Discussion SaSu “unsent messages” (what is something you want to tell someone but aren’t able to?)

[encore]

i'm curious about things you guys would tell to a person in your life (or multiple people) but for whatever reason have no ability to do so. it could be any reason, being estranged, death, or maybe you and this person don't even know each other.

personally, i wish i could talk to my ex boyfriend again and tell him how much i still love him and miss him and how sorry i am for mistakes i made. but i can't say that because he won't listen to me.

i really like the idea behind the unsent project. where you simply put their name and something you wish this person could know. so if you feel like it, feel free to format it in a similar way: "to: (the person) (your message)"

 

[SecretDissociation]

I would tell my dead friend to come hangout with me that one day I didn't. I'd tell her that I really like you and that you are a great person and great friend. And also I wish I could rock short silky hair like her. and I wish I could have told her that I was transferring to her course and that she would get sick of me being with her all the time

 

[Gangrel]

I wish i could talk to Jack again, i miss you my scottish bro. I love you man. Whatever you are.

 

[derpyderpins]

There are a lot, lol. I 'lol' at myself because these days I want to spill my heart to everyone.

I like how I treat my friends and other people now. I don't mind being sappy and saying how much I care. I'm not self-concious in that regard or thinking it makes me weak. I used to, though, so I wish I could go back to a lot of friends and tell them that even though we don't talk anymore, they are an important piece of who I eventually grew into being and I have nothing but love for them. Especially if we had arguments. I was a hot head for a while, for reasons I now understand better. It doesn't mean I was always at fault, but I'm sure I escalated things sometimes.

On the topic of ex's, I do wish I could ensure my long-term ex knows I wish her the best. I had to cut off contact because I didn't feel it was healthy for us, but I do hope she's happy as possible for her.

I had a friend die last year. I don't want to tell him anything in particular, I want to listen to him and hear him talk.

My grandfather, especially with the Master's having just happened: I want him to know I got married to that girl he met before he passed, and that she's incredible. That would be way more important to him than anything with my career or other silly stuff.

I would tell my dead friend to come hangout with me that one day I didn't. I'd tell her that I really like you and that you are a great person and great friend. And also I wish I could rock short silky hair like her. and I wish I could have told her that I was transferring to her course and that she would get sick of me being with her all the time

I'm so sorry you lost someone so good :(

 

[encore]

There are a lot, lol. I 'lol' at myself because these days I want to spill my heart to everyone.

I like how I treat my friends and other people now. I don't mind being sappy and saying how much I care. I'm not self-concious in that regard or thinking it makes me weak. I used to, though, so I wish I could go back to a lot of friends and tell them that even though we don't talk anymore, they are an important piece of who I eventually grew into being and I have nothing but love for them. Especially if we had arguments. I was a hot head for a while, for reasons I now understand better. It doesn't mean I was always at fault, but I'm sure I escalated things sometimes.

On the topic of ex's, I do wish I could ensure my long-term ex knows I wish her the best. I had to cut off contact because I didn't feel it was healthy for us, but I do hope she's happy as possible for her.

I had a friend die last year. I don't want to tell him anything in particular, I want to listen to him and hear him talk.

My grandfather, especially with the Master's having just happened: I want him to know I got married to that girl he met before he passed, and that she's incredible. That would be way more important to him than anything with my career or other silly stuff.


I'm so sorry you lost someone so good :(

the world needs more people like you. it's so important to show our sensitive side sometimes and not shy away from being emotional. i'm sure your friends feel lucky to have you in their lives!

 

[getoutgirl]

I would like to tell my friends that I still care deeply about them and their lives, and that the reason I don't respond to their texts and calls and don't show my face around for months is not that I've stopped caring. It's just that I've tried (painfully) to become as estranged as posible, to make them used to it, so that when I do disappear it won't hit as hard or, maybe, they will have forgotten about me by then. But I do care and I feel like shit for not being able to be there for them.

 

[ConfusedClouds]

I wish I could check in with some friends from past lives I have isolated/ghosted from. Check they're ok without having to disclose anything about me. I can't promise being around or helpful ever in the future so can't remake that contact. Hopefully after 2y they have mostly moved on now, but I get the occasional email 'where are you these days, be nice to catch up'. But I just can't. What spooked me to run was their overwhelming need to try and offer help (in the totally unhelpful 'talk to someone' 'somethings not right' OR offering their ears/time/space when they have full on jobs/kids/lives to juggle and I have no words and mumbling about non-issues I can't articulate).

Basically I'd love to know some of them are doing ok and wish I could support them but from a safe distance where I am not expected to be anywhere or do anything or sucked into overwhelming 'care'.

Ok that sounds so selfish and ridiculous trying to explain my logic/feelings. So up myself. Entitled.

 

[other-ghost]

There are things i wish i could tell my friends. How their constant care turned this short life of mine into something that mattered. I hope when they think of me, they see the girl who tried to be silly and supportive instead of someone distant that never tells them anything. I wished i could be honest with them.

And for her… (god, i swear she's on this site somewhere). I would REALLY like her to know I loved her—like, really loved her. Not as some joke to laugh off, not as something casual. I was just too scared to say it right. I hope she realizes she deserves real love, no matter what's going on in her life. And shit, i wished our life wasn't this messed up hahah. What a silly love life

 

[updog]

I don't have a serious answer like others. I would tell my friends that I'm furry (I know. Hard to tell with my pfp), but they would probably make fun of me

 

[lamy's sacred sleep]

to sfx
you were my reason to live for 2 years. Thank you. You've been nothing but kind the whole time we've known eachother.