... after all, there's only so much that can be said when everything revolves around the same topics.
Maybe that's why it feels different now.

But even so, there might be other layers that stay the same no matter what.
It's like in a relationship when the emotional high fades but you start to notice the deeper aspects, the real things (not the novelty of it all) that truly bring you comfort, if it's something you're looking for.

Or you don't. If it's not your "thing" anymore. That happens too I guess.

 

[wiggy]

The site is, by its very definition, a rotating door. The fact that the same frequent questions are asked over and over is a feature, not a bug.

 

[davidtorez]

Seeing that there's only so many ways people can suffer i.e physically , mentally and financially, its expected to see the same things getting asked especially by new members. But as others have said, life in general is the same boring shit everyday, why would this forum be any different

 

[Halfhourdays]

Yeah, SS has me going around in circles. Reminds me of these media:


Every Day Is Exactly The Same
Nine Inch Nails
I believe I can see the future
'Cause I repeat the same routine
I think I used to have a purpose
Then again, that might have been a dream

I think I used to have a voice
Now I never make a sound
I just do what I've been told
I really don't want them to come around, oh no

Every day is exactly the same
Every day is exactly the same
There is no love here and there is no pain
Every day is exactly the same

I can feel their eyes are watching
In case I lose myself again
Sometimes, I think I'm happy here
Sometimes, yet I still pretend

I can't remember how this got started
But I can tell you exactly how it will end

Every day is exactly the same
Every day is exactly the same
There is no love here and there is no pain
Every day is exactly the same

I'm writing on a little piece of paper
I'm hoping someday you might find
Well, I'll hide it behind something
They won't look behind

I'm still inside here
A little bit comes bleeding through
I wish this could've been any other way
But I just don't know, I don't know what else I can do

Every day is exactly the same
Every day is exactly the same
There is no love here and there is no pain
Every day is exactly the same
Every day is exactly the same

Every day is exactly the same
There is no love here and there is no pain
Every day is exactly the same (every day is the same)

 

[Fall_Apart]

I use to come to SaSu almost every day. I found it very therapeutic to read about the feelings and experiences of other people who are seriously thinking of CTBing like myself. However, after a while I noticed the same discussions kept happening over and over, the same questions kept getting asked over and over, the same answers kept getting given over and over, and so on. Every thread I read began to feel like a repeat of a repeat of a repeat. There's nothing new left, and there hasn't been for months, or years even. It's sad. I use to come here to be comforted and now coming here just makes me feel bored and tired. I feel like I lost a close friend. There's no other place like SaSu on the internet so I don't know where else to go.

Sorry but I disagree. Sasu is not a show to watch for entertainment and I don't think that the repetition of the same questions is an element that should drive users away. The purpose of Sasu is to share similar experiences that are all united by the same pain. When you actively participate in other people's discussions, you are not only helping yourself, but you are probably temporarily alleviating the pain of someone else who is suffering like everyone else before him. This is not a personal criticism against you, but just my point of view.

 

[StrugglingSienna]

Is there supposed to be a "magic" to it? I think the magic here is we can seriously discuss the fact that we want to end our lives here without immediately getting locked away in a psych ward or being told that our life must be worth living no matter what.

But ultimately, the reasons that we want to end our lives tend to be pretty similar. I actually think it would be quite a bit more sad if I clicked on a random thread, read someone's story, and thought, "Wow, I had never even imagined someone could suffer in such a terribly unique way." Instead I see the similarities in all our stories, and yes, from an entertainment point of view it's a bit trite, but a better perspective is that we're all human and we all suffer in the same human ways. That's what this site has shown to me.

 

[Aprilwithcake]

This is mostly bc the search is blocked for new members id guess

 

[fallingtopieces]

anhedonia can engulf anything, anywhere.

 

[Rose Mine]

Idk I've been on this site before and I left it once because I got annoyed with some users and then the other time was because I didn't need it and then one time was because someone on here found my city.

I think this website is meant to be a thing you use in moments but it can't be an all the time thing. It's meant to be stepped away from at some point for whatever reason in my opinion. It gets tiring from the users (no offense, I can be tiring too) and from how the website just works like the lack of search for new users so they need to ask the same questions.

There is no magic it really is just a website meant for someone's worst times so they have a place to talk or to gain methods/SN distributor.

* and an hour later I am deleting my account for the first reason again lmao. I definitely won't be back this time unless the SN distributor rn gets caught it's just too annoying for me I think. It's very nice for moments though :)

 

[tiredash]

sorry for not being entertaining

 

[grapevoid]

Maybe you can start some new conversations for us.

I haven't even been here that long and I already think that every time I see another OD post. But I never thought of the search function… so I guess it makes sense considering new members can search yet

 

[SVEN]

Not sure if you've had much of a look at the "Off Topic" thread. All human life is there ... even including death by Jelly Babies !

 

[AreWeWinning]

I use to come to SaSu almost every day. I found it very therapeutic to read about the feelings and experiences of other people who are seriously thinking of CTBing like myself. However, after a while I noticed the same discussions kept happening over and over, the same questions kept getting asked over and over, the same answers kept getting given over and over, and so on. Every thread I read began to feel like a repeat of a repeat of a repeat. There's nothing new left, and there hasn't been for months, or years even. It's sad. I use to come here to be comforted and now coming here just makes me feel bored and tired. I feel like I lost a close friend. There's no other place like SaSu on the internet so I don't know where else to go.

Well, what did you expect?

People (including myself) come here because of either:

• They feel like sh|t, feel depressed, tired of life, but don't really want to end it.
  • They just moan and moan, but don't have the guts to end it, so they keep on moaning about it. It gets boring after a while.
• They really, really want to end it, but can't get themselves to do it.
  • They ask for advice how to do it, how to overcome SI etc. But there is no solution, no answer to this. The answer is "You'll know when you're ready." Gets boring after a while... Same questions, same answers.
• People asking for methods over and over again, overcomplicating things, coming up with contrived ways and methods.
  • And they just keep doing that, not realising that the problem is not the method, but the fact that they just can't do it. Gets boring after a while.
• People who come here, look for resources, maybe chit-chat about feelings, ask for advice on certain things, but eventually do it.
  • This, I actually find useful. If someone posts a genuine Goodbye post, then I can look back their previous posts, and I can learn from it. I can learn what goes on in a person's mind who actually found their solution. (Assuming that is the solution I want.) This is not boring, but these kind of posts are rare, and obviously, anyone who posts such a thing has already left.
• People who come here and ask sensible, realistic questions about methods or anything, or provide sensible, realistic advice.
  • This is useful too. People just don't like to hear them.
• People who come here to seek help, and get help, and get better. Recovery, I guess?
  • I don't know about this, I'm not in this camp. But for those who are, this can be useful too, and not boring.

There are probably some other categories of posts too, I don't know. People who just come here to hang out. For those, it's just like any other forum or place on the internet, where people "hang out".

Sorry, if this all sounded negative. I'm not saying I don't like this place. Quite the opposite. We just have to manage our expectations.

 

[NonEssential]

Like a boring cycle of the same thing repeating over and over? That's basically everything in daily life.

 

[willitpass]

I'm sorry that people's suffering isn't unique and interesting enough for you.

This isn't instagram (although I will say that mainstream social media can be extremely repetitive itself). People aren't posting for entertainment. People are posting because life has lead them to such a state of agony that they've wandered their way over to a suicide website. Creating some new, juicy content isn't what people are thinking of before they post. I understand you are venting about your own anhedonia and loss of connection, but this phrasing comes off as extremely tone deaf.

 

[JesiBel]

I feel the same way. I don't know why users don't use the search bar before posting the same topics and discussions a thousand times throughout the week. Or at least they could look at the first two/three pages if they don't have access yet.

 

[사람이 없어]

There are probably some other categories of posts too, I don't know. People who just come here to hang out. For those, it's just like any other forum or place on the internet, where people "hang out".

Sorry, if this all sounded negative. I'm not saying I don't like this place. Quite the opposite. We just have to manage our expectations.

I come here for reasons above, but also because of boredom and because there's certain users I have interest in and the community here in general.
You can learn people here as opposed to reddit where unless you have people following you and your every post, you never get to learn whoever it is you're chatting with in threads, and if they're even human in the first place with all the bots now.
I really missed this feeling, but it's been hard to find any interesting forums online ngl.

I feel the same way. I don't know why users don't use the search bar before posting the same topics and discussions a thousand times throughout the week. Or at least they could look at the first two/three pages if they don't have access yet.

Human nature to never search. Reddit is a great example of that. Repeated questions/threads x 10000000 at this point, many questions even being verbatim someone else has already asked.